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Keep trusting your instincts
You mention that you are reluctant to discuss specifics with ladies. I think that is the correct way to approach this - do your homework and know what's on the menu.
-- Modified on 8/2/2003 5:04:34 PM
Recently I have been with providers who do not allow DATY. I happen to love this activity and it is a big reason I see providers. How can I find out if they allow this before hand. I do not discuss these topics over the phone and when I feel I can discuss them it is usually too late. I enjoyed these providers but things would have been better if I could have DATY.
I do search TER for the providers who allow it but YMMV I guess or some guys or more irresistable. Any suggestions?
Mikeb
turn over my donantion I ask about all the provider's services that I am expecting for that session, I always do this ahead of time, but with someone new it doesn't hurt to refresh everyone's memory .. and I mean cover all the bases DFK, DATY, second pops, staying the entire session, etc. don't let your throbbing head between your legs get the best of you .. use what's on top of your shoulders.... hobby safe hobby well hobby all you can be......
are you saying that you ask the actual provider involved? or you ask your buddies here, in posts or by looking at reviews?
I see some guys talk about stating specifics in either emails or in front of the girl when they get to the room. I've never done that, I'm not sure why, except that maybe I've always just trusted my instincts about my judgements from reviews and posts.
And maybe I've been reluctant to discuss specifics because of some of the things I see or hear the ladies mention. Some ladies tell me that when they get emails with specifics in them they immediately trash them. And some ladies have told me that when a guy starts mentioning specifics in the room before they start that they get out of the room fast.
Of course, it's one thing for the girls to talk that way in front of me or to post that way on the boards, and another altogether when they are faced with your questions in the room and have to decide whether to answer them and get the cash or to act embarrassed and actually walk out, LOL.
And I suppose that with a new girl, someone you have never met or have little knowledge about, maybe it's better to let them go ahead and run out of the room if they choose than throw away change on a bad appointment.
But just out of curiosity, spinner (or anyone else who wants to chime in), what other info can you give us here about how to ask these questions without scewing up the deal?
You mention that you are reluctant to discuss specifics with ladies. I think that is the correct way to approach this - do your homework and know what's on the menu.
-- Modified on 8/2/2003 5:04:34 PM
The rules as presented to me when starting this endeavor is to never speak of these things for I never know who is on the other end of the line. Once first meetings have taken place anything can be discussed without hesitation. We wouldn't want to give any false impressions that we are selling sex...it's only time...right!?!?
The responsibility lies with both parties though. The lady should make it clear on her site whether or not she does provide those services. There are manners in which this can be done discreetly and gents with brains can discern as much from it. It is the responsibility of the gent to be sure to read what a lady has to offer in lieu of looking at a picture and hoping for the best. It boils down to ladies doing their job in making it clear enough what she has to offer and the gents doing their homework.
Lauren
Right. The girls don't trash the emails that openly discuss sex act or leave the room due to embarrasment. They do it because it is a tip off that they are dealing with LE. LE is always trying to get us to talk about $$ and specific acts. Any girl who knows what she is doing will trash the email or walk out of the room.
about 24 years ago when I started in the "hobby" I used agencies .. that pretty much was all there was except picking someone up at the corner or in front of the Flamingo "when they used to have park benches lining the front of the casino on the strip" can anyone else remember those days lol... Anyways after taking a "few for the team" .. I decided that this was stupid not getting what I was paying for .. (ie) DFK, DATY, etc.
So after the agency lady was in my room and was sure I wasn't LE and she was asking if I wanted her to stay .. I would politly mention to her the phone conversation I had with her agency and what the agency and I had agreed upon .. I requested a girl that loves to DFK and DATY ... Some ladies would say sorry I don't do that .. and I would say thank you very much ...see ya ... some would call the agency and tell them to send a different girl out that would DFK and DATY etc. And others said that would be extra .. And I would come back and say that this is all I have take it or leave it ... I'm probably 70/30 ahead on this.
You can't believe what you read in the reviews today .. the sections on kiss with tongue or without .. DATY, second pop, etc. are too vague. This is why you must ask... Maybe not on the first e-mail or phone conversation build a rapport with the provider before getting into details. But get into details before money is exchanged after that it is way too late. Do your homework and if your still not sure ASK! A hobby should always get what he is paying for as long as he feels that it is something that that provider offers.
the reason YMMV comes into play is because so often a provider likes a hobbiest or feels more comfortable with that person and does more then is expected. The hobby writes an excellent review and the next person reads it and sure enough finds out that what she did with the review writer was not offered to him ... he gets pissed writes a so so review saying she doesn't DFK ... now the third person reads both reviews and doesn't have a clue if she does or doesn't DFK. So once you and the provider of your choice feel comfortable with each other ASK questions
I always tell a provider whatI am interested in,that I have some special needs or desires that I like to be met she'll say like what .. and i'll say that I like to DFK .. she'll give me an answer then from there I'll move on to my next question .. and say something like that I'm very oral .. The biggest question of all that I have and I usually say this also is .. I don't want to waste your time or mine can I ask you some very personal questions about what I'm looking for ..if she feels comfortable ask ... once a provider is in your room and she's feels your not LE please ask her or tell her what you want ... and if you don't ask or you don't get what you thought you should be getting then learn from your mistakes ... I have and I've made a shit load of mistakes in my 20 some odd years ... hobby safe hobby well hobby all you can be ....
and by the way...my legs are open and waiting for you- lmao
Shaye
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