TER General Board

What info do you share when responding to another provider's verification request?
GoogleWasMyIdea 2154 reads
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Dear Ladies of TER

I know most of your pretty routinely respond to client verification requests from other providers.

I'm really curious... what do you tell other providers about us?

Is it usually just a quick "He was fine" type response?
Do you ever share info on his preferences? Hints as to how much he tips?
Ever go into pretty granular details ("he was on time, polite, small tip, armpits a bit smelly")?
I'm guessing if you know the other provider you'll answer in more detail than if you don't, but is this true?

SexyAssNightmare723 reads

much like what goes on in the Provider Board and on the VH and BL is not for you to know.

Why would you want to know what your references would share anyways?

There were two agencies busted and two closed down around the first of the year in Atlanta.  LE arrested the Providers first then the Johns so some Johns are really concerned about their personal information that may or may not be with a Provider. Although in this case LE used cameras both in and outside the apartment and they had the apartment under surveillance. Just sayin.

SexyAssNightmare503 reads

Not saying we got to worry about him... but we don't ask guys what they pming each other about us or what a reviewer says when contacted by a potential guy. (I would hope not)

But your remarks makes it even more important for us hookers to keep that to ourselves. To answer off of that, at least for me, I can recall quite a bit about many guys- meaning our time together. I would guess most of us recall at least one thing that happened in the session. I tend to remember the odd/funny/or interesting things about a person, what stands out from others. I sure don't keep intel on johns nor do I ask for their RL info. That is what screening sites are for, to protect the guys info but yet let us know he is still ok to meet. He didn't even remotely ask about personal info for his safety in case of a bust. He asked about sessions details, about what we share for references.

Posted By: Badboy1234
There were two agencies busted and two closed down around the first of the year in Atlanta.  LE arrested the Providers first then the Johns so some Johns are really concerned about their personal information that may or may not be with a Provider. Although in this case LE used cameras both in and outside the apartment and they had the apartment under surveillance. Just sayin.

GoogleWasMyIdea477 reads

[You don't know who might be reading the board so just PM them to me for security reasons, 'm 'K?]

Seriously (which of course the above isn't)...

 I'm just curious what kind of things go in our mini report cards, not asking you to share actual client comments. World of difference.

Peace and love!

Typically, we just ask if the client is who they say they are, safe, and would she see him again. Pretty straight forward and rarely detailed unless a provider feels a piece of info "should" be shared. For example: cancels often, poor hygiene, tardiness, over an amazing and beyond respectful gent. Hope that helps :)

elka538 reads

When I first got into the hobby, I confined my activities to my trips to Las Vegas (a practice I still adhere to). My first experience became my immediate ATF.  
As she was traveling during one of my visits I found another provider using the ATF as a reference. When I met the provider she voluntarily shared the conversation, something to the effect that she fucked me more than my wife. Found it offensive that she would share something that really would have nothing to do with a reference, in my opinion.
That was over ten years ago. Never saw the ATF again.

That being said, She may have recognized that your previous ATF was being unprofessional and rude, and may have shared that with you so you would look unfavorably on her, and the new girl could potentially gain a regular. Some women like throwing each other under the bus.

An incident that happened to a friend of mine: she was asked for a reference by another provider for a client and that client was a boundary pushing, bffs-trying asshole, and in her reference she said as much. Later on that guy wrote a bad second review for her because she gave him a bad but honest reference and because, stupidly, the provider had shared with the client was what said when she asked for a reference.

I have to constantly remind myself that in this business not everyone is as professional and as careful as I might be.

GoogleWasMyIdea387 reads

Life would be so much easier if everyone just played by the rules!!

"He was kind, generous, and considerate. I'd see him again."

But I've come to understand that whatever info is passed along is for their benefit. If you do the right things, follow the rules and make sure that she has a great time too, then you'll never go wrong.

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That was none of my fucking business. I could be wrong, but I don't think so.

wrps07482 reads

They also share if the client is clean and handsome, "Oh he looks so good", "Oh he looks like middle eastern guy". Some other things "He has big shoulders". They will say if the client is highly recommended and would they see him again.

NomdeAmour440 reads

In some cases where the ladies are acquainted or close friends,  I think the info can get pretty detailed, especially if you had a good time with the first one. I've had a few cases where a lot of nice things were said and subsequent ladies were quite eager to see me.

OTOH, I've had one case of a former ATF that I hadn't seen in 6+ months, and she was pissed that our regular encounters had fallen off,  and she kind of trashed me. No lies, just damning by LACK of information "Oh, I haven't seen him in so long, I can't vouch for him." "I don't know what's up with him these days." It's easy to do if you want to make life difficult for someone. One of my few bad hobby experiences.

I usually reply with info like, he was polite and clean and I'd definitely see him again, or he was late and tried to short me on the fee - just general information not specific likes and dislikes etc, that's for a provider to discover :)

Usually I just answer their questions and whether or not I think they should see the client based on my overall experience. And I say if he was generous (financially or otherwise). It's a big plus for me if the guy is generous in the bedroom and I'm left satisfied too ;)

In my experience typically we say things like: "He's great" "He's sweet" "Yes, he's OK"...
BUT, we also share juicy stuff. Mainly if the guy is a jerk in some way...either in person or if his reviews are too judgy. It goes both ways. In those cases: ""He's safe, but ..."  Honestly, if the guy was an asshole or we didn't have a great connection, I would be surprised if he were to be stupid enough to use me as a reference! haha! I love it when I get extra and honest info from providers! It's kind of like how you guys are with your reviews..we just do it in private.

Usually I just write "safe", "unsafe" or "I've never seen him".  If a client is one of my ATF's, I will say so. If the provider is a friend I know well, I may tell her if he has a particular thing he does that I know for sure she loves or hates. I have a client who I adore that bites (nibbles) my butt cheeks. I love it! I referred him to a friend and she hated it. She said "He bit me!". So, from that I learned not to judge what may be good or bad to someone else.

"do him." It works every time. And ic Im having a good day, I'll usually let her "do me" ... lol ... I not interested in "what was said about me". I'm cool with don't ask don't tell. I'm just glad to see they're curious.  

My favorite dates are when we have enough rapport/trust from the vetting and preliminary emails/PMs that we move right to the fun.    

Once I get the appointment ... I'm happy. I don't ask my reference what she said either. Curiosity killed the Cock?

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