I am married and only goto MPs and only do CBJ. I've been hobbying for 20 years and only married for 2. Before marriage I typically always did FS.  

I likewise started off with MPs, but as time wore on, the meme was not into sex any longer and I decided to seek more interesting sex including FS.

You cannot rationalize it, just face it, we're all low life cheating scums.  Deal with it, I've been married a long time and cheating all those years, becuz I like doing it.  There is no such thing as only cheating a little bit.

Listen only you can answer all these questions and I'm sure every man has been right where you are. Inventory is this, are you resentful to your self or your wife in the process of having outside marital affairs? Does it cause or do you judge or disrespect your wife in anyway because you see others? If not and it keeps you happy and health along with never ever tell her please"! You are clear of personal violation .  
She will never ever see it that way so please contenue to be safe and only use us one and a wile. Be well. Hugs be extera giving to your wife .

My wife cut off all sex before I started mongering, and unlike you I was not hobbying during the decades that we diddled even when the diddling was tepid. There's plenty of other relevant facts of which you are not aware.

...is this...

but after many years of once a year...  it stopped altogether.  Eventually I realized I had a choice.  I decided that I would not be celibate.  
To put this in perspective:  I had many friends who were always checking out women...  even if they had a hot GF or wife.  If I was in a relationship...  GFs & first wife...  I never even looked at another woman.  Not even when I caught my ex cheating.    
I'm not happy that this is what I must do...  but this is my choice.

Personally, if you're married and no longer having sex with your spouse, and you step outside of marriage to have sex, I don't consider that cheating. I'm sure you getting escorts helps keep your marriage together.  

providers where you pay them to leave after an hour or two is much better than having an affair with the babysitter or gold digger woman you met at a bar, grocery store, etc.

went from several times a month to getting cut back to nearly seasonally at home and getting attitude when talking about it. Really didnt start getting into this till this year and its helped open my eyes to how much Id rather be alone than married(I have many reasons for this before I even messed with this hobby).

for what i was doing and did to my wife, when she found out it almost destroyed her AND us, NOTHING was worth the pain i caused her, the thought of losing her almost destroyed ME..........all  i can say is that i am one lucky man that she chose to forgive me and now we hobby together, little did i know that she liked girls too............be sure that what you are doing is worth losing what you have at home, to me it wasnt, i wish it had never happened and i could take it back, even though i am happy where we are, i never again want to see so much pain and hate in my wifes eyes.    good luck.

1.) If you're happily married, ask yourself why would you still be seeing providers, even only for the limited service you receive?  
2.) If it would hurt you to find out she was likewise cheating, how do you think it would make her feel if she found about your extracurricular activity?  

Don't worry about it.. it's the way we are wired.. live with it..

I'll answer these....

...and once we realize it and sat "fuck you' to social norms and expectations - that's when we are are truly free.

As long as you can live with your decisions and you're not neglecting your partner, then it's not the biggest deal in the world - if spouses feel sexually satisfied, then a marriage can thrive. But since you're a long time monger and have only been married for two years, you do deserve a slap on the wrist for not bringing this up before committing, even if it was to agree on a general "don't ask, don't tell" policy. You were not some idealistic young kid when entering into this union, so don't come crying here if this all blows up in your face. Good luck!

Thanks lopaw...couldn't have said it better...

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If my SO knew, would she be ok with it?

My wife can't have sex for health reasons.  I went years without sex because of it.  Never cheated once leading up to my hobbying decision.  Eventually I decided that the marriage would be better if I wasn't continually staring down the prospect of never having sex again.  Post-decision I have no regrets.  

As you're well aware, a lot of these instances have to be viewed on a nuanced case-by-case basis. Sounds like that guy in your example jerked you around. The OP is also jerking his wife around as he's not one of these long suffering husbands who come here desperate for some intimacy. I imagine that he was mongering throughout their entire courtship and it's shitty that he chose to maintain his double life when committing to his wife.  

Its funny-I've been in the hobby for 7 years and my participation has nothing to do with the quality or importance of my marriage.  I have been married 40 years, we still have good sex regularly and she is my best friend.  But, as I became older, I wanted to feel that feeling once again and do something just for myself for a change.  Kind of selfish, but my entire life I have been looked on as the provider for others.  This hobby has allowed me to meet some fantastic women, 1 or 2 of which have become my secret buddies.  I have looked at it as having a personal trainer, only that trainer is just working on my mind and my private parts.  As long as I keep it in perspective, have fun and keep it discreet, it hurts nobody.  And it makes me much happier and more productive the rest of the time.