..plus what the hell were you thinking booking 12 hrs with someone you never saw before. Talk about stupid.
Recently saw a provider who has a total of 7 reviews with an overall average of 9+. We had scheduled an overnight and early on in the evening, she had asked if I write reviews. I said yes, but hadn't written one in awhile. She asked if at all possible please "don't" write a review and please keep in mind this was in the first hour of meeting. She might have been sensing my disappoint coupled with the fact that wasn't very good chemistry even early on. I did feel her looks did not warrant the 9+ ratings but I've come to realize most reviews are overstated even the reviews I have written. In any event we had an okay time and I haven't written a review. It truly could come down to a YMMV scenario and our lack of mutual chemistry was apparent in the 12 hours we spent together. I haven't written a review and if I did my review scores would certainly bring down her average. Should I write the review or just chock it up to the lack of a connection? Thanks!
I wouldn't write the review but I would use her as a reference your just as good as your worse session and when life gives you an orange make orange juice. Nothing good is going to come from an honest review why smear her name because you two weren't compatible. I have taken the last month off and I can honestly tell you my last two sessions were terrible as well. I didn't write the review as I didn't think the girl needed the bad press. I use to think I was compatible with everyone because of my age, the way I look and the way I fuck. The deeper I get into this world the more I understand how chemistry and connections are everything in this world. As far as overnights I wouldn't have even considered an overnight without spending an hour with her prior. But that's just me.
Those are my 2cents.
"Nothing good is going to come from an honest review."
I have a hard time with this limp attitude. The outcome is that Pdel - and all the rest of you, lets be honest - live with disappointment as a fact of life around here. Those who are not routinely disappointed are simply those who have become proficient in TER math. (10 = 8, etc etc.)
A review is just your opinion. And TER averages are just numbers - frequently manipulated numbers, at that. A few more words of honesty, on the other hand, could actually mean something.
xo - MiMi
From a newbie's point of view. If you read the reviews and there are enough of them you can't go wrong. I've had 12 providers with 20 trips to the alter and have never been disappointed with a single date. I ask the girls about bad reviews and they will tell you a good reason why. The young girls often are a little late don't quite have things ready but once ready they do a good job. Most have never had a job where they had to punch a time clock. That doesn't bother me at all. A lot of bad reviews people have are sometimes due to the performance of the client . Not always. If the client has bad breath and the provider won't kiss whose fault is it. If the client can't get aroused was it the fact that the provider wasn't dressed sexy. I'm a believer that you get out of it what you put in it. Atlanta is blessed with a fantastic bunch of women which makes it easy. I love every one of them.
Bravo for the bold, on target opinion. If a provider doesn't want reviews, her request should be made before the meet not during or after. It should be a precondition. Maybe TER should have a field in the provider's profile labeled "Accepting Reviews", yes or no or YMMV.
Yes, TER math exists in the minds of too many hobbyists and many have posted only 8-10s as in everybody deserves a medal just for showing up. Interesting that the voices that say "write the review" are those of hobbyists who have given scores of less than 7 while the those who say don't write it, have given scores greater than 7.
Write it!
TER's policy is any provider having a "No Review" policy will be banned from the site. The whole point of TER is reviews. They don't allow a No Review policy.
If so, wow - bad call...
If lack of chemistry was the cause of disappointment, then move on without writing the review.
Stuff happens even with the best of intentions. No sense in making her pay for it.
i bet a big part of your disappointment was that you spent so much time and $ on someone you didn't connect with.
but that could have been alleviated if you had scheduled a shorter session with her first, to find out you had no chemistry.
what i am saying is, i bet you wouldn't have been AS disappointed with her for an hour as you were for 12 hours.
not do an overnight with someone you haven't seen before; preferably, someone you haven't even done a dinner date with.
not do an overnight with someone you haven't seen before; preferably, someone you haven't even done a dinner date with.
I assume that you are going to rate her significantly lower than 9+. An 8 or even a 7 could be chalked up to you being a tough grader or being in a foul mood for booking an overnite that was way below expectations. Anything lower does call into question her past ratings. It is a tough call. Go flip a coin.
Dude, reviews are simply you explaining what YOU liked or didn't.
Write it as long as it's honest...and I'm finding there aren't many of those.
want a review. And if she says no fine. If she says yes I let her read it before posting. It is her business that would take the If it is a awful session I do not offer to write a review.
And as a pro, in any field, you perform or you get knocked down a bit. If you paid big money for Springsteen tickets and he came out and dialed it for for say, 90 minutes, the reviews would reflect it. Your Dr. or Lawyer?, hell yes.
If she accepts the coin for an overnight, it is up to her to make sure the chemistry is right. She should sense what is working and what isn't, talk to you and alter the time. If not, then she clearly doesn't deserve the 9+ rating.
Wouldn't that be something that comes about after mutual compatibility has been established with a shorter visit first?
Talk about rolling the dice!
...They aren't the same thing. If she did something deserving of a bad review (poor performance, fake pics, upsell, poor hygiene, etc.) you should write it.
If it's an honest review of the events it's your call. Will it be useful to others considering seeing her? Will it be useful to her? Do you share any responsibility for the disappointing session? If so will you acknowledge that in the review? These are the things to consider when deciding whether to write a review or not.
