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10v3sf3114t10 100 Reviews 1697 reads
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I dislike the use of lube during vaginal CFS for physical and sensation reasons. It is now approaching the point of becoming a dealbreaker for me. I have encountered the use of lube for vaginal CFS in a sufficiently small minority of my sessions and providers that I believe that I can make it a dealbreaker without cutting myself off from too many providers that are otherwise desirable to me. Before I do so, however, I would like to poll the audience.

Gentlemen – approximately what percentage of your providers always, usually, or often use lube for vaginal CFS, or what percentage of your sessions have involved the use of lube for vaginal CFS?

Ladies – how often and consistently (or inconsistently) do you use lube for vaginal CFS? Always? Most of the time? 50/50? Sometimes? Never? How flexible are you on this point? In other words, if I asked you not to use lube for vaginal CFS, what would your answers be? “Hell no!” “OK, if you insist.” “OK.” “Whatever you want, baby.”

I have tried to address this issue by reading a provider's reviews, but there does not appear to be any consistent answer, i.e. some providers who used lube with their previous reviewers did not use it with me, and some providers who did not use it with their previous reviewers used it with me. I gather that it is not the sort of issue that lends itself to a clear-cut drop-down menu item, like CCBJ vs. BBBJ.  

What would be the best ways to address this issue with an individual provider, if it is not already clear?

hbyist+truth=;( 662 reads
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How hot are you and how good are you at turning on a woman? Yes you are paying BUT, you choose the hooker you want to have sex with. A hooker has no idea what is showing up at her door. Even if you think you are Gods git, how many women realistically would agree with you sight unseen?

Female lubrication is generally caused by sexual attraction toward the partner she is engaging with. If you do NOT illeicit this in a woman, hooker or not, then the chances are that she is sufficiently aroused enough to produce naturally the lubrication she needs to have CFS is highly unlikely.  

If you are old, unattractive and have a body that makes you cringe in the morning, then how the hell do you expect a woman to get turned on with that standing in front of them, hooker or civvie?

Your request is like some very unattractive over weight woman asking the guy in front of her why he is not hard yet.  

And do you really expect her to go through trying valiantly to have PV sex with you dryer than the Sarah Desert? If so, you might want to head on over to the BDSM board. GFE hookers, for the most part, are not into having the surface of their vaginas scoured raw.
 
So to answer yor question..I will insist on lube and if it bothers you I am more than happy to never see you again.  

And it really is a moot question to ask a provider if she has never set eyes on you. Post your pic and we hookers will let you know if it is a Hell no! Okay if you insist or whatever you want baby.

MilanRouge See my TER Reviews 508 reads
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I don't like lube either. It's too sticky and takes away the natural feel/sense. No, lube for me too!

MissErinBlack See my TER Reviews 629 reads
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I almost always use lube for vaginal sex, and i put it both on myself and inside the condom before it goes on/in (in the instance of a female condom).  The chance of a condom breaking is reduced significantly when there's plentiful lubrication, and quite frankly? I'd like to prevent condom breakage as much as i can. Also, i might add, friction from fucking without lube can lead to a chaffed vagina and small lesions. Honestly, I'm not going to risk the health of my vagina and the chance that i get small micro tears that could lead to other problems.  

If you insisted on no lube being used, I honestly don't even know what I would do because I couldn't even give you the option of using a female condom at that point (lube is a MUST when using an FC). Not to mention, all condoms come pre-lubed, unless you're using non-lubricated condoms. Are you? Would you expect providers you see to offer non-lubricated condoms? I only use them for toy coverage personally, and would never ever put a non-lubricated condom on a cock without first adding lube. It certainly wouldn't go inside me either.

I'm honestly curious as to what kind of physical problems you have with lube, outside of sensation (this is also confusing to me, but I don't have a dick). Are you allergic to certain kinds of lube? most high-quality Silicone lubes are hypoallergenic. If you're that sensitive to lube, getting non-lubricated condoms and applying lube that you're not allergic to would be a great solution, if that's the problem anyway.  

If it's a sensation issue, you may want to make sure you're wearing the right sized condom. Most people don't, and there are brands out there that cater to all sorts of dick lengths and girths.  A condom that's too tight or too loose can kill stimulation for both partners as well as lead to issues with the condom coming off/breaking.  It's honestly why FCs are so great; they can literally accommodate any dick size.  

Anyway, i don't think there is a way to address this with an individual provider. It's her pussy, and if she's not wet enough to take your cock comfortably, she's got every right to use lube.  It's winter; people take decongestants and have issues with dryness.  She could be as turned on as anyone, but not able to self-lubricate due to a plethora of reasons that have nothing to do with sexual arousal. She could also start out sopping wet, and after 15-20 minutes of fucking, all that natural wetness is going to be gone because of evaporation/friction/etc.  If it's not gone, i'd put money on it that she's a smart gal and pre-lubed, and you wouldn't have known about that beforehand anyway.

