For some reason I cum way too quickly with providers. In my civilian life I can usually last as long as my SO needs me to. With a provider, pretty much as soon as my cock enters her orifice I want to blow. I find myself usually getting a few strokes in each position before I give in and cum.
Whole entire session😭😭
Well here’s the problem, I lost my virginity to a very sexy Russian provider(one of my fantasies) but after 30 min bbbj and 30 min of sex I couldn’t O! I was surprised myself and she seemed upset she couldn’t get me off, I thought I was going to cum within minutes!! I left without cumming as it was time n I didn’t want to overstay, I visited her again still couldn’t O but still cummed after A mixture of titty fucking and handjob in th last 5 min, the next couple times I could never O I would last the whole entire session but only finish by giving myself a handjob, I felt sorry for 2 if the ladies I had them sucking me off so vigorously to the point their mouth got tired, bless their effort, after couple visits to various women I thought maybe I need that connection, like a real GF experience, obviously providers are GFE but to them your just another john and I can’t get the feeling of “you pay it to fake it” out of my mind, of course they paying you so of course you gotta providena SERVICE, maybe some connection occurs but not that loving connection, I had a gf however never had sex and iv never experienced condomless sex so maybe that’s it iv realized maybe i dont need to fuck or have sex i need to make Some LOVING to a women who wants me rather than doing it cause I paid for her time that fake love haha well hopefully any of you guys can provide advice or if you guys had the same problem
The reason we cum faster when jerking off is that those are the times when we are making love with the person we care about most
...This has never been an issue for me and I can't relate to even begin to offer any suggestions. Maybe you need to consult with a professional psychiatrist?
The zipper doesn't go down far enough on the dress.
Stop jacking off and commit to only Cumming for a provider. If you leave an appointment with blue balls, don’t cave in to Rosey Palm’s seductive advances, schedule another provider next day. Repeat this scenario until Mr Cock learns to cum for a provider.
...as well as the value of punctuation and paragraphs.
Refrain from masturbation for 4 weeks -- then your cock will be BEGGING for that provider to perform her best for you.
You're too used to jerking off, and your fickle friend in your pants isn't going to have it any other way unless you do something to get him back in line.
Luckily, there is help. http://curedeathgrip.com/plan-a.html is a good resource, but I'll break it down for you.
Basically, you've got to stop pawing at yourself like some kind of animal, at least for a little while. They call this a "reset". Timing varies, but usually at least a week or two.
You can do a "soft" reset if you find it unbearable after a week or so by visiting a provider (or a girlfriend/wife if you have one). The big thing to focus on is that you want to stimulate your dick naturally, to get your brain used to the correct sensations again, and keep someone else involved.
So the idea is twofold.
1) Getting your brain on board that you are not your own source of sexual pleasure, your partner (whomever that may be) is the source.
2) Giving your dick a rest and only providing natural stimulation so those nerve endings are able to respond properly.
I’ll take it myself.
relatively late in life. This means that we’ve been jerking off exclusively up until recently; our bodies have been conditioned to achieve climax in certain way (a strong, intuitive grip). This is apparently a common problem.
Unfortunately, this means it’s going to take time for us to get acclimated to having an orgasm with a partner. You should begin doing searches on the TER forums and Google to find out what others have done.
I also feel you when it comes to urning for that connection with the Ladies; it’s simply a fact that some Providers are better at that than others. My first Provider is great; she wants you to have a good time (and I still see her on and off). But... wanting you to have a good time just /isn’t/ the same as making you feel desired. I seriously lucked out with my second Provider - we just clicked. She positively /radiates/ warmth and affection, and obviously likes being with me (we’re ALWAYS going overtime; I’ll remind her - she’ll check her phone, but we’re always over by 30 minutes to an hour... and she just doesn’t seem to care).
One thing I can suggest on the physical side is getting some female condoms; everyone who uses them (correctly) says they’re a game changer. Mine came in last week and I’m looking forward to trying them out this weekend.
Check out the link below for a guy who seems to know what he’s talking about when it comes to these prophylactics.
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which is age and physical condition dependent. If you are old and overweight, then stay away from RP for a couple of weeks before seeing a provider. Plenty of fluids and rest are also keys to having a great time.
Stop jerking off to porn so much, and rest up a week before you see a provider.
Also, what's the deal with having a GF, but no sex? And losing your virginity to a provider?
I’m pretty young, under 25 but the ladies and people think I’m like 24-28 haha so my first gf was in 8-9th grade so yea no sex lol yea I couldn’t take it no more and if I was going to loose my virginity I was going to get my fantasy which was the hot sexy 30 year russian, sexy accent and even sexier body. First time visit we fucked and she sucked for the whole entire time and to my amazement I couldn’t cum 😭 but I went and seen her again but this time I finished by having her suck on my tits haha I’m a freak and by jacking off but just as I was reaching climax I had her mouth finish it off busted all in her mouth it was a nice session
Spending less time thinking about the pop, and more time simply basking in the experience could help.
