Well, I did an OTC dinner with a hooker. Before we went I made it perfectly clear that I like after dinner blow jobs. She said Ok. I got my after dinner blowjob and did not pay extra.

I paid for the dinner but not for the extra time

Sex, dinner and a free blowjob afterwards is not that bad of a deal. She knows I'm married so I don't think she has any designs on me. I'm just wondering if this is the new trend in mongering. I have no previous experience doing this and am not sure I will do it again.

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Fantasyland is open all year long..

The way I see it, I am paid for time and companionship.  I regularly have paid dates where nothing physical happens beyond a sweet kiss or a warm embrace as we part company. So the idea that I would hang out with a client for free and then still go on to satisfy their sexual needs? Not going to happen.  

As it is, I very rarely stay past the agreed upon appointment time without compensation (the exception being on multi-hour dates where I might stay a little longer).  I cannot imagine a situation where I would agree to have an entire date with a client FOR FREE. This is my job, not my hobby.  I love what I do, but I never forget that distinction.

And beyond the financial concerns when it comes to OTC time, I would never intentionally blur the line between a personal and professional relationship, no matter how much I genuinely like the men I see.  I've had clients who paid for literally every minute we spent together and STILL confessed that they thought we had a romantic relationship blossoming between us.  Special treatment, which is really all OTC time is, would only have made it harder for me to convince them that we didn't.  

I have no problem keeping Ava St. Claire separate from who I am IRL, and that separation is exactly why I'm able to do this job as well as I do.  Can't believe I'm saying this, but I'm with you, OldTime... OTC just isn't for me.

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One is when a p4p date is extended at the choice of the provider, for no additional charge. Could be just a few minutes, could be much longer. Since its already a date, whatever happens between two consenting adults, happens.  

The other kind is when provider and a client agree to meet outside a p4p date. Then it's all about what's agreed and understood will happen by both people. If both agree there'll be sex, fine.  

Personally I keep professional and personal interactions with providers totally separate. Otherwise I think lines are blurred. So any OTC time outside a date is non-sexual. Like meeting for coffee or breakfast or lunch, just to chew the fat, or helping the other person in some way.

Does any one else smell the bullshit emanating from this OP?

I am sure he is such a catch that hookers are lining up around the block to do OTC dinners with him, complete with after dinner blow jobs. Damn, it's getting deep around here.

the girl starts getting.... clingy?  

it's best to keep it professional. Keeps both parties on their toes. just my 2 cents.

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I should have made it clear that I paid her for sex before the OTC time. I'm not sure I'd do it again. I think the business has become so competitive that the girls are doing this as some kind of a perk. Still, you are right. Doing something unprofessional can lead to problems.