 I honestly can't imagine a situation where fucking a dry pussy would be sexier than fucking a wet one, be it from self-lubrication or some assistance from good ol' Gun Oil

2236707 3 Reviews 677 reads
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related to the 3114t10's from Lubbock TX? I went to high school with Johnny 3114t10!

dallas4u1969 See my TER Reviews 370 reads
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7 / 42

I use coconut oil...it is silkier than lube...

NorahLucille See my TER Reviews 410 reads
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9 / 42

always for me as I'm using them in 90% of dates. It's not really a point of discussion. You cannot comfortably use a female condom without it.

With standard condoms, if I feel that I need it I use it. If you asked me not to, I'd probably need it even more...I'm pretty responsive and generally have no issues with lubrication, but disregard for my body tends to bring out the desert below.

lopaw 29 Reviews 291 reads
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MissErinBlack See my TER Reviews 386 reads
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...because oil degrades latex condoms and causes them to break/rip/tear.

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 399 reads
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MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 360 reads
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Posted By: dani987x
related to the 3114t10's from Lubbock TX? I went to high school with Johnny 3114t10!

mona38 See my TER Reviews 437 reads
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I don't use over the counter lubes. I am naturally wet and don't need them. Some ladies may require a substitute and rely on their special brand of lube to make it feel better upon a man entering her. I have a rule too...NO Spitting allowed!

MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 306 reads
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MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 264 reads
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Kitty_Rains See my TER Reviews 366 reads
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I make my own lube.. Im a super squirter and can always get wet.
I do carry lube with me for greek.. but often I'm so wet I can just use my own natural lube for greek as well.

 
Having said that all women's bodies are different and there are women who, even if they are super aroused, will not get as wet and will require lube.
For health reasons you should always make sure condoms are well lubricated before insertion

SoftlySarah See my TER Reviews 298 reads
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I also use FCs, so if it's a deal breaker, so be it. Ironically, I have copious juices so until I began using FCs, I never needed lube.

SoftlySarah See my TER Reviews 282 reads
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Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 266 reads
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You HAD to go there huh! Think I just threw up in my mouth a little. So foul.  

Posted By: perfectstorm

Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 319 reads
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ut FCs are not latex and I'm a coconut fan ... Lube, Not balls. LOL

Posted By: MissErinBlack
...because oil degrades latex condoms and causes them to break/rip/tear.

Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 267 reads
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23 / 42

You have my vote. Everyone I've showed it to is a fan. With FCs and Trojan Supra condoms Non latex)you can find a better lube. Smells and tastes great!😇
 

Posted By: dallas4u1969
I use coconut oil...it is silkier than lube...

Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 298 reads
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24 / 42

You're ahead of the pack and very wise. Providers who care about giving clients the best experience will use FCs.

10v3sf3114t10 100 Reviews 295 reads
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25 / 42

You have been on my "to do" list for a while and might hear from me soon when our respective schedules align.

10v3sf3114t10 100 Reviews 282 reads
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I will use TER's Advanced Search feature to find some local providers like you.

Kitty, you are awesome, by the way.

10v3sf3114t10 100 Reviews 271 reads
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...and it was what got me thinking about this issue. I believed that my questions warranted a separate thread because I wanted to focus on different aspects of the issue (e.g. the physical, rather than the psychological), and because that other thread was a few days old by the time that I got around to posting the original message on this thread.

10v3sf3114t10 100 Reviews 358 reads
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"10v3sf3114t10" is my rendering of "lovesfellatio" into leetspeak, also known as 1337.  

Leetspeak is an alternative method of spelling words with numbers that somewhat resemble the letters that they replace. It is common among hackers and other denizens of the Internet. For example, in the case of my handle -  

1 = l
0 = o
3= e
4= a

Another example of a handle that I considered: "H4ck3r4H00k3rz" - Hacker for Hookers

2236707 3 Reviews 279 reads
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austinclark84 78 Reviews 310 reads
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I have encountered the same problem with providers. I think some really go overboard with lube and it can kill the physical sensation. However, not enough lube and it can feel weird for me as well as the lady I'm with.

The key I've found is to just start out with a little bit of lube... then as you get going, she will hopefully be turned on, and you should start to feel some of that natural lubrication

Larissa_Sweets See my TER Reviews 336 reads
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I personally can not for the life of me get wett. I've been to doctors that have recommended  I see a specialist. It has nothing to do with the "date" as I can not even get wet for my SO, therefore Lube is my solution. I have tried it without lube and was ripped not to mention in extreme pain. Also remember not many people are going to put in a review yeah she was sucking my cock and then she got the lube out. It doesn't flow..you know?

10v3sf3114t10 100 Reviews 294 reads
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...with these like giant gobs and handfuls of lube that would be big enough to grease the engines of an aircraft carrier. It makes her pussy feel like a bowl of ice cream. Off the top of my head, I can only recall one provider that I saw apply a more judicious amount of lube.

10v3sf3114t10 100 Reviews 307 reads
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Mentioning the detail about the use of lube, as well as other logistical and operational details, can sometimes detract a bit from the narrative flow of a review.  