One more thing, did you tell her you would not write a review? If so it seems you've already answered whether you should write one or not.
Edited to add:
After more thought I felt I needed to add a bad review as I described above can be an honest review. I was trying to make the point an honest review of this situation didn't have to be a bad review which would denigrate the provider.
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Thank you everyone for all the great responses. To clarify; we had been communicating for nearly 4 months prior to meeting and those communications mostly email were excellent, felt as if we were building a solid repertoire. I did originally schedule a 4 hour dinner date but she was travelling a long distance and felt like we would "click" so I opted for the overnight the day before our meeting. If I did write a review it would be honest and I would certainly take responsibility for my actions or lack of action as it were.
Thanks again!
After reading most of the responses here and you're take on what lead on to an "ill advised overnighter" here's what you should do.....Do an Honest review. Yes you should have done the 4 hour dinner date but I see that she hinted at a longer session, her feeling was that you guys would click, (although it sounds like she wanted to get the most out of this date due to the travel). You being the nice guy that you are and based on all the great communication that you guys were having, you took her up on it. It didn't work for whatever reason. I'm not going to say she should have worked harder at it or you should have done this or that..it just didn't work.So I guess you'll opt for the review, but be very honest and not malicious....I'm sure she'll understand...Caca happens.
..plus what the hell were you thinking booking 12 hrs with someone you never saw before. Talk about stupid.
She asked you not to write a review, so I would not write one.
either asked you before your appointment or at the end. To have asked you after just getting together is just plain bullshit and for you to agree to it before services were rendered dumb.
If you truly believe she gave you the same kind of service that she would have given you had she not asked you to not write a review then do not write one. It sounds like you believe she gave you a crappy session since you gave her no repocussions for doing so and if that is true then you should call her out for it and write the review.
Believe me I know as I had a prior experince like this and have regretted not writing that review ever since and have vowed to never agree to not writing one again unless the girl asks me at the end of our time together and I can honestly agree to it.
First, I agree with the poster that asked why agree to an overnight session with a provider you don't know. But not to beat up the poster of this thread, I will not harp on that point. I will say that just as it is the providers preference to see who she wants, it is also the clients preference to review who he chooses to. Amongst all the fake reviews written, some over exaggerated 10s and whatnot as well as those who just have fake reviews written by pimps to drum up business, an honest review (although it may negatively affect her average) is needed. Sure there are cases of YMMV, and maybe it was an off night for her. Nonetheless, the client should not feel pressured to not write an honest assessment of his time spent with said provider. It will only help the next guy doing research and trying to make a decision on whether or not to see that provider. All reviews aren't always good, but they shouldn't be diluted with perfect scores while there are unhappy clients that have been shhh'd and told to not write a review. I have wrote a couple of not so good reviews and it was nothing personal, but they needed to be written, and they were an honest assessment. With that being said, I have also done my research and read 8s and 9s in the looks department only to get to the room and feel utterly disappointed.
Note: If a providers performance is going to be dictated on the looks of a client, then that provider should make it clear whom they prefer to offer their services to. Some ladies ask for a pic or a physical description beforehand, nothing wrong with that because it is their prerogative. And if she knew within the first hour, then cut your loses, pay her for her time thus far and cancel the remaining time of the session. No sense in two adults being tied to one another for the remainder of the night if neither of you want to be there.
whatever anyone else's experiences were is subjective to them.....the problem as I see it is that you made an overnight appt w/o first having assessed the chemistry w the provider, that in my opinion is a big mistake, so why write a bad review
I will readily admit it was a mistake to agree on the overnight. I'm the type of person to give everyone the benefit of the doubt sometimes to my detriment. If I were to write a review it wouldn't necessarily be "bad" review it would be lower in ratings than her previous reviews. I am leaning toward that "honest" review.
An untested overnight is a risk - but it's not an automatic fail. I've had a few, none of which ended badly - and one of which goes into my Playdate Hall of Fame (not to be confused with my Playdate Hall of Infamy!).
So, yeah, it's a risk. But don't think it was unforgivably stupid, like some of these naysayers would have you believe!
-MM
OK, after reading all this about the overnighter and whether or not you should write a review, I want to read a review. So write one.
BTW, If you have the money and want to spend it on an hour or a week with a provider, spend it and enjoy it!
but in every case my scores and written description honestly & fairly reflected the experience. I indeed took into account my share of the duet & stated so in the text. In retrospect, I think the number grade in a couple of cases might have deserved slightly lower scores, but we don't have decimals or fractions.
Who is on this earth schedule overnight over reviews? Mmm.. probably you, I guess. This should be written in the law of rules that you first meet the provider for an hour or two before you plunge into such a long journey and after that you would sense if overnight will be great or not. As for if you should write review or not, it is completely up to you, but keep in mind you initially did a wrong thing scheduling for such a long time without testing waters for an hour or so. Xo
...if we all decide only to review when we think someone is a 9 or 10. That's crazy and defeats the purpose of having a review site. It doesn't sound like you were suddenly going to slam her with a 3...or even a 6....and I'm all for the benefit of the doubt (give her an 8 if you are torn between a 7 and 8). But to avoid providing input is misleading to others on here.