Have any of you guys ever been busted because you were with a TER provider? I would think the women on this sight are everyone’s safest bet.

What is the punishment for meeting someone if you get caught?

as for the punishment, it's usually a citation.  In some areas, they have taken to confiscating your car if that was involved in the situation.

The worst punishment is getting your name in the paper and your SO finding out and then getting sued for divorce.

That's the main worry for most people.