"real lives". If you do, why?  
I'm a single 50 something year old who isn't looking to live with another person. But, I really enjoy really good sex and this has been an incredible part of my life. I have other parts of my life that don't coincide with this, but that doesn't make either of them less real.  
Just interested in the reasoning.

and must keep this one hidden from the other.  Then there are a few of us who aren't hiding anything and live comfortably in all versions of "reality." I don't look down on the others.  I just prefer it this way.

I guess we call it the GFE because there is the illusion she is your GF for the time she is on the clock, and then she leaves and you go back to your "real" life without her. I guess the fact that you don't even know her real name plays into it as well.

but I, like many, wish that the two were inverted.  

... there's a something surreal about a gorgeous, sexy woman who might be as much as 25 years my junior treating me for the time we're together as if I'm the hottest guy on the planet.    The good ones do that, anyway.  

it's just surreal..

Some of us at least most certainly have real names, and I know the real names of a handful of mongers and dozens of hookers. It's just not that big a deal to many of us.

The Senator is the real me... (as this young lady can attest)... the guy I play to earn a living is fake.

Hobbying than we do in our "other" life.

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Most of us guys here are fat, bald, ugly, old, or all of the above. These escorts wouldn't give us a first look outside their incall. And yet, the last time this absolutely gorgeous escort wrote me, she started the email, "Hey handsome." I couldn't get to the atm fast enough. So, yes, real things happen in this fantasy world. But rest assured, this is totally different than the real world.

40 yo milfy civvie girls, my preference is 39-40 yo that look like they're in their 20's.  Nevertheless, I have had more than my share of girls I was seeing morph into a real life relationship. I'm old, but not fat, bald or ugly, and I'm more athletically fit than most 35 yo, so perhaps that makes a difference. As you pointed out, just being old will usually prevent you from getting the attention of a hot young civvie girl, but providers spend most of their working time with older men, and the younger guys they see are often the nerdy types with no social skills. I think this is why many providers are open to an outside real life relationship with an older guy.

The majority of society has  their "moral" bullshit about it.

I still call non hookers "civvie girls" when posting here, along with a lot of other "hobby terms" I only draw the line at a few different terms used here.

Even if I was single I would not want anybody to know. Do you have any idea how pathetic most people consider the men in this hobby? Does your area have a bunch of hard core feminists? I don't have to worry about a "career" anymore but I doubt my business associates and their wives would be patting me on the back for doing this.

From Quora

I'm single.  My ex knows what I do and loves to hear my stories.  My sons know.  They don't judge me.  My friends know and so do their wives.  My friends envy me. I don't walk around with a "Whoremonger" sign on me but I don't hide it either. I'm one happy fucker.  You don't sound like one.  A shame.
As for Spitzer, you got that wrong, too. The reason Spitzer was (and is) pathetic is because he's a hypocrite. He made part of his reputation for going after prostitutes and johns while he was seeing hookers.  Now that's low.
At least your last line is right. But it doesn't apply to the people I know.  Or me.
You might try not giving a fuck.  It's very liberating.

That one really pisses me off.

Personally while I know how "most" people feel about whores and whore mongers, I have been around both since childhood and even though I now deal mainly in "polite society" I really don't give a fuck what people think.

Contrary to popular belief the gays do not "run" San Francisco. They have convinced the public that they were born that way and it's not something they can change. Some  ( not necessarily the majority ) of the public has accepted that.

It must be a big burden to walk around living with so much shame and guilt in your mind.  
I wouldn't do something that gave me so much mental anguish.  
I will never say that I haven't done shameful things. Staying in a marriage that I didn't want to be in was shameful to my conscience. Wasn't fair to either of us.  
But, there is nothing shameful about p4p between consenting adults. No matter what the childlike theists in this world believe.

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You are a great example of how far gone some guys are. A wife is a best friend, a partner and the mother of your children. Sex is just a small (easily replaceable ) part of a relationship. Just because some marriages end up "sexless" does not mean that the spouses are unhappy or fighting all the time.  

