Over the years I’ve seen several providers with spouses or SOs, including my long-time ATF and some other favs. It wasn’t a problem for their spouses/SOs so it wasn’t a problem for me, and it didn’t detract from my enjoyment.

I’m not marrying them.  “It’s just sex, people.”

Is that really how you feel about what you do for a living? and do you really need a man to make you stop?

 
I might suggest you take a long hard look at your career choice, if this is REALLY the way you feel about selling sex for a living, maybe you should reassess your life as a hooker?

 
Personally, I would NEVER tell a hooker I was seeing romantically that she could no longer  "do that to herself" not if I wanted to keep her in my life that is. and YES, I have been involved with lots of women who do this for a living.

The Older Ones Are Married and You're A Booty Call...........

the struggle is reeeeaaaallllllllll when you gotta keep letting him hit it for free on the daily until he loves you enough to save you from yourself OMG

then, this....

"Most girls especially older ones are married"  

yup, the old broads have significant others who don't just hang out for free ass

just sayin'.....

real talk, I personally don't want to be whoring while in a relationship. Even if my partner is ok with it, nah. However,  I'm not going to insult the other ladies of the night who have a man waiting back at home for them and loves them enough to let them work if she needs to. (if not, then he has her all taken care of).

so, would your untitled hang out bro have you all taken care of? o.o

This means accepting what she chooses "to do that to herself" for a living. First it is just sex, not drugs, not anything harmful unless she is ashamed of it. Second true love is loving who she is now, not some fantasy thing you hope to change her into. A person's career is part of her whole. Not the only thing.

My wife provided from 2010 until about a year ago. I accepted it because I lived her and it was her choice to do so. I was more than able and willing to support our family. It was real hard on me at first. Divorce papers was even drawn up. But I couldn't hurt her like that. I loved her a d learned to embrace this hobby.  

Love is about wanting the best for a person, Investing one's whole person in them, and accepting them as they are. Not trying to change them into something different but supporting and encourages the healthy changes  the person chooses to make.  

And besides, I don't think I could stop her if I tried from doing anything she wanted to do. She is a smart, independent woman, who makes her own choices in life. I don't let her do anything.

I see you are a young blood. Actually in my experience, most of the "older ones" are divorced.  I've never "done this" while married, but I know ladies who are married and it works for them And I don't think I'm an anomaly in this dept.  Haven't tried it in so many years I can't remember when.  

 Dating while in the biz was just too much of a hassle.  Do exactly what "to" ourselves?    

Steph

What's wrong with just wanting to get into your panties?

I have heard that is a wonderful, lovely and aromatic place.

Lesbians can get married these days.

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Wasn't it fucking nuts? But I dug her intent and I have to respect that. I mean, she meant well.  

ANYWAY, I'm more than positive she's in a better place, doing what she wants, and I have nothing but great wishes for her!

it is inevitable that you will become part of each others' lives in some way beyond the simple sex for pay transaction.

I've know a number of gals for upwards of 30 years now, and have on occasion met their friends and family and often the majority of the time we spend together is other than bedroom time.

In fact, I took the ultimate step and married one provider, so there's that to add to the stat book.

There will be as many examples and stories as there are escorts and clients who get to know each other well.

If you can get sex for free, that fits my definition of a relationship.  The point being that the definition is subjective.  Of course not all relationships are the same, or even positive.  Ever hear of divorce?  
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Escorts are human too, so they are going to like some of their clients and hate some of their client and be ambivalent about some of their clients.  I imagine some aspects of escorting make for loneliness for some, so I wouldn't be surprised if they form friendships with clients who accept them as they are compared to the rejection of a lot of the rest of society.

Sometimes two people just "click" from the beginning and it doesn't really matter how you met.  I have had a number of real life relationships with providers, and as long a the playing field is level, her work does not become a problem for our relationship.  For me, its similar to an open marriage concept, but we limit the outside playing to transactional sex, her for her income, and me for the variety that most men like.  I pay, and she gets paid.  Anything else is cheating on the relationship.  

 
You should disabuse yourself of the notion that its all about free sex.  Yes, I don't pay by the hour, but overall, I spend way more on a real life relationship with a provider in a month than I would just seeing her as a customer a few times a week.  We do all of the things you suggest, from movies to clubbing, that I would do with a non-provider girlfriend, including travel, which I pay for as the "boyfriend", the same as I would do if she had a different profession.  

 
You seem a little jaded on the idea of a real relationship with a former customer, but its probably because you have only met the guys (and they are out there, for sure) that DO want free sex and nothing else from the relationship, so iI think your attitude is just a case of you not having met the "right" guy yet.  We are out there, but for many guys, they can't compartmentalize their SO's work from her personal life with them, and so jealousy of customers (it sounds stupid when you say it like that) becomes an issue.  There is also the social stigma that goes with sex work.  Many men think they are somehow "tainted" by being in a relationship with a sex worker.  I don't really have a problem with it.  After all, SHE's in a relationship with a John.  Lol

By your logic hookers never have "real relationships" only freebies with cheap johns.

 
Have you ever had a boyfriend? I would certainly hope so, but if not that would explain your strong but stupid feeling on the subject If you have ever had a boyfriend than that guy was having an "actual relationship" with a provider, wouldn't he?

 
Providers have boyfriends, (or girlfriends) just like women in any other line of work and just like women in other lines of work, "people" in general often date people they meet at work. Personally, I have dated a LOT of women I met through this business, some casual, some more serious and I also have had and still do have a lot of "hooker buddies" many of whom I have NEVER had sex with, but we are just friends who talk daily, occasionally have dinner/drinks and do other things that FRIENDS do. Is that really such a tough concept to grasp?

 
I think it's you who should look in the mirror, you seem to have a very narrow and jaded opinion about this business. I know you are brand new here, or at least you are pretending to be, but you are obviously very jaded about this business, if you are indeed an actual provider, and not just some brown envelope pretending to be a provider, you might think about a career change, you don't seem very happy as a hooker.