Question for everybody. I'd like to spend time with a lady and I have a certain time frame that I can do it. I've asked one provider and it seems she may be trying to work something out but no answer yet so I started to get into contact with another provider. Now say ultimately I hear back from the second provider and decide to spend time with her. I don't want to burn bridges because some time down the line I'm sure I would like to have seen both of them, how would you recommend to handle it?
I'd say that 48 hours would be more than enough for the first provider to come back to you with a solid plan. If more than that time has passed, them go to provider number two and see if she can accommodate you. If so, then contact the first provider and tell her that you've made other arrangements. You can also mention that you are still interested in seeing her some time, and will contact her again when the time is right
36-48 hours is just time for her to make arrangements. Beyond that you may find yourself sitting with blue balls. I saw after 36-48 hours you make other arrangements....but, if she does get back to you and have the time frame you desire you can always reschedule with the other lady, but I would do it while she is in town. If you can't than lady #2 is on the clock.
Once you get your session confirmed, just reach out the the provider who hasnt confirmed yet and let her know the situation. Apologize but explain your time consrraint dilema and express interest in booking at a future date.
Good luck.
❤Alexa
And....If you have a specific time certain that this has to take place-make that known on the front end.
Once you get your session confirmed, just reach out the the provider who hasnt confirmed yet and let her know the situation. Apologize but explain your time consrraint dilema and express interest in booking at a future date.
Good luck.
❤Alexa
Good point!
Once you get your session confirmed, just reach out the the provider who hasnt confirmed yet and let her know the situation. Apologize but explain your time consrraint dilema and express interest in booking at a future date.
Good luck.
❤Alexa
Must have been a fun week!
...and I have always gone back immediately to the first provider and explained that time was of the essence and I have already booked with provider #2. All have been gracious about it and in my correspondence I promised to try and book with the first providers when there was more time available and our schedules lined up.
...after not hearing from the first within 48 hours, I will NOT let the first provider know I moved on. If she didn't have the courtesy to respond in a timely manner, why should I? If the first provider does eventually contact me, I will respond and tell her I made other arrangements because she was too slow in responding. Maybe the loss of business will help her improve her business practices. I won't leave the door open to seeing the first provider in the future so that she could do the same thing.
...and I agree with you, except I'll only give the gal 24 hours before I move on. Most ladies respond within a couple of hours, and I've learned that those that don't reply promptly don't really want to meet me. C'est la vive.
I usually book same day, so by the time 24 hours has elapsed, I have already seen another lady and am looking again for the next day.
I do move on a lot more quickly than either of you, but if a girl gets back to me even three or four days later, if she is available that same day, I might still end up seeing her. but I am not going to wait days for a girl to get back to me, only to make an appointment for several days later. It's simply too much aggravation for me.
..how hot does provider #1 have to be to get you to at least be civil and keep open the option of seeing her sometime in the future. Burn your bridges. Cut your nose to spite your face. There is something to be said for that policy. But not much.
...providers to choose from, and many visiting providers as well. I don't care how hot provider #1 is, there'll be new hotter ones tomorrow. You hobby in New York - there are even more providers there. Why would you want to give her another chance when there are so many others available who will respond promptly?
And why should I be civil to her when she wasn't civil to me? If you go into a store and wait half an hour for someone to serve you, would you wait or go to another store that serves you promptly? Would you be "civil" and return to the store that gave you bad service?
Unless there is an offer an acceptance nothing has been done. Maybe say I'm under a time window. Can you let me know by a certain time or my friends want me to see them...
Personally, if a hooker doesn't respond to me, I simply forget all about her. If she ever does decide to reply a day or a week later, I may or may not schedule with her depending on the tone of her response. Quite frankly if a week has gone by, I have more than likely forgotten who the hell she even is as I have probably already seen several different women in the interim.
and to expound on BPS's point, What the fuck is wrong with you guys? Why do you give these women so much power over you? If you called a plumber to come "fix your pipes" and he blew you off without even responding, would you sit at home with a foot of water in your living room waiting for him to respond in order to not "burn your bridge" with him? Come on guys, grow a pair.
A plumber can't do that to you. But if you're cheating on your wife and have given the woman in question your personal info, you could be screwed. In a bad way. It's hard to grow a pair when she's got you by the balls.
The OP was about how long to wait to hear back from a hooker that you are looking to book with before moving on to another woman. If a guy is really so fucking scared about moving on to another woman without even having spoken to the first, he really should take up a less stressful hobby. Or grow a pair, either or.
But the way threads work, Wu, is that they go off on tangents and you don't have to slavishly refer to the OP when responding to a different point made by someone else. Like the one you made about plumbers.
Get it?
The rest of the people on this branch had stayed on topic, if you would ever learn to follow a thread you might have figured that out after all these years.
Sure sounds like it.
Go talk with Fatvern if you want to debate inanities all night. Quite frankly, I am not interested.
You just get dumber by the minute.
Reread the time stamp and then go sit in the dunce corner, moron.
On my post it somehow changed from AM to PM, but I did in fact post in the morning. Then I waited for you to post your inevitable pedantic and tendentious response and half a day went by. So simply by observation I know it was, in fact, 12 hours between the two posts.
You really should be more careful before you go embarrassing yourself like this. Or perhaps you just don't care.
I'm sure there's some Freudian thing going on here...
Same goes for 'maybe the loss of business will help improve...' Why the need to teach her a lesson and hope she learns from it? Who cares? She don't suit you so just move on...
