What topics do you providers really dislike talking about with clients? What is or isn't okay to talk about with you?

Does it bother you if a client asks how you got into this profession or your future plans that might involve you getting out of it?

Have any hobbyists asked anything or brought something up in a session that clearly made the provider feel uncomfortable?

Other than those, she can sit on my lap and talk about the first thing that pops up.

8o)

I was with one of my regular providers and i was just laying there while she was giving me head. When she looked up at me and said " the other night i had a terrible nightmare". I'm like what was it about and she says " i was 65 and i was still doing this for a living".

are uncomfortable with this as well, but others have busted out the pics of the wife and kids...THAT makes me uncomfortable. I really don't need to see the faces of your loved ones knowing how much they would hate me if they ever found out what daddy was doing. The wife might be ok with it in certain situations, but the kids are not mature enough to understand it if they are young.

Income / volume of business

I have been asked flat out - How much money do you make a month/annually?  When I am asked, I politely say - I don't care to discuss that, I don't share that with anyone.  Most people get somewhat offended by my response which actually surprises me.  Everyone has a right NOT to discuss something if they don't care to share.  I confided once and got burned pretty badly - I learned from that mistake.  I am an open book when it comes to all other subjects, family, friends, life outside the biz, but discussion regarding income is off limits. That's between me and my accountant/financial planner (and the IRS of course!)

I have found this list on another forum with the similar topic. They range from mildly annoying to WTF is he thinking!


1. Whats your "real" name?
2. How many men have you been with today?
3. So, have you been busy?
4. Is your real hair color/breast size/nails/tan real?
5. How did you get into the business?
6. Do you have a boyfriend/SO/partner?
7. Why don't you go Indie?
8. Can I stand you on your head while you give me a bj?
9. Why do you have to put the condom on now?
10. Can I have a tour of your place?
11. Who is that in the picture?
12. Are the sheets clean?
13. Did you shower?
14. Tell me the difference between the 1hr and 2hr option besides time, I might want to readjust our session.
15. Is that what you are wearing?
16. I thought you would be _________ (taller, shorter, skinnier, fatter, younger, older)
17. I brought rolled change for part of my donation, is that a problem? (paid $250 in rolled pennies and dimes)
18. Do you own this place?
19. You should take yoga.
20. Have you ever considered having your breasts done?
21. Do you have a bong?
22. Can you drive me home afterwards?
23. I have a friend in the car, is it ok if he waits in your livingroom?
24. How many children do you have?
25. Do you REALLY enjoy it or are you an awesome actress?
26. Can we "just hang out" cause I think we have a real connection.
27. What are the perks if I become a good regular?
28. Can I leave my shoes and socks on for the whole visit?
29. Whats the weirdest request you've ever had?
30. Has anyone ever hurt you during an appointment?
31. Does your family know what you do?

And my all time favorite!

32. Your such a smart woman, why don't you get a real job?

That didn't go very well.
I'm not used to wearing condoms went pretty shitty too.
I dated the same girl for many years, we never had protected sex.
It sounded like I bare back all the time. Pissed her off pretty good.
Give me some time to think. I am the king at saying stupid shit.
Probably the main reason I rarely get civie dates.

their figure [ultra sensitive subject]..their family [absolutely none of your business} and how much they earn or who their clients are...

I never did understand this.  Why would the wife hate you if she found out what hubby was doing?  He's the one doing the cheating.  You wouldn't spend any time with him if it wasn't his choice and you weren't being paid by HIM.  And if you weren't the spending time with him, someone else surely would.  I've been cheated on a couple times....never blamed the third party.  Now kids?  I can see that as they might be too young to comprehend what is up.  

I can see why it would be creepy to see pics of wives and kids, though!

I don't ask to many questions. During the get to know you convo or the post sex convo I let the providers do most of the talking. What's the old saying about 2 ears and one mouth. And what's that other great saying, curiosity killed the cat.  I understand newb hobbyists have questions, but it's amazing what providers will tell you if you just shut up and let them do the talking.  

Talk about you, let her talk about her. She will answer all the questions without you asking.

I get really uncomfortable when he starts talking about
      Which provider he fell in love with and all the things she did wrong to him.
(I know that he has NO ONE else to vent too about "this" sort of stuff, so I try to stay busy (hopefully distract him) as he's getting everything off his chest lol).

Most of the other stuff I'm ok with, but most of the time were not sitting around talking

My number one NO NO: email me, or text me saying: are you free?
   I don't answer those lmao

I am never free...lol. Do I have time free, sure and don't forget the envelop.

I have been to Thanksgiving dinner, complete with wife and grown kids...I know the whole darn family. And I have zero guilt as I am never suspected...who would suspect the gay chick?

pack on that extra 20 pounds since your last pic?

Hit on the wife?
LOL. Just kidding

The johns just seem to have to know how much the gals make.

Honestly...most really don't know..not for sure anyhow.

