You suspect that you MAY have contracted a disease but prefer to wait till someone will send you their test results instead of getting tested.

Just one question - are you still sexually active with your wife?

He wants to save money on the STD testing.

"I don't believe you."

Why put your responsibility off on her?

Stop fucking. Get tested. wait it out till you're safe. Don't see her again.  What's so difficult about that?

Awhile back I had a date with a provider which went well.  I found out afterward she engages or has previously engaged in a risky lifestyle (beyond the inherent risk of the hobby) which could land you some bad diseases (AIDS).  I asked her for some recent test results of hers which she claims are clean.  She keeps saying she will send them but never comes through with the goods.  What's the best thing to do?  Warn people in a review?

I know I should ultimately get tested myself but finding the time when the clinics are open is hard.  And coming home with an elbow bruise would be tough to explain to the wife.

If you have any thoughts I'd like to hear it.

Call your local Planned Parenthood - they offer Free HIV testing and they have Saturday hours.

At least every six months, ideally every 3. It does not cost much, or take much time, and it will allow you to find out early and deal with any issues. This is a risky life style, and you need to do that much both for yourself, and anyone else you are with.

Any issue you have had with a specific provider is beside the point. GET TESTED.

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He needs to get tested married or not.

He shoud also get tested several times over the next few months and keep it in his pants for all that time. You never know some of theres little bugs can fester for a while befor they show up in a test.

I hope he doe the right thing.

Thank you
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with her real name and info on it?
LOL ok-righteo

Get yourself tested. It is the only thing you can do and the only thing you have complete control over. Good luck.

Several years ago, I had a great time with a certain provider.  I kind of wish she'd come back in town...   she was smokin' hot...   everything had been covered but she later revealed she had a drug habit which she kicked & was now clean (she said).   I got tested & everything was OK.   Think up an excuse if you must.  Not all blood draws bruise...  a good tech is better than 50/50.  
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I told her she could leave her name off, just send me the results with date and clinic location.  Not perfect but better than nothing.

Aids can remain dormant for 7 years. before showing its ugly head. or so I heard hey I am no doctor. A clean std screen doesnt mean a dam thing bro. Sorry to tell you. Any one can be a carrier and just have a better immune system than you . there is no guarantees baby. Cross your fingers and just pray your condoms dont break. Also . fyi . Since when guys are turned out "pore cum " starts cming out. according to my research on line its harder fior them to contract aids than us women. Since precum is being released form penis . Its highly unlikely for stuff to get inside the guys penis. Thats whats it says when you do research on line. There is no such thing as safe sex. its always a risk invoved. Safe sex is actually mutual masterbation . if you are that scared just stick with that. if your losin sleep over it and requesting escorts show you stsd screenings well thats still not protecting you she could just have a good immune system and still have ten diseases. theres really no way to be safe unless you are monogonous. Or stick with mutual masterbation if you are that nervous. Other wise cross your fingers say a prayer and dive the fuck in. the world could end tomorrow anyway. geezus.

Now try to figure out how tough it would be to try explaining how she got HIV.

And how are you going to guarantee that it's her results that she's sending you, or even that they are authentic? When the doctor sends you the paper saying everything is clear & OK, it's a sheet of paper with a signature... a 12 year old could create one of these on their computer & sign ANY name. You have no way of checking, so do as others have stated & get tested now & again for the next six months-1 year to make sure you are clean.

If you hobby a lot probably every 3-6 months recommended. A provider should get tested once a month.

I could talk my way out of a HIV + result on the wife easier than I could a case of pubic lice.  I work in a surgical environment in an impoverished area so I could always claim I got it through a needlestick I never knew about.

Here in Montgomery County, Maryland you can go get a finger prick , have a seat in the waiting room , and 20 mins later a nurse comes out to tell you the reults ....

no big deal, unless your postive

don't get tested and give your wife HIV.  Just as long as you can talk your way out of it.

As long as I have your approval I will!

You have no right having multiple partners if you do not test often. Your reluctance to test is as dangerous a sex partner as it gets. You have know right to throw stones until you get your house in order. How do you know she has something? What proof do you have of her risky behavior? You likely know nothing other then hearsay, so what could possibly warn others about if that is the case? Get your self checked. Make time. You have time to get laid so you need to take time to get tested. You are as big of a problem as her if not bigger.

Thank God TER has this policy in place:

"MY REVIEW WAS TURNED DOWN FOR NOT BEING OBJECTIVE. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
If you speculate on something about the provider that we cannot verify, such as she seemed to be high on drugs, was drunk, diseased, or some other supposition, your review will be rejected on that basis. Your review will also be turned down for using foul language. Even if you have been ripped off, please try to keep the tone of your review at a mature, fair level."

IF you post this stuff in a review it would likely be turned down. I think that is a good thing.

Now Here is what you should do. Get tested. Make a an appointment to get tested again. Repeat at least every three months while sexually active with more than one partner. (I get tested monthly.) Do not see that provider again as it is plain she outside your comfort zone. Unless you are sure about everything do not say a word about it. Even are sure unless you can prove it it likely will backfire on you.

anyone sexually active at any time in their life should be tested, guys even the provider doing bbbj can transmitt a std....bb anthing & u r taking a risk.
Many forget u were teenagers once & I'm sure so many of you did not use protection ( for some remember y  u got married in the first place).....Some of that stuff wasn't even thought to be checked for back then & you could be carriers of many things & not ever show any signs.....
HPV, aids, herpes......even cold sores around the mouth (form of herpes), if u play protect yourself, don't just expect the provider to be clean and tested regularly, test yourself if u are out there doing or have ever done bb anything......
Guys, way back when u wer a teenager having so much fun, in college all that experimenting.....do u ever remember a funny feeling but wer all toooo shy to ask the doc, then well symptoms just went away...well u cud still have something laying dorment but transferrable....
Sorry for my 2cents, another night of the i can't sleepsys.