I had an incall date tonight with a well-known provider in the area (59 TER reviews). This was my first time seeing her, but she did not ask for references which seemed a little hinky, but I have seen two other providers who also didn't so I put those concerns aside.

She wanted me to call her when I was on my way to get the room number (no surprise there), so I did so ten minutes before I was supposed to arrive. She had not gotten there yet, so I told her I would kill some time and get there in about 15.

After killing ten minutes at Best Buy, I tried to call again when I was about to get there to verify the room number, but no answer. I went to the door, no answer. As I was standing there I saw an unmarked pull into the parking lot, and as I left I saw a cruiser parked on the other side of the building. Probably unrelated, but a little spooky.

I drove around a bit, tried to call several times, left a couple of messages, she never answered or called back. I went back to the hotel after about 20 minutes, knocked, no answer (spooky cars were gone). At that point I decided to head home (a 40 minute drive), and tried calling a few more times on the way home, leaving a couple of messages.

Once I got home I sent a couple of emails and still have not heard a word, so I'm getting a little concerned that something bad happened to her.

So do you think I gave off a creepy vibe making her bail, should I quit trying to contact her, should I persist? Any advice or input is welcome. I've only been in the hobby for a few months and this is the first time this has happened- what's the proper etiquette here?

Any feedback is appreciated.

maybe she got busted, or paranoid. you should have gone home after she didnt answer your first call.

...saw the police cars too, and bolted.  She probably associates you with the police cars and isn't answering your messages.  Bad stroke of luck for you, but that's part of this endeavor.

Find someone else and move on.

but honestly who can blame them.  They have to be looking out of one corner of their eye all the time (le, psychos, stalkers, rip offs, etc., etc.)  I understand your concern here but the more you try to contact her the more you will spook her (if in fact she was spooked).

If something really happened to her, you concern is admirable... but honestly what could you really do.  If it were me, I would pull back and wait to see if she posts just to ease my fears.  But I would not contact her any more.  And I would not leave a no show review.

If you think you were spooked by the unmarked and other activity... just imagine how she must have felt.

My advice is if she is getting the room, and as a provider I do not give out my room # until you arrive. Then tell her to get the room call back with the room number, be in the vicinity and then just head over. This way you dont look like a creepy guy in a hotel parking lot.

If you the client are to get the room I suggesat calling the girl immediately prior to getting the room see where she is how far away, make sure she isnt a flake and you wont be wasting your hard earned $ that so many of us forget that most of you guys work very hard to make and treat yourselves to liasons with us. If she is no where near, wait to get the room, when she tells you she is 10 mins away ask for exactly where if her landmark fots the time then she is on the up and up  mostly and you can be pretty sure if she really is 10 mins away she will be showing up.

If it's a well known provider, were a bit more concious of our reputations and for the most pat (speaking for myself, never pull no shows or are even late, ok sometimes it happens and cant be helped but consistency is the key to finding a good girl to supply you with your wants)

If she stood you up, let it be known to the boys on the board, had it been me doing the standing up I'd expect you to post it also. Perhaps when she sees that her income isn't what it should be due to a rep of no shows then she might change her ways and she'd have YOU to thank for helping her!

Just my take on it,

Samantha Summers on Vacation till Dec 1

The situation has too many red flags to be worth the trouble. If your gut tells you something is wrong--not to mention LE on site---then it probably is. Leave her be...she'll call you if she wants to see you or explain. Otherwise, back to the smorgasbord.

My approach has been to send one e-mail, along the lines of "Missed you last night. Is everything okay?"

She will either answer or not.

Considering everything that took place I would enquire how she was doing and leave it at that. This happens alot more than you read about here for any number of reasons, only she knows what happened. There are too many great women out there but being concerned is a good thing.
Be At Peace

Cliff:

This has happened to me, too.

I live about 53 miles from the lady who has since become my main
provider (I have not reviewed her at her request), but our first
"assignation" six months ago was a comedy of errors...

