when i started doing this little hobby i would see a lot of girls who would always say "come on baby, give me that cum" (or some variant) within 2 minutes of sex. i got pretty used to it and can pretty much finish in under 5 minutes if i want to. now obviously, those were not what you would call gfe girls. recently i started seeing gfe girls and it seems most of them want you to just enjoy yourself, i have had girls actually ask "you want me to slow down" because i told them i was about to cum. i guess my question is, is it ok to prolong my orgasm for the duration of the session? even if it means pulling out and doing some other activity? i just still feel compelled to finish quick even though i am the client. i probably just have to change the way i think. thoughts?
If so, then why prolong it? Sometimes I like to start dates off with a quickie just to get a gent to relax. If you are just a one-pop type of guy, I would hope that you would let me know so I can better plan our date.
Communication is the key to GFE dates. We usually want you to have a great time too. We just need a little direction from time to time
I have found that it is rare that I can cum twice in an hour - so with one hour session I usually aim for a long slow one. Sometimes I will go for seconds even if it does not lead to a cum. With longer sessions I have time to recover and can have a full second helping.
I think Diana's advice to discuss it is a good idea, especially as I go for GFE.
If you can get off more than once, definitely go with providers who offer msog.
If not, and you enjoy GFE, start out your session by chatting, then chatting and cuddling, then kissing, then some french lessons &/or DATY.... or some variant of the above order more to your liking. Bring some whipped cream or chocolate frosting with you if your lady doesn't, or perhaps ask her if she likes playing naughty games (I happen to like one involving a pair of dice...immature? Perhaps. But it's fun acting like a pair of horny high school lovers! lol). There are many ways to draw out pleasure!
It depends on how good you are at controlling that sort of thing. A lot of older guys, myself included, have to take the load when it's ready or it will never happen. I'm a one pop guy so I spend more time doing foreplay and oral activities than I do boinking away. That works for me but every guy is different. One thing is for sure, a good GFE lady is a lot more patient and giving than your average "one and done" chick!
I'd say the exception is that you need to have at least a modicum of respect/concern for the lady.
By that I mean, don't expect her to BJ or CG, and if you are truly long lasting, to not pound away for the entire session.
Some ladies are fine with that, but you need to talk to them about it first.
Your insight is very much appreciated. As one who cannot take that type of treatment , I am grateful to see there is a man on this board that recognizes that all women are not the same.
I really like it when my partner comes during intercourse, so that takes a bit of time, if it's going to happen at all. Many women cannot come without a particular kind of clitoral stimulation, and for some it takes a LONG time, longer than I can last. It is your session and mostly women respect men who know exactly what they want and guide the session somewhat. So figure out your desires. Fucking is one of the best things in the world. Why do people want to rush through it?!
That's why you are paying, after all. Most GFE girls take pride in what they do...they are good at it, and genuinely enjoy bringing a smile to another person's face.
However, as has been said above, keep it within reason. Be mindful of her. There can be a fine line between "getting the most enjoyment out of the session" and treating a girl like a work horse. This is still true even if you try to "make sure she is having a good time, too." Remember that it's a performance for her...don't be too demanding.
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