but I think it is unfortunate that you take a swipe at people afflicted with bi-polar.  It indicates a lack of knowledge about this condition.  The issues you raise have nothing to do with it.  Most of what you indicate is narcisism, a much different condition altogether.

That said, I agree that websites that are friendly in tone, have nice photos availiable and are easy on the eyes and easy to use will always get my interest up.  (among other things)

Now that I have a professional one with more of me in the decorations the same lady shows through. It's hard to know what one person's likes are to anothers. If pictures show to much it can be a turn off to some while a cattle call for others. Finding a good mix that will appeal to those you want to entise isn't as easy as you think.

I use my blog as a good way to let people get to know me. It's not a daily log and as yet no new things have been added but my blog get's plenty of attention. Don't just take my word for it check out my "Garden of lust" on my website to see for yourself.

I hope my reviews, posts on TER and now my new website give a lively look at my personality.

Kisses Haley

I know most providers (as I was advised) will put some of their face or more graphic pics password protected so that our pics aren't out for EVERYONE to see without my knowing WHO has seen them...Plain and simple..

I'd love to hear what you all think about my site...I thought it would be relevant since I've been working on it forever, have done all of the work myself(including all of the text) and have been asking the opinions about my site of clients who contact me to set up an appointment.

Don't hang me out to dry, though, please....

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Everybody looks for different things of course.

A provider's website, if she is smart, is part of her screening. I can tell whether or not I'm her "type" of hobbyist by looking, and whether or not she's my "type" of provider.

So when I look at a website and say to myself "No way on earth am I seeing THAT lady!" I assume that I am having the precise reaction she intended.

So, say a lady uses terrible grammar and atrocious spelling while writing the entire site in a run-on sentence. Certainly, I won't likely be seeing her, but that's her intention. She doesn't want to see guys for whom that sort of stuff matters. If she did, she would give a college student $100 to proof read her site.

Some ladies establish themselves as low volume through charging really high rates. But that isn't the only way to achieve low volume -- it can also be done by putting together a website in such a way that most guys who look at it say "no way!"

Sure, the negative things you mentioned are out there and easy to find, like blatant pretentiousness...in abundance. Ditto on the password protected photos and the unwelcomed surprise of music booming through your speakers without warning.

I also love those preachy FAQ pages where some holier-than-thou chick displays her bitterness towards a few clueless jerk-offs but directs it broadly at everyone who dares to click. Yeah, we get it, you have to deal with losers sometimes. Me too, what's your point? Deal with it privately.  

But frankly, I haven't seen many sites that give much insight into personality. What I get from reading bios is a big yaaaaaaawwwwwn. I can count on one hand the number of bios I haven't clicked away from after one boringly redundant paragraph.

It's all so stat-quo. There's a one-size-fits all cookie cutter method to it that's so monotonous one might as well be a cut and paste from the previous one you saw.

"I'm classy, I'm fun, I'm smart and won't look like a dumb bimbo if you take me out in public, I have a colij edumacashun, I'm down to earth, I take my time, I like men who take showers and don't rob me, oh yes, I'm sexy, and did I already say fun? Classy? Smart? Blah blah blah."

Maybe these things are true about whichever one out of the zillion providers who say the same shit you happen to be viewing. Maybe not. But it's subjective, and reading that pile of redundancy does nothing to give me any insight into her personality. It does help with insomnia, however.

That doesn't mean that they don't have a personality, but I think very few possess the writing skills to make their personality shine through with literary media. Overall, 90% lack any originality, innovation, or flare what-so-ever, and fail miserably at conveying the  uniqueness of the individual.

What I like are websites with blogs...blogs that are actually updated more than once a year I might ad...then you can start to get a sense for the person to a limited degree. But even then, they are keenly aware of who's reading and still often take a politicians approach of evasiveness - you'll never get the WHOLE story...god forbid they say something unpopular.    

that when you want something, you want it right then. However, that old saying "patience is a virtue" rings true for some situations.

That being said, I password my pics because I don't travel and would like to know who is viewing my pics since I know plenty of people in the area. Not all of them are passworded, but I feel it is a privacy and safety concern.

I am sure several ladies use passwords for the same reason. I am not conceited or arrogant as the one provider you mentioned...it just gives me a little more comfort to know who is viewing me.