What's the BFD over knowing someone's "real" name? I can count dozens of provider who have "trusted" me with their real name. I mean WTF, it's just a name. When she gives you her DOB and SSAN, then she trusts you. lmao

... It happens. For the most part they are strictly professional but they are also human.

Its usually a very guarded business the ladies take part in and rightfully so. Yet if she is comfortable with you she is more apt to let her guard down. How far ? All the way down sometimes.

Here are a few examples:

She asked me for my ID and handed me hers at the same time. Could have been fake but it wasn't.

One told me how much of her cut she held back from giving the agency because they don't keep track well enough. Cuddle time conversation.

I know the true names, first and last of many of the ladies that I have been with and they themselves volunteered them during pillow talk.

One gave me her wallet and pocketbook to lock up in my hotel room safe.

One took me to her home to pick something up on the way to my hotel to play.

One handed me her license to carry for her because she didn't want to drag a pocket book around.

One left my room without taking the envelope. I had to run her down to get it to her.

It may be taking it a bit too far but its all a matter of comfort and trust.

wait until the kids start calling you "daddy" rofl I don't think I ever want to feel that special.

Although there is one that is now "Face Book Family" with my mother now. That might be a bit too special as well. lol

One gal told me her "real" name after about a year of seeing her.  Several years later she told me her "real-real" name.

Some gals I've known for years, and still don't know their names; other gals tell me almost right away.

One gal always uses her real name.  I asked her why she does that. She said "Because it's my name."   OK.

Still others reveal their names without knowing it by having guys come to their place and seeing mail with their name on it laying around.

One time we went out to dine and she got carded, so I saw her name then.

Bottom line:  I don't care one way or another, but I think the gals should.

if they told me the truth lol

I remember one time when I was cuddling after a session that I mentioned my real first name.  

Thank goodness I remember that I told her.

Now when I forget it I call her.

Have you ever had a provider tell you her real first name?  I've had a few girls tell me their first name by 'accident'. This happens during the pillow talk part of the date. So is it my charming personality that puts them at ease, or is this a sales technique for future dates. IE: I must be special for her to be so relaxed and reveal her real name.

narcissism.

But you do realize that most gals have their stage name(s)...and their real names for guys like you, and then their legal names that I doubt you will ever know.

But if it makes you feel better, yep you're special

to know a provider's real name.  Especially if you enjoy their company and spend some time together.  If you ever travel together, you will know her name.

I know most girls I see last names too. I've been invited to girls' homes, have done many overnights, weekends etc.  I have a lot of provider friends, and usually know birthdays, home addresses, and even  kid's names oftentimes etc.  I'm a laid back guy, and party with many girls. Many girls are comfortable with me, and trust me.  I have some haters also LOL, but I usually know their real names too.

I was never under the impression that these girls gave me their legal names. Looks like some of big dogs are trying to take a bite out of me. lol. Still learning the ropes.

Meet the mom and have names and DOB of the kids.  2 moms and at least 3 of names/dates of the kids.  Even with all that, I still don't feel that special.  Now, if one of them would give me a hug, we might be on to something, lol.  Oh wait, it's a TUG, not a hug.  I'm new with all this English stuff.

Every provider is going to be different in what they disclose to you in your intimacy. Some will be highly guarded about simply their first name; others have no compunction about it and include their last.  
YOU ain't special; they're just giving you what their comfortable with..

unlike the OP I don't really give a crap about your real name, your "real real" name, your various stage names, your legal name, or even the one that I would put on your tax return tied to your social security number.

That is why most of us are in this game.  I don't need to know any more than "you love me" for that hour or two.

And then we forget each others names till the next time

so full of shir

I'm signing the tax return that I prepared for you.  Then I would think it is appropriate that I really have all of the pertinent data.

But if all we are doing is meeting for a quick interlude I really don't need to know anything more about your "real" life.  But as you said, if we did become long term friends (more than pillow talk action) and this rolled over to something more than P4P, sure, tell me your name.

stage name, "real name" in the hobby, and legal name are all distinct concepts.

i have several provider friends for which i know a name beyond the stage name. for two of them i am pretty sure that it is only a "hobby real name" and not a "legal real name".

i also know that pillow talk about names can cause an unnecessary freak out. in one case the provider and knew a number of folks in common before we ever met. we stumble over that in pillow talk and started comparing notes and two items caused a "freak out" reaction on her part.

one was my mention of a highly intelligent fellow who worked for me. he had the same name as her exSO, which led to the fact that i was remotely acquainted with her exSO. (i had had a memorable discussion about fine wines with her (unknown to me) exSO.

the second freak out happened was less well defined. she had a common "hobby real surname" and when i mentioned another surname in the context of risk analysis (investment chat) with the same initial she really went off the wall. i think that other name with the same initial may have been her "real legal surname". i never checked.

best not to take it too seriously and to talk less than i did. it may cause unnecessary grief.

R.G. is right....it is not uncommon.

I know the first name of at least 20 providers....of those I know the Last Name of 10 of them....and of that group I am personal friends with and know intimate personal details of 8 of the ladies.  If you tend to see people on a regular basis a friendship can develop along with the business relationship so getting to know someone is not that unusual.

And weight.... And measurements....

Absolutely. Some you know, I know. Two of them were ladies I flew here for the weekend(separate occasions) and needed their names for the plane tickets.

Shit, know some of their kid's names. Talked to a couple of them, too. One was a lady's son on leave from Afghanistan after she picked him up from the airport. Thanked him for doing what he's doing out there, and the respectful fucker thanked me, of all people! Another was a child, and no one would believe me if I told how that conversation went.

Let's just say the lady cried because....

It's funny, cuz if anyone went on my phone and saw real lady's names they'd think I know a lot of civvie girls. No 'Suzylikestocum' or 'Fuckngrrrl', or some shit like that. Just the names like the lady that sits in the cubicle next to you, or your buddy's GF.

Showed me pix of their kids, heard all the shit about their SOs, what some of them do for work in the 'real' world. Invited me into their homes, and I mean, didn't feel like an incall. Picked me up at airports or what-not, on our way to this or that.

It's a lot of shit to compute sometimes. But the way I see it, they're in a comfort zone, and that's fuckin' alright with me.

Oh. Thought you were talking about a lady I saw. Charming lady. Wrote a review even...

Know her real name too...

If clients ask me, I give them a very real-sounding but very fake name. I go to great lengths to protect my privacy and theirs-keeping no evidence, tossable phone, etc.. Hell, I don't care what their name is, can't even remember sometimes............so I name em all honey.