Posted By: elusive1two
fall in love with these girls? I'm new here so cut me some slack if this has been posted over and over again.
and if so, what kind of problems have they caused and or, how do you girls handle them.
Love??? Really??? What's that? It's a myth.
And plenty of other threads on this board as well as The Erotic Highway discuss this topic (and you're right, it's been discussed 1,000's of times LOL).
In a nutshell...whenever a john falls in love with the hooker...it's best she marry him to avoid a confrontation 
And then divorce the love sick puppy dog...grab at least half his "stuff"...and repeat as often as necessary!
Posted By: elusive1two
fall in love with these girls? I'm new here so cut me some slack if this has been posted over and over again.
and if so, what kind of problems have they caused and or, how do you girls handle them.
Posted By: ChgoCPA
And plenty of other threads on this board as well as The Erotic Highway discuss this topic (and you're right, it's been discussed 1,000's of times LOL).
In a nutshell...whenever a john falls in love with the hooker...it's best she marry him to avoid a confrontation
And then divorce the love sick puppy dog...grab at least half his "stuff"...and repeat as often as necessary!
Posted By: elusive1two
fall in love with these girls? I'm new here so cut me some slack if this has been posted over and over again.
and if so, what kind of problems have they caused and or, how do you girls handle them.
This topic has been discuss many times before, but damn near every other topic for that matter.
The general consensus is it not a good idea to get emotionally involved with a hooker. There are many
reason as to why which has been discuss before, I just can’t seem to remember what they were. One that
comes to mind is being clingy. If a hooker feels you’ve become too attached or if your emotions get in the way of enjoying the appointment you could quickly find yourself on the her personal DNS list.
Spend enough time with a beautiful women telling you how great you are while having great sex with her, heavy passionate DFK'ing, sharing personal things about your lives, etc. It can happen to anyone. The keys are not putting yourself in that postion in the first place for 102% of the time its going to end badly. The ladies have to decide when is the right time to let an otherwise grreat client go form being too clingy and needy (or worse) and then some guys feel like they have been betrayed by that girl because they bought into the illusion and the fantasy.
Too many people also confuse "love" with "infatuation and lust." Not the same things at all.
One person's "infatuation" is another's "love." Human emotion is a very, very complex set of feelings and not easily definable or even understood.
Oh please...a married man with a good marriage he actually still values, does not 'fall in love' with a hooker. It's deluded at best, and sad second.
Posted By: bluepillman
One person's "infatuation" is another's "love." Human emotion is a very, very complex set of feelings and not easily definable or even understood.
why would married man with good marriage need to see a hooker?
They just like something new. Not all men are here because their wife is not hot, or has stopped putting out honey...wow. Most of them will tell you, they simply cannot be faithful, or that they just crave variety. Those are the men I prefer to see actually, because they have a grasp on the fact that this is a BUSINESS, and not match.com The last thing most providers want to deal with, are men who are deluded into thinking pay for play, is anything more than just that.
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I am one that wife stopped putting out I guess some women change when they get older. Been married long long time an was always faithful.I am kinda new to hobby just asking.good answer.Thanks
Or they started seeing women when it was good and they were wooed by a younger more in shape, hotter sex, more complimentary girl than their SO. Or they are single. You took one slice of the hobby, "married men with a good marriage." There are many others.
Yep, and I just addressed that. Regardless...a married man who is already cheating on his wife, should really not be in the market to fall for a damn hooker! Get crucial...that's not love!
"Help I've fallen for a provider and can't get up" Best thing to do when you start hobbying, is NOT to repeat. Yes it's a pain to have to go thru screening when your a newb, so it's easier to see the same escort again. But I'm telling you, you'll be better off seeing different ladies and then after awhile if there was one or two that knocked your socks off, circle back.
Posted By: elusive1two
fall in love with these girls? I'm new here so cut me some slack if this has been posted over and over again.
and if so, what kind of problems have they caused and or, how do you girls handle them.
