But, there are sites where providers keep lists of clients to avoid for one reason or another, often referred to as "black lists".

Unlike providers, we use our real names. In fact, providers who screen insist on it. There are ways around it with certain providers but it’s far from the norm. If TER publicly posted our information, it would be a big problem. In fact, places that I am aware of are unregulated and abused. Instead of being a safety clearing house, it becomes a complaint board where personal information of clients is shared over trivial things. And, this puts clients in compromising positions. Imagine if TER was used to expose all of the real names of providers.

there was a web site that did something like this for a brief period of time called Have We Met
I thought it was cool. But most did not I guess because it never took off

You will be able to access the TER whitelist. I gladly whitelist every gentleman I meet after one visit.  

...is a verification site where providers give "okays" to clients they feel are safe.

Not all clients use their real names.  

Providers can “whitelist” a client, yes. It’s not a review but it’s a form of vouching/OK.

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Facts. I have a few clients from the past and some now that don't use their real names and I don't require much RW info as long as I can get them vetted my way and they pass the verification that's all that I need and its worked great for me for the past 20 + yrs.

The closest thing that TER has to what you are asking is the whitelist feature. A provider can put any client on their whitelist, and all of the provider names will show up on the client TER profile as referrals.  

He’s one of “us”  
Like In that movie Goodfellas

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