I find it bizarre that some go on about striving for multiple pops in an hour, Consider the slow burn a gift, and simply fully immerse yourself in the experience of being with a beautiful woman.
Libertine_Proust is most certainly correct; just take your time and enjoy yourself.
I stopped worrying about The Pop after 3 or 4 sessions - especially after I met my ATF (mentioned in my above post). Just indulge in the sensual pleasure of being with these sweet, beautiful Ladies. Hold, hug, kiss, and talk to ‘em. Squeeze ‘em and please ‘em; the good one’s will respond in kind.
Try doing a 2 hour session so you and her can take it slow and explore each other.
Give yourself over to absolute pleasure
Swim the warm waters of sins of the flesh
— Dr. Frank N. Furter
Good stuff Lib and B-man, absolutely agree wholeheartedly. As an afterthought, don`t forget the FC`s when you`re ready to dance, they changed the game for me. Now I won`t see a provider who won`t use them or at least try to follow my lead and most will. Thank you so much Abbey St. Claire in Philly for enlightening me first hand on this unique alternative.
who turned me on to female condoms (the link in my above post is to one of /your/ posts about them).
Thanx! Gonna try them out tomorrow. 😃
A second pop, especially in a two hour session is only a 50/50 proposition these days. Sometimes the gal feels bad that she didn't get me off twice, but I tell her that I enjoy the trip more than the destination.
Just think of it as a cruise to nowhere.
Porn is the reason you can cum quickly on your own but with real women it’s difficult. Your brain gets super stimulated and over time desensitized when subjected to the imagery of high speed internet porn.
Whole entire session😭😭
Well here’s the problem, I lost my virginity to a very sexy Russian provider(one of my fantasies) but after 30 min bbbj and 30 min of sex I couldn’t O! I was surprised myself and she seemed upset she couldn’t get me off, I thought I was going to cum within minutes!! I left without cumming as it was time n I didn’t want to overstay, I visited her again still couldn’t O but still cummed after A mixture of titty fucking and handjob in th last 5 min, the next couple times I could never O I would last the whole entire session but only finish by giving myself a handjob, I felt sorry for 2 if the ladies I had them sucking me off so vigorously to the point their mouth got tired, bless their effort, after couple visits to various women I thought maybe I need that connection, like a real GF experience, obviously providers are GFE but to them your just another john and I can’t get the feeling of “you pay it to fake it” out of my mind, of course they paying you so of course you gotta providena SERVICE, maybe some connection occurs but not that loving connection, I had a gf however never had sex and iv never experienced condomless sex so maybe that’s it iv realized maybe i dont need to fuck or have sex i need to make Some LOVING to a women who wants me rather than doing it cause I paid for her time that fake love haha well hopefully any of you guys can provide advice or if you guys had the same problem
Idle hands are the Devil's workshop.
Jerking off is boring....at least at my age. Left or right, neither is strange anymore. Lol. If I get the urge, I shoot an email or a text, and I'm on the real thing. Hit your head up against the wall....somehow your wires got crossed.
For some reason I cum way too quickly with providers. In my civilian life I can usually last as long as my SO needs me to. With a provider, pretty much as soon as my cock enters her orifice I want to blow. I find myself usually getting a few strokes in each position before I give in and cum.
The excitement overload factor. There's nothing like the thrill of a new piece. It can also happen when you've been with one woman for a long time.... for me because I've grown bored with the experience and want to skip to the end. If I'm with a provider that's really good ...I can go for quite awhile. If she's just not clicking with me. Then I tend to just want to get it over with. Everyone is wired different.... this is just how it is for me.
I can relate somewhat. I've learned to take things a little slower with the provider to extend it out longer which is why I schedule longer sessions. And then there's certain positions that I can last longer in than others so sometimes we'll get to those first.
But for round two, I have the exact opposite effect to the point of feeling a little guilty for what I see as her working so hard to get me there for which I thank her for her efforts.
If you fuck like you write, then there is a serious problem.
Buddy this a forum about fucking whores, a whole website to review about how good the fucking was. I could care less about how I wrote my problem out as long as people got the message, see? Now if you don’t have any opinions to give, good or bad why waste your time typing something out that doesn’t do any good? Didn’t know even in a more mature content we still have our grammar nazis, get the fuck out of here lmao
If you jack off too much your member is trained to orgasm from certain sensations. Your hand gives your member exactly what you want to orgasm. A woman's pussy doesn't give the same sensations, it's very different. What you may want to do is skip touching yourself or 4-5 days then see a woman. They'll notice a big difference. Or, jack off differently so you're not orgasming so fast.
due to stress, fear, or guilt. Not everyone is cut out to be a whore-monger.