Cruising Tryst the other day (NYC) I seemed to see more offers for social time than previously. I'm curious.
By social time, I mean in-person meetings in a bar, coffee shop or restaurant between hobbyist and provider that are basically "get to know you" or perhaps "How've you been." The idea of such a meeting has been intriguing, particularly if kink might otherwise be involved, but I've never pulled the trigger. Gentlemen - If you've done this, I'd love to know why and how it went. Ladies - Sounds great if it works! Does it? (Note: I'm not looking for info about on-line services; that's different. I'm curious about the market for in person "social" meetings.) pb
I have met some very nice people in public conversing over a meal. Everyone has to eat & it’s a great opportunity to get to know someone prior to taking the plunge. I love to meet & greet! I have met new friends at Starbucks. I would hate to miss out on making a friend for life over rates, so I try to have more opportunities by having a wider menu selection of fun options. I even offer specials for paying in full at the time of booking. Who doesn’t love options?
Being a professional escort means entertaining in & outside of the bedroom.
I met a gal a few years ago in Connecticut who I had booked for an hour. She insisted on lunch and I reminded her that it was an hour appointment. She told me that she knew my time was as valuable as hers and that just that once it was on her.
We met for lunch and it felt like we had known each other for years. She admitted that she used lunch as part of her screening and told me "you wouldn't believe how many dates don't get past the lunch".
An important factor to consider with social dates is that many companions do not allow combining a social date package with one that includes time behind closed doors. There are clients who might think combining different rate structures is a clever way to get a deal. For the most part though, companions don't allow that possibility.
As an example, a dinner date includes social time. If a client solely wants to take a companion out to dinner, the social only rate will likely be lower. However, if that client wants private playtime and to go to dinner before or after, the dinner date rate will be expected. Client math might lead some to believe they can book an hour date at X rate, then a social date at Y rate, and just add X + Y to concoct their own dinner date rate.
was a DDG UCLA graduate student who went through six years of college being a provider. Given her perfect body, and stunning good looks, her rate was reasonable at $500/hr, even though she was young (26). She was very mature intellectually and did well with her mostly older clientele. What I found unique is that if you booked 2 hours with her, she would allow up to two hours of social time afterward at $75 an hour where she proved to be an interesting and intelligent dinner date. I would occasionally invite her to a Laker game, which combined with dinner at the Palm, across the street, ran well over the two hours, but she never asked for an additional fee for two hours overtime.
When she graduated, she made the classiest exit from the biz you can imagine. The first month, she stopped taking new customers and only saw her regulars as she wound things down. The next month, she published her last day of work four weeks out and gave all of her regulars another chance to see her once or twice before she left. Her dream was to work in London after graduation, and I was fortunately able to get her a couple of interviews there with clients of mine, one of which she accepted. Now, when I go there on business, we will meet one night for dinner, and sometimes a little extra time at no charge.
And if she gets busted, you are at risk for getting pinched in promoting prostitution. That's often a more harsh slap on the hand than simple solicitation.
There may be a few who would feel you exploited her simply because you are a man with an underlying motivation for sex and using your power to manipulate or persuade, lol. Surprised one, in particular hasn't commented, maybe she hasn't seen it yet. In reality, you gave her things that she may not have been able to afford at the time or didn't allow to treat herself too and later, gave her opportunity that she may not have otherwise had. Give and take is often a win-win if done right. Emotionally, it also feels good even knowing you may not see her again.
CDL gave HeShits a lot of crap over the same thing. Here are a few examples. If anyone on this board is going to do it, its him. Give it a rest. . https://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/you-have-also-had-dates-----1036859?frmSearch=1#1036859 . https://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/when-you--get-lost-in-the-passion-----1036516?frmSearch=1#1036516 . https://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/politics-and-religion-39/your-response-just-confirms-myas-point------474811?frmSearch=1#474811
experience, you will understand the difference between gratitude from the woman and manipulation by the man. Claiming it is the same thing shows your own lack of experience and finesse with women in general. You must never forget that providers are women, too, and still have the same desires and needs as civvie women in their private lives. There have been many here who have crossed over from customers to provider boyfriends, and in some cases, husbands. Apparently, your experience comes exclusively from paying, which provides little insight into the woman inside the provider. You should stay in your lane and not comment on aspects of this business of which you obviously know nothing. When you have walked in the shoes of the men here who have had real-life relationships with providers, then you may gain the experience to comment on this topic. Otherwise, you are speculating from an uninformed and inexperienced perspective. Don't mean to be harsh, but it is what it is.
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