... she remembers you... remembers your name...

Man do you need to reach analysis paralysis on everyfuckingthing?  And really, in your personal relationships the women have had the upper hand?  Whoda thunk it?

Upper hand on you? Shocking.  

is this in fact someone you know?  if so, how do you know her?  and for how long?  what was the nature of your prior interaction?    

Unless she's psychic, we have to assume that you have actually met this girl before (but you don't remember her?). OOPs.

You're gonna have a bad time...

trying to 'splain how the world really works to one of the most naive and childish males ever to set foot here.  But, c'mon, humanist, you've been around long enough to know the poor child just won't get it. He's gotten such good advice over the past few months but is clearly just incapable of breaking out of his box.  Give it up an just try pounding your head into a brick wall.
It's much more satisfying.  And you're more likely to bust a hole in the wall than get through to him

If you're on a date and you find yourself wondering whether you should kiss the girl, KISS THE GIRL.

He has enough issues wondering how to man up...now you throw this conundrum in the fray.

You're a nice guy. Which is precisely why you get so much shit on this board. Personally, I think you're adorable.  

Why do you suppose they don't get dumped on?

Posted By: hotplants

You're a nice guy. Which is precisely why you get so much shit on this board. Personally, I think you're adorable.  
   
 But, based on nothing more than what you said in your OP, it "sounds like" this girl might have some interest in you. If you are interested too, go back and talk to her. Worst case is she blows you off and you'll be exactly where you are now,

ou guys give RT an endless uber-shit-load of crap on every single post he makes. I've never seen the justification for it.  

... a jerk for not understanding what I had posted above this post.

But I'd like some names of those culprits.

Posted By: hotplants

 
 You guys give RT an endless uber-shit-load of crap on every single post he makes. I've never seen the justification for it.  
   
 So there. Sticking my tongue out at you....  
   
 Doh....here's a smiley face, lest we get off on a bad road.  I'm not in the mood. I have headache.  
 

This hobby of ours cuts through all the bullshit.  It simplifies, clarifies, and immensely satisfies.  It's cheaper than golf and it rarely pisses me off the way golf does.  Why anyone would want to complicate something of such awesome, binary purity is beyond me.

But I'm bored, I've had a few, and ROGM ain't around to tick me off so I figured hey, maybe I'll play Captain Save-a-John.  Pointless and futile, but in the end isn't everything?

I mean, REALLY distinguish?  Because you should you know.

You don't owe lifetime of penance for a childhood transgression that didn't hurt anyone.  The smart money says you're carrying this around and letting it influence your behavior (and not in a good way despite what you may think) and if you do find her an apologize she'll barely remember it, if at all.  Bottom line:  women want and deserve respect, but they don't want their asses kissed.  Huge turnoff.

It's a fool's errand, stop it.

This is well trodden ground out here but OK.  My impression is that you forever bend over backwards to be what is, in your mind, the "perfect gentleman," and as such you are constantly fretting over your behavior and second guessing your actions in ANY situation, P4P or civie.  Ergo you do not distinguish.  Do you not see that this is counterproductive and ultimately makes you less, nor more, desirable to potential civie mates?  P4P could be your therapy but you extend your civie baggage into this world.  Anyway nobody likes a doormat...in my experience women like men.

I'm not your friend, but I'm not your enemy either; you are a human being and as such I care about your well being in the abstract.  You should really talk to a therapist and try to slay your demons.  As demons go they're pretty mild...I mean seriously, when you were a boy you were goaded into acting inappropriately toward a girl?  Welcome to a little play called "THE LIFE OF EVERY MAN YOU'VE EVER KNOWN!"  Do what you gotta do to get the hell over it.

I have people greet me by my name practically every time I go out! Now I have the feeling that they all want to seduce me!

Roddy boy...

You just produced the most cogent analysis of Rod that I've seen.  So what does he do?  He says he gets it, then continues on the subject to prove he really doesn't.
And, as usual, needs to demonstrate he's a real man by referring to his physical prowess.  Oh, well, at least he didn't point out he can bench 400 lbs. so perhaps there's hope.  Not

Unless you're the best troll I've ever seen, you seem to actually be a nice guy.
Which is totally not the point.  And I don't have the desire to explain (again) what the point is.  That's been done to death.

I get it.  But at a certain point......??????

Nor did I expect to.  But it was fun being on the show...moving on

Just remember, if you don't ask then the answer is always 'no'  

Never said I didn't hate  you, LOL!
But seriously, I don't hate you.  You're not worth the effort and energy that hate requires.  You're merely annoying and clueless.  And staying away is not an option because your cluelessness makes you huge fun to tease. That's it.
Oh, and also, when you do try to give advice, it's such bad advice I feel compelled to let people know it.  Otherwise lurkers who are clueless as you might act on the "advice" you give and get into trouble.
I hope it's all clearer now.  Why is it I somehow doubt that?

It seems that maybe what's at the heart of what is happening for you in the civie world is that you are getting a bit ahead of yourself.  

I see you are going to ask this lady you met for coffee.  good for you.  once again, not sure if this is unsolicited advice or not, but since you put it out here i'll give it a go.

Accepting of a "nice guy" who's a clueless, naive, immature mangina?  Sorry, Rodster, but it ain't gonna happen.  Perhaps some day when you grow up, should that ever happen.

You are totally pathetic

Instafram?  

So you believe his sorry ass?

Damn well better b

Duh. I was mocking the idiocy of your pathetic diatribe by pointing out a typo. Sorry you missed that. But not shocking. AH.

What difference to me the root cause of Rodism?

A virulent form of Mangina-ism complicated by chronic cluelessness.

Why you continually tie yourself in knots over the simplest things is beyond me.

A girl smiles at you, you like her. Simply do what men and women have been doing since the beginning of time. Go for it.

Honestly, what's the worst thing that can happen? Sure, she could reject you and if you are truly a man, you'll get over it. Isn't that preferable to wondering "what if" every time you meet a cute girl who is nice but not the aggressive type?

You constantly whine about us picking on you for being "clueless" and yet you constantly make posts that prove us right. Man up for once in your life and ask the girl out. If she says no, hire a hooker, and you will have forgotten about her in minutes.

Ok that I'll buy