Just look at this as an opportunity to pick and choose.

If you don't want to see them, that's your perogative.

Enjoy your retirement.

have had the same response.  Of course, the few people I've told are the hobbyists that I've developed "relationships" with - the few I trust enough to tell what's going on in my life.  So maybe it's an indication of our "relationship," however it is defined.

But I guess I think that if I can't hang with the guy in public, then there is no reason for us to keep in touch.  

Or maybe they're hoping you'll not REALLY retire - just go UTR, or come back quickly, like half the other girls who announce their retirements??

IDK.  Seems odd to me too, though.

I speak from a mans point of view in general - not saying all men - just getting that out of the way so I don't get bashed !

I have had a intimate relationship with you . Sorry, as much as it is a "buisness" arrangement , we do have emotions 'ya know . Again not all , but I'm just sayin' .
We realize that a civie boyfriend is NOT the norm during your providing career . So we see a girl that PROBABLY has not had a boyfriend / SO during this period. You may have told us numerous times during our encounters  , but we MAY not believe you, or want to believe we would not be a better man for 'ya. We think a little different than you . I can actually connect with her , snuggle take it to a better level other than just sex - I'm single and she is a great lady . This is going to be great , I may have found the " one " !!
We tend to think that your pleasure with us just MIGHT be a indicater that we are sexual gods , more so than the previous or next guy .  We think a little different than you .
OK so now you inform of us of your retirement - OH SHIT !!!  I will NOT be getting any of that fine ass any more !!!!  OH shit !!!!
Got to be a way.....Got to be a way to continue to get my thrills !!!!!
Lets keep her as a friend , she does not mean it. I can just stick around and enjoy her friendship , I do actually like her as a genuine friend so this will be great !
MAYBE , just MAYBE , she and I will have a great evening ! I know I will , and will make sure to treat her like a friend and lady - easy, as I always have........Then after some time things MIGHT ( probably will , in our mind ) esculate to a level where I will be able to sleep with her again !  Probably at this point there will be a overnight , no envelope...............God I can't be w/o her , she IS a great friend / lady .
We just fantasize and plan out how it can be and I can make it happen.
Good , bad , or ugly we think a little different. You do stay on our mind for a few days after an encounter, and we do actually have feelings .
Hope I don't get bashed ,as this always seems to be the rule around here .

Think of it this way maybe - YOU told your boyfriend to get lost . Then you want him back - you know what it takes to get what you want - we think alike at this point

Make no mistake - we have bumped uglies once or twice and that forever changes the dynamic of any relationship .

Maybe he generally thinks your cool and wants to remain friends - can happen - rare but we are guys 'ya know.

Maybe it can turn into something , just remeber what I have written and do what you think is right .

Maybe you will fall short on cash during the transistion , again do what you think is right .

A married man will have a completely different view of all this .

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One we emailed and chatted on the phone a few times, and the dialog petered out.  The other I've had lunch with and actually hired to do some outsource work for my company.  It was a little awkward at first, but she needed a real world client and I needed her company's services so it worked.  We are now casual acquaintances and have no problem being in public together.  When we first started the business relationship, we still discussed the hobby and some of the girls in her area, but after a few months, the relationship has morphed into a legit business relationship, and to be honest, if she ever went back to the hobby, I might have a difficult time seeing her.

whether or not you are crazy about them is another story.  either way, be proud you leave behind a legacy and a great brand!

After they retire, they find a new way to sustain their income. For instance, I know six retire providers I still talk to about once or twice every two months. The majority of them tell me, they want to move on and find a different career, and have done so. They also commented that they do not want to meet many clients in a day, that is another reason why they retire.

Now, since they are retired, and I have treated them well (with respect and everything else during their provider career), they view me as a friend, at least that is what I assume. All of my ex-providers have significant others.

Here's the other thing. I still call them to arrange appointments, even though they are retired. And, they have no problem obliging to set up an appointment. I guess, in their mind, they avoid the drama of seeing many men in a day and with all the other elements of providing, such as LE stings and whacko clients. Since, they already know me, I guess its okay for them to see me, eventhough they are retired. Its a good thing, cause we go out and stuff, again, all of my providers have civvie relationships. Would you call that cheating? I don't know, but I do know, that they like to see me for appointments and enjoy my company. Just something for you to consider. Again, this is just my perspective.

Just being nice. Just like asking how are you?

Reading way way too much!

I'm still friends with 2 of my ATFs who retired and we've been keeping in touch via Facebook.  Neither of the 2 ladies or I have significant others to worry about, so perhaps that has influenced our friendships over the years.  Actually when both ladies decided to retire, each asked that I stay in touch with them and hoped that we would remain friends.  When they retired, our relationship as client/provider also ended and we just remained "friends".

On the other hand, I've had 3 other ATFs who retired.  All 3 wanted to leave their escorting pasts behind, so I never asked to keep in touch with them in their civvie lives.  I wished each of them the best of luck when they announced their retirements and never heard from them again.

I have a couple of friends that are retired from the biz that I am in regular contact with. We started off as Client/Provider but the relationship developed into a friendship so it was natural for the communication to continue.

In fact one of my very best friends is my former ATF who is still an active provider and we will be friends after she exits stage left from the life. I am greatful to have her as a part of my life and would not have met if not for the hobby life

So to answer your question of is it common??? I would say no....The vast majority of clients are probably never going to become someone that you like enough or trust enough to become friends with...that is the nature of the business, but it is possible. Speaking for myself....If there are a few fellows that do fall into that category of "friends" don't shut them out completely when you go...some of them may be decent fellows who actually care about you as a person and want to know that life is treating well....The occassional email swap may not be out of the question to stay in touch.

Just my $0.02

First, there are probably two reasons they want to stay in touch:
--Some think they will get free sex
--Some actually like you and enjoy your company

How many fall into each category only you can guess at, but if you believe you "have met some amazing men", then why is it so hard to think some of them feel exactly the same way about you?

However, whatever their reasons might be it is ultimately your choice whether you wish to stay in touch with them.  Assuming you want to completely stop working, not just go UTR, then I would suggest you have an honest conversation with yourself and decide if any of these men are people you want as real friends in your new life, and if so how much do you trust them?  If you have any doubt the answer is "no".

Take the requests as flattery of the highest form, but if you want a clean break do so.  If they were special I would suggest you write them a short note and say good bye.  If they were indeed amazing to you, they probably deserve that much respect.  As one who haas received such notes--and not received them--when a special friend retired I can tell you it really does hurt less with a good bye note.