I have had the pleasure to encounter two ladies who started in the world of BDSM as doms and switched to GFE providing, and noticed some similarities between the two of them. I am curious if others have seen the same, and how common this may be.

To be a Dom, I think a lady needs to have a pretty well developed understanding of physiology, what causes pleasure and pain, and how to play with all that to heighten the pleasure. Doms also have to be creative, able to build a fantasy, and attentive to how the client is reacting to all that. In my experience, those things make for stellar GFE service.

I am not into BDSM, so there was nothing in these meetings that smacked of being dominated, other than that the ladies in question might have been a little more take-charge at times than most others. But they were definitely able and willing to play the sweet, submissive kitten when the time was right, actually better at it than most others.

Anyone else have similar experiences? How frequently does this transition happen, and how easy is it to do? I understand the financial motivation to do this, but it seems like there are a bunch of other factors that would make it challenging to pull off. Open questions for ladies and gents.

Since the ladies in question keep their Dom and GFE personas separate, I will not be naming names here or via PM, sorry. One is retired, and the other is welcome to out herself if she wishes, but that is not my information to share.

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I met a young lady. About 20 yr old red head. She advertized as a GFE, but one time in bedroom, I asked her to do some DOM things, and she gladly obliged. I kept pushing her to see her limit and she was quite freaky. So we had this routine going. For first half hour we would do DOM and then take a shower together. The latter half hour we would do GFE.

So if you ask me, these two worlds are not that far apart, and some girls are easily able to juggle the two.

I once had a TER member offer to use a short leash and choker on me. S&M just isn't my thing so I declined the offer. ha.

I find no reason to separate myself from one category to another. I've advertized myself as domina/gfe/pse for past 10 yrs. One didn't come before the other. Its just who I am and I see just as many vanilla clients as I do see kinky clients.

At one point I had all those so called titles on my website. After an article written with reference to me in the LAWeekly I decided I didn't want to be categorized at all and removed that text from the front page of my website.

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... She actually made a few BDSM porn movies as well. I am not into BDSM and based on my encounter with her you would never know she was into it either.

I love both sides of that fence and often combine them together in a myriad of ways. Each person has their own kinks and turn ons just has each has their own comfort level with different types of sexual practices. I tend to be a take charge woman who is very creative and sensual. I like to build upon fantasy regardless of how tame that fantasy may be in someone's mind. It can always be kicked up a notch with a touch, a whisper, a word. Details are everything.

There are several fine ladies that provide in this manner and tour or are local to you.
You will just need to find the one that appeals to you.

Xo,
Grace

Kelly Ashton works as a dom in the LA area. Several years ago she was in NYC doing straight sessions and I hooked up with her. Kelly was so amazing that I still think about her today. She was one of the best experiences I've ever had. Kelly was very sensual and sexy and not at all dominant during the session.

If anyone knows where she is or how to contact her, let me know. Kelly was working in LA at a dom studio called Passive Arts until it burned down a couple years ago.