I have been dating a recently widowed civvie and we've reached a point of intimacy that makes me wonder, if it comes to sex would it be proper to use a black condom as a gesture of respect for the still grieving lady?

Yes, and you should hold back and not come for a full year, likewise as a gesture of respect.

I hope the lady in question appreciates either your sense of respect for her loss or your sense of humor!

I certainly did enjoy the latter.

Beware of black, it makes you look slimmer.

I was going to ask what he died of.

Might want 2 condoms