old enough to remember the singles bars of the 80's that followed the free-love hippy period of the 70's.  To find women, you have to go where they are.  I'm a few years older than you and while there is no way to hide the years in my face, I have found that if you keep your body fit, muscular and healthy, you can still perform as well as you did in your 30's and 40's.  Because I'm a gym rat I have done my most successful hunting at the gym.  There are a lot of women in their 30's to mid-40's, pre-menopausal, either recently divorced or with a fat husband who are trying to improve their appearance and are open to new sexual partners.  I'm not looking for something permanent because I know once they find a guy to be monogamous with, they will get chubby again, but I'm happy to enjoy the journey with them while they are looking.  If you still have the game in you from when you were younger, there are plenty of woman to bed if you would rather not pay for a professional.

As long as you are clean , respectful and paying, you should not have any problems in P4P world .

If it was about your looks, which TBH I would not assume, it's likely an outlier. If an escort wants to make good money, being selective about looks isn't going to work out well. While there are some good looking guys who hobby, being exclusive to them would make this a tough career. Good looking guys tend to have different reasons they see provider, like it's easier, more convenient, they're stepping out in a relationship, they're socially awkward, and/or they want younger tail. But if they are single, willing to mingle, and fine with a lady closer to their age, they shouldn't have a challenge. Whereas if you're not that good looking, it's more difficult without paying regardless. But if you put money on the table, as long as you're clean, respectful, and safe, you should not have much of a problem.

Personal Hygiene is essential.

If your paying and are clean + respectful their should not be any issues. I verify with real ID. I don't understand the FaceTime verification unless she's just going on looks. Criminal background checks are what's important to me personally.

"Looks & Right To Refuse"

As  a  Provider/Business,  one  has  the  right
to  "refuse  service".

 
It's  unfortunate  some  choose  to  decline  
Clients  based  on  a  person's  physicality,
Race  or  Religion;

Caveats:  Charles  Manson  &  
John  Wayne  Gacy  doppelgangers  are  
a  hard-pass 🚫   so  please  don't  apply! 🫣

 
Disregard  those  whom  request  "Facetime"
"Reference/Screening".

Seek  Providers  requiring  standard  
"Screening"  which  is  a  safety-factor  for
both  Provider  &  Client.

 
Verification,  respect,  kindness  and  a  little
effort  in  one's  personal  hygiene;
A.K.A.  a  meticulously  sanitized  Client  goes  
a  long  way  in  any  rendezvous!

Xo Angelina Jones 💋

As they say, one observation doesn't make a trend. You might just take her at her word rather than making up any scenarios in your mind about what she was thinking. Looks? Maybe. Personality? Maybe. Actually could not verify you somehow? Maybe. Has better options she prefers? Maybe.

 
I understand you have said KC isn't a great location for finding a lot of great options you like and that might be what it is. But just move on and not not sweat the small stuff there of one provider saying no. I hear a lot of guys saying "X is what happened." even when they cannot know or sometimes were not even one of the people involved. To me that seems a waste of time. You know she is not an option. Worrying too much about that just gets people no where.  

 
For what it's worth, while you see some of the same as you do in the US about girls going for the hot guys wandering around in a number of Asian countries I have see a lot of very attractive women of all ages that are with very average looking to even unattractive guys and it's clear these are real life relationships not P4P. I would not worry too much about your looks (and I suspect most of us see ourselves through more critical eyes than others do).

Over the years I have had success with Adult Friend Finder------you can hook up with women of all ages, sizes, race, etc....and often with no fee expected, asked for, or exchanged...maybe buy lunch....but  lot of gals on there are looking for what you are looking for----I have met several over the years that entertained at their home...and nice homes in upscale neighborhoods----found one---who has now moved away----that was in My Neighborhood!  You have to explore and engage in conversation on line an in person of course....the first couple of times I was concerned that it was some sort of set up----believe it----there are women who are looking for sexual experiences who are married and have nice homes, etc....you have to search for them----!!

Are the least of my worries.  

Schweaty balls during this heat wave though.