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Posted By: hiddenhills
"Help I've fallen for a provider and can't get up" Best thing to do when you start hobbying, is NOT to repeat. Yes it's a pain to have to go thru screening when your a newb, so it's easier to see the same escort again. But I'm telling you, you'll be better off seeing different ladies and then after awhile if there was one or two that knocked your socks off, circle back.
This saying is quite apt... but it is surprisingly easy to fall for a woman you've had great sex with. It's the post-coital hormones surging which were useful to protect the offspring in the cave man days. Serial dating a provider is looking for trouble in this regard. I now rotate among a small number of Favorites... I can 'fall for' each one in turn... and recover before I see her again.
REALLY... if I'd been aware of the hormone surges & distorted reality my civie dating would have been much less stressful & would have avoided one bad marriage. But they don't teach this is sex ed!
Clients & providers have become BF/GF or even (rarely) married. It's not an easy road... It rarely works out but we can not say "NEVER".
Hi HH,
It can be a pain to an experienced hobbyist as well!! When I was working, steadily, I would see an ATF & another lady, monthly!! Now do to financial restraints I see an ATF, exclusively!! I know what I'm getting & It works for me!!When she retires, I'll have to go through a screening process, again & trying to find a "connection" that I found w/ my last two ATF's! I enjoy the LTR rapport w/ special ladies in the setting that TER ladies provides!
Posted By: hiddenhills
"Help I've fallen for a provider and can't get up" Best thing to do when you start hobbying, is NOT to repeat. Yes it's a pain to have to go thru screening when your a newb, so it's easier to see the same escort again. But I'm telling you, you'll be better off seeing different ladies and then after awhile if there was one or two that knocked your socks off, circle back.
Posted By: elusive1two
fall in love with these girls? I'm new here so cut me some slack if this has been posted over and over again.
and if so, what kind of problems have they caused and or, how do you girls handle them.
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From one cliff of the earth to the other , millions of guys have fallen in love with girls who never gave them pussy or the time of day .
A guy with little experience with women can effortlessly confuse affectionate love , with the dollars in his pocket .
Posted By: elusive1two
fall in love with these girls? I'm new here so cut me some slack if this has been posted over and over again.
and if so, what kind of problems have they caused and or, how do you girls handle them.
haha, ok my bad, I guess I am naive. forget I even posted the ?
Some ladies say that they cut off contact completely, even if the client wants to see the lady one last time.
Yes, probably happens at least once for many long-term hobbyists.
You develop an appreciation for a particular girl's GFE talents = a "crush".
You start to see her regularly and EXCLUSIVELY so in your mind she becomes your "girlfriend"
It becomes harder and harder to sepaparate the "fantasy" from the "reality."
You begin to think you are "in love" with her and that she is "in love" with you.
You think that there is a special connection or bond just between her and you. The sex may be great, she may even have real "Os" but that is only because she likes sex and providers don't always fake it if they are with a regular that they are comfortable with.
In reality, whatever she is doing with you she is doing with a lot of other guys; you may be a regular, but she probably has many regulars just like you. The more she pleases you the better it is for her, you keep coming back to her ("get hooked") But you are just another "meal ticket" for her. She may even have a boyfriend/husband who will break you "upside the head."
The worst thing you can do, if you like being with this girl, is tell her you "love" her. Usually providers can sense earlier on if a client is getting too attached and they will put an end to it.
Best thing is to go see other providers; to take your mind off her. You may even need to decide to stop seeing her before she cuts you off because then you will feel hurt.
Now real realtionships may develop but are very rare (more Hollywood than real life = "Pretty Woman"). The odds of that in real life are like hitting the lottery.
I think there are 2 indicators which may tell you which way the wind MAY be blowing. The first is if she tells you to call her by her REAL name when you are together; as opposed to her STAGE name.
