I am a single Dad with no close by female relatives and my daughter is asking me some questions that I do not know the answer to.

This is a serious post, so pleae be polite and kind in your answers.

First, she asked me about the "G-spot".  I have heard about it of course, but I told her I really don't know much more.  Maybe it is just a myth?  I certainly never discussed it with her mom or my second wife (now divorced).  Maybe that is why I am divorced.. . .   Seriously, she wants to know about it, so here are some of my questions -  Is it in a slightly different location on different women?  is this something women partners in relationships are comfortable discussing with their SO's?  And any other significant truthful information you would like to give me for her would be appreciated.

Secondly, I believe I am correct in telling her that she can get pregnant without having an orgasm.  Is it also true that a male can impregnate a female even if he does not have an orgasm?  Is there any percentages out there regarding this?

That is all of her questions for now.

Thanks.

**G Spot is not a myth


**Its pretty much in the same place on women (to my knowledge lol)


**If a woman is comfortable talking about sex, she should be comfortable talking about it, I am


**If you feel uncomfortable talking about it there are books you can get on the subject and either you can read it, let her read it or you guys can read it together....the best one I have seen is in a series called KISS (Keeping It So Simple or something like that) and its titled Sex you can get it in the psych section at any Barnes and Nobles and its about $19.95there are other books also in that section that can help you.


**I dont know the percetage but yes she can get pregnant even if he doesn't orgasm and they are having unprotected sex, theres that thing you guys do "pre-ejaculation" its usually only a few drops worth of semen but each drop contains alot of sperm

**Please keep in mind I am not a sex doctor and these are only things that I have learned, heard, or come to realise and they may or may not be true lol

Grafenburg's ganglia (or G-Spot) is not a myth.  It exists on all women, and it's primary function is thought to mitigate pain during childbirth.  

When properly stimulated, the G-Spot can produce a different type of orgasm from those produced by clitoral, or vaginal stimulation.  These G-Spot orgasms have been described to me as not only more intense than the other two, but also as having a deeper, whole-body quality, as well as having the potential (when done properly) of lasting well over a minute.  

In addition, G-Spot stimulation can be combined with stimulation of the clitoris, and/or anus to produce a combined, or blended orgasm.  These little beauties have the differing qualities and intensities of each type, all combined.  This is a good way to make lots of new friends.

It's not uncommon for a woman who's had a blended orgasm to pass out for as long as ten seconds (the French call it, "the little death").  This scared the hell out of me the first time it happened.  I also keep facial tissues by both sides of my bed, because I've made several ladies cry.  It's a reaction to the intensity of the release.

One should also be prepared for squirting (see my earlier post on Skene's paraurethral glands).

The G-Spot is located along the upper vaginal wall, behind the pubic bone.  It's (isn't evolution wonderful?) about a finger's distance in.  At that position, the vagina opens out, and forms a notch above and behind the bone.  If you feel around in there, you'll find a spot that feels a little like the roof of your mouth.  Just beyond that area, is a soft, smooth surface.  That's the general location of the G-Spot.

The G-Spot, of course, isn't in exactly the same place in all women, and as always, each woman reacts differently.  Unlike stimulating the clitoris, one should avoid stimulating the G-Spot until the woman is already fully aroused.  Stimulating the G-Spot too early can be unpleasant.  And initially, the pressure exerted should be very gentle.

As far as pregnancy's concerned, AngelStar's right.  The fluid produced at the tip of the penis during early arousal can contain over ten times the density of sperm as is contained in semen.  Moreover, simply contacting the moistened opening of the vagina or labia minora while producing this, "pre-cum," can distribute enough sperm to ensure at least one reaches the ovum.  These little guys can travel all the way into, and through the vagina, through the cervix and uterus, and up into the fallopian tubes before they die.

What's even more disturbing (for those wishing to avoid pregnancy) is sperm cells can live up to five days inside a woman.  So, even if she's not ovulating at the time of insertion, a woman can still get pregnant under the right (or wrong) circumstances.

I hope this has been helpful.  I imagine, right now, having a nun in the family isn't looking too bad.


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Gee'z; Talk about serious as a heartattack.

(1) She definitely can get pregnant without having an orgasm.
(women have been doing that for centuries).

(2) A male doesn't have to reach orgasm(ejaculate)to impregnate a female. There is a small amount of fluid (pre-ejaculate) that escapes the penis before a man climaxes. this pre-ejaculate can contain a small amount of sperm and It only takes one!.

(3) I'm not real clear on the G-spot issue. It's NOT a myth, they're all a bit different(like their owners) and I think a woman can have more than one(there's a lucky girl&guy).

 Good luck to you "dad"

Damn Lover, can you spend a night with my wife. I told her if she just had an orgasm and knew how awesome it was, she would like to have sex more often!!!
Oh I have to stop now before I get frustrated and start drinking again>>>

I'm a single dad, too, although of a boy.  Be pleased that your daughter loves you so much and feels free enough to ask an intimate question of that nature. It's clear, too, that you love her enough to seek an answer. Do your research; you'll be able to relate to her what the experts say and that you cared enough to ferret out the answers.
Congratulations on great parenting.

You've clearly done an excellent job at a very difficult and important task.  Hats off.

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You can get some good information, and the name of some good books at http://www.talksexwithsue.com

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As a single father of 2 boys (now grown up and doing fine!) I know how difficult your job is.  And having a daughter is even harder, because of instances like yours. That you are looking for help, even amongst the perverse and reprobate on this board is very much to your credit.

When it came to questions regarding relationships (boy-girl) and sex (in any flavor), I thank God that they were boys and I had no trouble frankly discussing anything they had curiosity about. I cannot begin to imagine counseling a young lady.  

Hats Off to You!!

Masters and Johnson debunked the popular myth about different types of orgasms, at that time thought to be clitoral vs. vaginal.  The vaginal orgasm comes from indirect stimulation of the clitoris.  Physiologically they are the same.  Psychologically are they different?  Thankfully for many women coming with a full vagina feels better than with an empty one, but that's a subjective thing and probably could be debated.