If you were to take an honest look inward, is there anything that even though it hasn't left you wanting to drop out or stop completely, has left you with sort of a blasé attitude about this stuff in which you're involved?

But experience has greatly helped. My ability to research has vastly improved over the years but the bigger thing is, for me at least, is knowing when to take breaks from the hobby. I build in some downtime 2-3 times a year, lasting a month or more sometimes, and that has made me avoid becoming burnt out as it allows me to enjoy my dates even more.

Yes, this can become very addictive; breaks are imperative for sustainability.

...are part of my game plan. Any time I feel that I'm becoming jaded or burned out with ANYTHING, not just p4p, I step away from it for a while. I'll then reassess whether it's still something I want to do and, if so, get back into it.

My ability to perform has gone down since I started in the hobby, and that comes with aging.  

...in the hobby is when there's been obsessive attachment to me by a provider, no doubt because of my wallet and not anything else lol.  

a simple text saying: "I had fun but now I'm moving on" could have avoided someone ringing your doorbell non-stop for about an hour in the middle of the night.

...that something similar wasn't already done lol!

There is a certain percent of escorts who generally like their profession and prefer it to many others available to them. Finding this makes the endeavor much more enjoyable, rather than the public perception that they are all financially desperate man haters.

Mya--I LOVED reading your story--it's great to hear ladies that have nothing but positives to say about this fascinating "underground" world we reside in.  

...that's EXACTLY what they were doing lol!

Yeah, I know what you mean

Thanks for the post. I remember decades ago talking to a doc who told me about a patient of his who was still getting it on at 80! In hearing the story, that was my first introduction to the physical phenomenon of sexual latency. The 80-yo could only have sex once a month, but he reported that it was still great. I was young enough at the time that a daily orgasm or two was still the routine. Girlfriend/wife, or porn, didn't matter. Unfortunately, I've grown (aged) to know what that latency feels like. It pisses me off! It's not fair. It shouldn't be! LOL.
 
This hobby changed things up enough at the beginning to make the problem of latency almost forgotten. And that's where getting jaded comes in. The additional excitement from getting to fuck a girl 1/3 my age and doing it the way I want to is starting to feel not so new and exciting anymore. Damn. At least I had 7 or so months of feeling like I was in my 20s again. Ha! I thought the issue would be inability to get a hardon. That's easily fixed. What goes is, and I don't have better words to describe it, the easy arousal and resulting animal compulsion.  
 
I got laid a couple nights ago and it was great. That was after a two-week layoff. Prior to that, I was still trying to be with a girl once a week, but in the last month it had started to feel forced.
 
I, too, have fallen in as a repeat customer where there's chemistry. I hate it when one of those girls leaves the area. I wonder when I'll be at the once a month stage. I'll have to remind myself that it's better than none at all!

I'm not trying to say anything. I just jumped in without reading anything and said, I would be jaded because I don't know about dating and stuff.  
But you can still share that thing or two with the rest of the following public of this thread.  
I like it when this happens in real life, "are you trying to say that..." and the two people are talking about nothing the same. LOL . It used to bother me or get me in trouble. But at this age and not working or studying with women around just brings me memories  and laugh.

I've read for a while now.

Some great comments on this subject here on what is of course a complex subject.

Transaction for service ... there was just today a twitter thread by SW'ers who no longer have "free sex" with civies.  It's called hypergamy and almost all women use sex in trade for support.  Not saying they can't or don't enjoy sex, but they know they can trade it for support, so they do.   Doesn't matter if it is sex work, girlfriends, or wives.  It's just what women do.

A thoughtful and intelligent post on TER?

Agree wholeheartedly. I think I'm in pretty good shape, interesting to talk to and I can even be charming and funny in short spurts. But when I compare myself to my friends who can't get a civvie date to save their lives, the main difference--and the main reason I've dated consistently even through the pandemic--is that I bring something tangible to the table.  I've got money in the bank, property and a good income.  Even if the women I date aren't looking for someone to take care of them, it's always there in the background like an unspoken thought. And they sure as hell don't want a man who himself needs to be taken care of.

"support" per se, just keep gifting her chocolate, lingerie and jewelry, and she till be delighted.  Women love jewelry (make sure its the real deal - diamonds and gold) and when other women admire it, they love saying, "my boyfriend/husband gave it to me."   Even if she needs no help with rent, car payment, of other basics, she will still know she has a keeper, and if she DID need that kind of help, you would step up.  Why lingerie?  Its the gift that keeps on giving back all year long.  Lol

But it doesn't have to always be diamonds and gold (Though I've bought enough of them nevertheless)

But I have NEVER gone shoe shopping with a woman for two reasons . . . .  1)  Its the most boring thing I can think of doing,  (It brings me "got rope?" thoughts - lol), and if you go shoe shopping with a woman, everyone thinks you're gay  (Only gay men know ANYTHING about women's shoes.)    

They usually come in pairs, for one. And in addition to that...  

I got seated for a dinner date recently knowing the lady, a newer provider, might not show...she didn't. It was that few minutes sitting there and realizing that while I wanted her to show, if she didn't, life would go on. And I did have other dates scheduled on this particular Vegas trip that worked out fine. More water under the blase bridge....

with semi-precious stones is often one-of-a-kind, so the value is often in the uniqueness.  The only downside is that they are often mounted in sterling silver rather than gold in order to keep the price reasonable.  Gold does not tarnish, silver does, so I generally try to avoid silver jewelry.  I want to give her a gift, not a cleaning project, but curiously enough, many women don't mind cleaning their jewelry.  Its like a rich guy counting his money every day.  Lol

A piece is worth more if you do NOT polish the sliver than if you do.

but not about everyday Jewelry.  That's good to know.  

The attitudes, deception (Theft of service) & the hobbyists acting as if us "PROVIDERS" should cheapen ourselves just so they can have what they want.

Bingo! Taking breaks is important.  It keeps things fresh.  Especially with the highly limited supply in Bay Area at present.
I tried an experiment of taking a break, and found that Jnr responded well even a mediocre experience .. if you find yourself chasing the bigger, better rush, take a break.