And Dr. Phil says 'the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior'... unless she has been sick in the hospital, or a relative has had an accident and she did not see the importance of responding as there was a more important priority in her life at the moment. And for that, we all can all see why it is important she learn that not responding is deserving of a loss of business...
I just don't understand the harsh and unforgiving attitudes that hobbyists display on a regular basis. For them, the girl must be all business, EXCEPT during the appt, and they feel have every right to turn/put a girl down for NON-business/very personal reasons. They let their emotions and personal/work schedules be valid reasons for flaking, bad reviews and attacking/harassing girls. And can call it 'teaching her a lesson'. Believe it or not, a lot of girls work really hard to make this work and earn an income. But it seems some don't view it as that.
You know what? Girls don't have the training to run a business in the way you all view a business. It is learned as she goes. Yes some have been doing this long enough now that they know better, but this business, the demands of this are often very fluid. And changes need to be made, sometimes on a daily basis. I dare you to run a business and be in touch enough to attend to every single need of every single individual (and every individual is completely different) to the satisfaction of everyone who contacts you, even if they don't partake in your service.
Its too early to contact a second provider if you still have the same boner from contacting the first provider. A lot of guy get impatient because the blood has left their brain and gone south.
it should be proposed in your first message. If there's no response, within a reasonable time, the plan won't work.
I don't know that I'd say I made other plans, but I would say: "I didn't hear back & now it's too late to make arrangements. Sorry. Maybe next time.
After 48 hours if no arrangement has been made with the lady of choice, I will contact another lady. I feel that if I have not heard back after 48, my time is not that important to her. I have set dates with another lady in the past, and maybe 72-96 hours later, the 1st lady I had contacted finally answered. I have told them that I have to politely decline, that I have made other arrangements. To me it is not fair to break a date with 2nd lady, even if the 1st one appears more appealing. I have never blown off my 2nd choice to be with my 1st choice. Even in Hobbyland I try to conduct myself with integrity and propriety.
I would say get together with each girl on different days. I am sure the first provider is not going to be upset and call you out on it. She may have gotten busy and eventually you both can make arrangements in the future. I would say meet the second one as she has reached out to you and is available to your needs. Hope this helps.
No, I don't mean Craigslist providers, either.
I used to sell a lot on Craigslist, and I would get "Ill meet you and be there at 3:00" or "Hold on to it, I have cash in hand" and after awhile you learn its all bullshit.
My policy is now first come first serve. First one who responds with "cash" is the person who gets it and I'm not waiting around for anybody. I"ll be available at x:xx time, and whoever shows up, shows up and first with cash buys it. No time for time wasters and tire kickers.
Likewise, same with providers. Whoever gets back to me first and confirms gets the appointment. I just let the other provider know that I have already set-up another appointment and say maybe next time if you're available. That also bodes well for better customer service. The girl who responds promptly is more likely to be on time. Past behavior is indicative of future performance. This works in general. Does it always work, no, but its pretty reliable.
Remember the only resource that we have a finite amount in this world is time. I think as you get older it becomes even more valuable. So if you waste my time, you're wasting my most valuable resource. I can always make more money, I can't make more time.
Likewise, same with providers. Whoever gets back to me first and confirms gets the appointment. I just let the other provider know that I have already set-up another appointment and say maybe next time if you're available. That also bodes well for better customer service. The girl who responds promptly is more likely to be on time. Past behavior is indicative of future performance. This works in general. Does it always work, no, but its pretty reliable.
But I have issue with 'The girl who responds promptly is more likely to be on time'. If the girl is independent (that means no phone attendant/manager), and the norm for the industry in her neck of the woods is not this 48 hrs notice, then responding promptly is not always a possibility...as she may be 'tied up' (the whole reason for posting ads and responding to communications is to be 'tied up')
I know for a fact I can still be on time for an appt AND not respond quickly. Those things are not mutually exclusive.
And past behavior is not always indicative of future behavior. People change methods/protocols, improve, learning is involved too. Isn't that what having a 'business' is all about? You don't just lay down the ground work and hope it works good forever.
Just sayin'
that courtesy and respect do not happen naturally? That long discussions about "business" and hell, even "business law" are seen as substitutes for common social grace between two people, a man and a woman?
The "business" paradigm most seem to have is not really the best way IMHO to handle your social interactions - and believe me, this is much more a social game than a business game in many respects. The idea is to escape the tense nerves and pressure of the business paradigm and enter into a slower and hedonistic social paradigm... to slow down and smell the roses.
Contact the first provider and tell her that although she is the one you truly want to see and chose first, you need to contact someone else if she is having trouble making her schedule work. She will free you to contact another without burning bridges, or she will commit or commit to commit. Thank her either way, and contact the second provider if necessary. Follow back up with the first provider to let her know your plans if you are going with provider #2.
Forget all of the "business" BS chatter
It's a business relationship/transaction not a domestic one.
Step back, open your eyes, ignore your emotions.
...people - FatVern and Fancy (below) gave the right answers. But you go right ahead, Sir Walter Raleigh. I sure wouldn't want your dry cleaning bill.
I don't think many ladies want clients to act like boyfriends.
I guess the business is different here in Canada.
I get a text asking 'available', then 5 minutes, maybe 15 minutes later I get a '?' ... then 2 minutes after 'i guess not'
I have trouble getting 30 minutes notice as it seems to be an inconvenience to wait (even though traveling time could be 30 minutes for them) that long for an appt.
Maybe it's a psychological thing. 'Ok, now is good' is acceptance and 'I need 30 minutes to make sure everything is fresh' is a rejection...or maybe I'm a snob and think to highly of myself to do 'now'.
Nature of the beast i guess
have a good day everyone