But then there are the anal retentive gals that I know that are so impeccable in their record keeping...that I might be able to put them to work for me.

So yea...I also don't like it when the gals hit me up for "free advice"...let's at least do that over an OTC dinner  LOL

Yup these right here. Please save it. Please.

or are trying to make some sort of a joke?

Not attracted to her, although if I was, there would have been some flirting.

I like to play games with the hookers...and guessing shit is part of it.

Guess we won't be playing TER Hooker Jeopardy anytime soon  

There are guys who thrive on gossiping about other girls during a date. There is nothing worse than that.
I've had a couple of gentlemen (I'm using that term very loosely here) tell me another lady's real name, profession, where she lived, what she liked to do when they were together... It is very distasteful, and sadly these type of men don't realize that they are the very reason why some of us have to be so cautious in protecting our identities. It would be really nice to be able to freely speak with anyone we met, but we never know who is trustworthy and who might be a lose canon, hence the need to avoid certain subjects or invent entire fake identities. I always wonder when someone asks any identifying questions, such as "what company do you work for?" I have had that happen numerous times. Someone who just proved himself to be a major gossip king by revealing some inappropriate detail about one of his references turns around and asks me about my personal life. Do they expect an honest answer? Do I look foolish enough? lol I have a whole identity invented for these Nosey Normans.

Who in their right mind would say no, not so much.. So I guess if guys do ask questions, be prepared for some of us to still keep that illusion alive and well.

So I could be wrong, but I am going to assume Dan was not directing his comment to you (even though he posted as a reply to you), but was just adding to the stupid questions clients ask providers.

I would guess that will satisfy his inane curiosity.

I assume you have another "real" name....most do  

What's wrong with sports? Hey, I'm a football fan, & will gladly talk about the sport, if the guy wants to, lol. As far as religion & politics... I once again do not mind if it is brought up, & can give most a run for their money on debating

As far as off limit questions from the original OP.... please, don't ask what my real name is, OR what my children's names are. I don't mind discussing family, but names are to be left out. I'm pretty open & easy-going when it comes to conversation topics, lol.

We all read about the providers on BP lying about their age (and grossly so, not just by a few years) as well as using old photos or phony photos in their ads/postings. Well, recently, in Manassas, VA there supposedly was a mature provider who advertised as being in her fifties; she was supposedly discovered to actually be 72!
I don't know whether that is more sad or sick that a woman of that age would feel the need or the desire to prostitute herself...

Don't ask about her personal life or family or anything like that..

I really (normally) don't care how much a provider earns. I figure that they deserve what they can get with the intimate, personal type of work that they do, with strangers who sometimes have strange requests. And that's not even mentioning all of the other risks inherent to this profession: LE, arrest and a criminal record; STDs; potential for physical harm; potential for shame, disgrace, and ostracism by their famies, friends, employers, neighbors, etc. And if they are good at pleasing their clientele and good at enhancing the beauty and other assets they've been blessed with, then more power (and wealth) to them....with several exceptions and caveats: that they pay their FAIR SHARE of taxes like the rest of us responsible citizens; and that the poor, little unwed mothers don't try to scam the system and the rest of us by collecting disability, Medicare, Medicaid, and taking public housing assistance when, in reality, they're perhaps working their ass off but pulling in +/- $300,000 per year! That's a crime - LITERALLY!

No kidding! If you let the lady do most of the talking and show your interest in her and defer to her, she will keep blabbing to fill the silence and tell you most of the answers to the list of question's listed elsewhere in this thread! If not in your first session, then for sure by the second session with her. And then, if and when I look them up again some 5-6 months later and I bring things up in conversation that they previously mentioned to me, it creeps the hell out of them to no end! Well, I'm sorry but I have a good memory and, well, YOU told me! It's probably more of a numbers factor: in six months I might have seen perhaps six providers while some providers I know might have seen 500-600 guys in the same time. How could they possibly remember who they told what to?!?

Something like that happened to me recently with my "getting over my ATF" ATF. I thought she was sharing some intimate details about her and her life. I had no reason to disbelieve her. She told me her "real" name, the city and country she was born and lived in, what she had done for a living there, her children, etc. Then, after about our perhaps 10th session together, as we lying next to one another in post-coital bliss and talking, all of a sudden she opened up and confessed to me that everything she had told me about her "real" persona was a lie, it was all made up!

And I told her that I respected her even more for sharing that truth with me...

How much money I make, how I report taxes and how much- just tacky, condescending shit basically.

I'm sure she's got plenty more where those came from as well.

Hey...believe whatever you want to believe.  Any gal who's been at this for more than a month or two has stories up the wazoo  

I have no doubts some of the story is true...but if you see her again and again the story will continue to change.

Or you could marry her and eventually really find out the real stories...but why in the fuck would you want to know?

Can't blame you for making income off limits, I won't discuss mine with anyone either.