I called her up on a Sat afternoon after seeing her pix on eros
and she had the whole afternoon free- GREAT. I make the date, go to the ATM, get the donation requested, and I'm on the superslab heading north.

Upon passing the agreed-upon first checkpoint, I call her, give her my 20 and ETA and she says.."I'm waitng for you..hurry up!"

I arrive at the final destination, call her up...and nothing.
Go to her building, hit the buzzer... and NOTHING.

Then, I see a plainclothes LE vehicle pull up into the parking lot across the street, so I leave the building, have a smoke,
and just chill while I watch Smokey.. who finally leaves.

Thinking that I had just AVOIDED an LE sting, I decide that
today isn't going to happen, so I get in the car and head home.

I was pissed, to put it mildly. I called her back up and left
her a FLAME VM about driving over 100 miles for zip, about how I KNEW she was LE and I was going to OUT her to eros AND TER.

She called back immediately.. IN TEARS.. saying that she thought I WAS LE because my cellphone area code did not match where I said I lived AND that she KNEW LE was watching her and that she had dropped her landline phone because she thought it was being tapped, etc etc. She literally BEGGED me not to do anything until
I could meet with her, how she needed to earn a living, etc.  

I felt completely ashamed of myself. On getting home, I emailed
her an apology, and then called her up on my landphone from the proper area code. We talked for about 40 min getting to know each other, and then I said, let me take you to dinner after work,
I feel so bad about this and it will be "just dinner" owing to time constraints BUT I WILL PAY YOU for the date we didn't have anyway.

We had a wonderful dinner, I wound up going home with her anyway
and spending the night, and 20 dates later she is now my most
treasured provider....

MR

Let it be known who stood you up and let her defend herself.

She may have a habit of standing guys up and no one ever mentions it.

I have had a situation like this happen. I started feeling a little uneasy about a particuar situation and I refused to see the person at the last minute. (There were reasons)
It is tough to say whether I would have trusted the person any more if I had been contacted again however not being contacted again made me feel that I was right about "abandoning the mission" in the first place.
It is usually right for us to trust our instincts even if occassionally we are wrong.
I think contacting her again is the right idea and if you do not hear back from her......let it go.
Maybe the situation will present itself again someday.

I have to say this for all the girls out there who have experienced the same thing...SHIT HAPPENS!  Honestly, people are nota as reliable as some cars I have owned....

Yea, it sux.  Yes, we don't like it.  And you know what, we should all do what is appropriate to make this hobby more fun and stable!

Stick to your word.  How often have some of my fellow girls gone on calls and have been asked to discount?  How often do they see your posted gift online or in some other ad and asked, for the thrill, How much?  Get Real!

We all need to.  We all have needs and wants and we know what the service requires.  Can't we all just be honest to one another???

Ok this is what I have to say.
Being stood up? Yes me too.
The last 2 days I have been stood up by
about 10 different providers. I come to find out,
somewhere I am thinking it is here , has been writing on a  
forum where the providers can review the customers etc.
I dont know who or why , but someone posted something about me that is bad and now no one wants anything to do with me.
It is totally insane. I am such a nice guy & always on time.
Any appointments missed were by total accident.
I wish this person would of actually called me and talked
to me about it. But it just all seems so made up since I didnt do a thing that I am aware of. Each time for me it has been hell since I am waiting for people so long. Then they never call.  Finally I called one provider back and they said how I was on the bunk list and how I was never going to get a girl ever again. And granted however irritating all that is ,
it isnt even as disturbing as what the next provider I talked to
told me was being decribed that I was maybe beating people up
or something absurd. SO if anyone has a clue about any of this, please help me out and paste the link of these accusations so I know more. I am a totally kind person and wouldnt hurt a soul , so there must be some confusion. So if your listening and are the person
that is causing this thing, please fix it. I have no idea what you think I did wrong, so talk it over with me via email or whatever please. All the providers that have seen me
have always felt pretty good with me, and if needed I can ask them to post here on there own... ITs all lame and childish though folks...