( No girl has "Bambi" or "Lacy Underalls" on her birth certificate); she is putting you on a more personal level - but maybe just as a friend that she is very comfortable talking too, nothing more.
The second is if she walks out of your room leaving the envelop behind. Providers never forget the money. Sure maybe once by some accident - but a second time?
Posted By: elusive1two
fall in love with these girls? I'm new here so cut me some slack if this has been posted over and over again.
and if so, what kind of problems have they caused and or, how do you girls handle them.
I've had gals tell me their real names, often after seeing them for a year or more.
I think they are just trying to be less formal and more friendly, but it is not any attempt to create a less professional relationship.
On the other hand, in my 30+ years of hobbying and hundreds of gals I've met NEVER had any gal leave without her donation.
(On very rare occasions, I've had gals offer to return some or all of the donation owing to them not being at their best because of illness, etc.)
Hi Mr. F,
Speaking from experience you are correct, sir!!
Posted By: mrfisher
I've had gals tell me their real names, often after seeing them for a year or more.
I think they are just trying to be less formal and more friendly, but it is not any attempt to create a less professional relationship.
On the other hand, in my 30+ years of hobbying and hundreds of gals I've met NEVER had any gal leave without her donation.
(On very rare occasions, I've had gals offer to return some or all of the donation owing to them not being at their best because of illness, etc.)
the women I've met in the hobby? They are very intelligent, good looking and have life experiences. Several do this "as a hobby" themselves (course they make money!). Does it cause problems? Not really, as I recognize it for what it is - a very serious crush. Am I likely to stalk them? Beg them to marry me? Want them to have kids with me?! Answer to all of these questions is "no." But do I want to be around them, have incredible mind blowing sex with them, and in general hang out with them? sure.
Have some of them been attracted to me in the same way? I would like to think so. and for a couple, I know so.
But in general remember being a provider with a great clientell requires a delicate balancing act. You need to make the man think that while with you, he is your entire universe. But not so much that he leaves his wife, spends all his savings to be with you and gets in the way of 95+% of all your other customers... you want him coming back, just not to the point of moving in... for much as the hobbiest pays the gal to "go away" The gal charges enough so the guy wants to go away!
For, I to have met many intelligent and charming ladies through the hobby. We both do what we can to make the shared experience enjoyable, and for a short while the lines get blurred. At least that is what you hope for. Sometimes they stay a bit blurred when you develop a friendship and appreciation beyond the bed. I have been fortunate in that regard as well. However, I disagree, with your implication of responsibility falling on the provider. Yes, a provider has to balance the illusion that she creates, but Dude has got to have a brain too! I'm sorry, I just don't get it when a guy goes off about how he thought he was special to her. Get real! That is the illusion you buy going in. If you become friends and that makes your time together even better, then that is a bonus, but it doesn't change the reality that you are still business partners. I suspect that the young and inexperienced are more likely to fall into this trap, on both sides of the fence. As someone else mentioned, human emotions are complicated and unpredictable, and that can be exacerbated if you are lonely or insecure, or just inexperienced in life. But, this is really no place for the lovelorn.
at least three girls who told me that they became involved with clients as boyfriend / girlfriend, one of them married the guy ( divorced a few years later).
No doubt it happens.
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Ah ha ha ha, then, "they" should not fk with the wrong hooker.
I was thinking a "oozie" might be a dick with the clap... based on your post, I'm thinking maybe she meant a Uzi ?
Have you boys never heard of Mystical and Master P? Gosh...
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Depending on the fool you get one for, they may, or may not be the type who understands the order!
One of my stripper friends obtained a restraining order... did no good, he still attacked her. My advice to her, leave town, tell no one where you went, and stay low for a year, much more effective than a restraining order.
but hey! a restraining order is a good first step. Oozie? with the way judgements are going now??? more effective - a dart gun with a tranq, then you take him out to a river or lake weight him down and as the fishermen say "catch and release!"
And, yes, it happens, and the short answer is that it usually ends badly.