Why the fuck do you do this? Like I wanna hate you cuz your kind of a douche, but then you say decent human being things, an then I don't wanna hate you anymore ಠ_ಠ  

It's the most honest way to get laid. I agree to pay the donation and she agrees to show me a good time. Simple fun.  I'm not there to pretend she is a girlfriend. LOL. I enjoy meeting cool chicks who put the S in sexy that make me feel good for a little while. What's fake about that? I don't care if she O's. It's all in good fun and about my experience so I appreciate their efforts when they make me feel like I'm rocking their world...but I don't think it's because she's feeling an emotional connection with me. It's simply a very willing partner who wants to make my experience better. I love those kinds of girls!

No, it's actually the majority. I mean that's a material fact.

I stand corrected. Based on a Gallup poll it appears that as of 2012 a simple majority of Americans support gay marriage. The opposition is still very vocal in more conservative religious parts of the country.

Didn't say other guy's wives are not good to be with for them. Some are and some aren't. Wasn't even saying anything about sex in the relationship.  You are painting with that broad brush again.  
I just won't do anything that I'm ashamed of. You clearly will.  
And I'm not judging you to be wrong or right for your situation.

...which is part of the "real world." I keep some of those sides private, just as some sides of my life are public. Sometimes there is crossover, sometimes they are separate. They are all part of me and my life -- I'm just choosy about other people getting to see all of me. Trust gains access.

In the real world most Gals I've been with take  17 minutes minimum  to O, often much longer, some  have loud O's, others have minimally discernible O's,  a few  have silent  O's .
  More than a few  of my GF's claimed they never had an O.  With most of those  I tried to be her hero and failed.  
 
   My favorite GF gone of all time, lived with me for years, continually expressing her love for sex by action, yet never having an Orgasm.  She loved kink.
  We had sex on my car hood, sex in elevators, sex at the Beach, sex in the woods, sex everywhere.  
 If I was horny at 4 am while she was asleep it only took a touch for her to reciprocate with sex.
  She said she had never had an orgasm even when she tried on her own.
  I asked her why she liked sex so much if she never had an orgasm. She said she loved the feelings she has with  sex, she didn't know what an O felt like so she didn't miss them.  
 
   
   One day I bought  a vibrating dong for her, that night I put my gift  to work while DATY, after  twenty minutes she had an O.  
   I was her O hero for awhile.  
   We parted ways a few  years later.

gives hobbyists the "easily replaceable" sex that we need. Whether it be an hour or more, we are enjoying each other's company and when the time is up, she leaves NSA. This is way more practical and safe than sneaking around in an affair.  

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When I was stationed overseas way back when, we referred  to CONUS as The "real world" or just "The world" for short. It is really an inane concept but we perpetuated the saying.
My first p4p was the night I graduated from Basic.We were not in search of any action just out to have fun but there are some women that live around military bases that can smell a fresh,green, GI with a pocket of cash from a mile away. Anyway, Since then a very high percentage of my sexual encounters have been p4p. These days it is 100%. I am not looking to be in an intimate relationship(girlfriend,wife). Even with my past girlfriends my sex life was private. I have never uttered sexual details about my exes, even to my closest friends.My privacy protocol remains the same. For most of the people that know me,it would not be a surprise if they caught wind of the women I see in my adventures. I'm sure some of them already suspect-I'm single,no kids,not dating,and have a few stamps in the passport{not a s*x tourist}.There is no other world-This is my whole reality.. I'm cool with it and less concerned with the goody-goody,moral,or religious clones living in their counterfeit world.

My last "age appropriate" GF from over a decade ago could "get herself off" in just a couple of minutes by getting on top and riding me. It was great for those days that we all have in an LTR when we just "aren't in the mood" but our SO is.  

Of course you are judging.  I am not ashamed of what I'm doing but certainly not proud. Most sexworkers I've talked to over the years have said the same thing.

but I will happily sign such a document, petition, web page or whatever that demands the legalization/decriminalization of this activity and sign it with my REAL name.

I juggle many lives and Lily's is the fun one...in my real lives I have moods and bad hair days ,I have work deadlines and problems,that's real life but in the magic kingdom of being Lily it is all play and no drama,that's why I call it funlife and the real life is ,well,called real...