By the same token, the use of lube can also disrupt the flow of an actual session and an upcoming round of CFS for a client when a provider spends a few minutes of the time that I paid for fumbling around with a giant vat of lube and putting great big gobs of it into her pussy as I sit or stand there, waiting for her as patiently as possible. Or, for example, if she does not have the lube ready in the room and has to leave me alone in the room for a few minutes to go find it (which happened to me this week and prompted my post).

Accordingly,  I believe that it is important for reviewers to note logistical and operational details like this that might impact the flow of an actual session, however much they might detract from the narrative flow of a review.

vipbrooke92 See my TER Reviews 325 reads
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Condoms dry up the natural wetness of the vagina, as well as blocks your precum from helping to lubricate. If you don't use lube,then no matter how turned on the girl is, it will eventually get dry and create a lot of friction. This will make the condom much more likely to rip, and can create small tears in the vagina. I use lube every time no matter how wet my pussy is.

 
Posted By: 10v3sf3114t10
I dislike the use of lube during vaginal CFS for physical and sensation reasons. It is now approaching the point of becoming a dealbreaker for me. I have encountered the use of lube for vaginal CFS in a sufficiently small minority of my sessions and providers that I believe that I can make it a dealbreaker without cutting myself off from too many providers that are otherwise desirable to me. Before I do so, however, I would like to poll the audience.  
   
 Gentlemen – approximately what percentage of your providers always, usually, or often use lube for vaginal CFS, or what percentage of your sessions have involved the use of lube for vaginal CFS?  
   
 Ladies – how often and consistently (or inconsistently) do you use lube for vaginal CFS? Always? Most of the time? 50/50? Sometimes? Never? How flexible are you on this point? In other words, if I asked you not to use lube for vaginal CFS, what would your answers be? “Hell no!” “OK, if you insist.” “OK.” “Whatever you want, baby.”  
   
 I have tried to address this issue by reading a provider's reviews, but there does not appear to be any consistent answer, i.e. some providers who used lube with their previous reviewers did not use it with me, and some providers who did not use it with their previous reviewers used it with me. I gather that it is not the sort of issue that lends itself to a clear-cut drop-down menu item, like CCBJ vs. BBBJ.  
   
 What would be the best ways to address this issue with an individual provider, if it is not already clear?

hbyist+truth=;( 285 reads
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Have I had to spend a "few minutes" handling the lube...at most it takes about the same time as it does, sometimes even less time, than it does to apply a condom.  

I just am not sure what you are going to do with a hooker who does not find you attractive enough to allow her to produce her own. I mean you are then a big part of the equation. So would you be okay if she said, look you're not doing for me so PV sex is out of the question?  

And how exactly are you going to tell the next hooker you see, you do not want her using lube? Most hookers will not answer that question in a text or email. Then even if she says yes and you show up and get down to business and she cant keep going due to not enough of her own...what are you going to do then?  

As many ladies have chimed in...some can be very attracted and turned on,  just not produce enough wet to allow successful, non irritating intercourse.

You have every right to find a provider that does not use lube. I for one am a big proponent to finding the type of fit that benefits both parties.

hbyist+truth=;( 289 reads
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Are you particularly thick or just plain big in the dick department? I apply a small amount to create a nice flow and that does the trick on an average sized organ.

hey mikey 8 Reviews 291 reads
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Posted By: AlysonParker
It never ceases to amaze me the things about women's bodies that men are just never informed about.  
   
 So you know how sometimes, even when you're super turned on, you can't get an erection? Like, your brain is thinking "I would really love to be hard right now" but your body is taking a frustrating time out? Or, conversely, you know how there are times when you're really not into a lady but you're so horny that you're able to pull it off?  
   
 Women's bodies can work the exact same way. Bodies and minds sometimes just don't mesh the way we would like. Sometimes we can be really, super turned on and for whatever reason (hydration, maybe we recently took some cold medication, wherever we are in our cycle, etc.) we aren't getting as wet as we'd (or you'd) like. On the flip side (sorry, dudes) we can not be turned on at all but the friction or whatever else is going on is causing a physical response. I only say this to address the other myth of: if I say I don't like something, "but you're wet" is not the right response.  
   
 Men seem to be against lube for two reasons: ego (addressed above) and your reason, which is physical enjoyment. I use lube when I need it. Sometimes I need it because there's been no foreplay or any attempt to engage me at all. Sometimes I need it because I'm dehydrated. Sometimes I need it because the condom is rubbing in a weird spot because of how our bodies are aligned, or things have been going on for a long time, or they are especially vigorous.  
   
 And if I need it, I'm going to use it. The last time I "Whatever you want, baby"-ed someone, I ended up with a friction tear. So unless someone is going to pay me for time off + discomfort from being raw and/or torn, we can use the lube or we can do other things.  
   
 Yes, we are in the service industry but we are still made of human, and humans have unique, unpredictable bodies. Those who like to interact with human bodies need to be able to roll with all that comes with them. Those who do not should perhaps look into getting a Real Doll.

SimpleTruth 275 reads
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Noticed that as well.  I was thinking to myself, "If the OP is seeing a provider named Sarah Desert, then he should probably expect lubrication issues from the get-go."

LMAO

(Otherwise, I'd have to agree with H+T's post)

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