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6. Set the mood: If you offer incall, make sure your place is clean and uncluttered. If it is your own residence and not a studio, this may be harder to do, but at least have one room that is your "session room" that you can maintain for "entertaining". Try candles, soft lighting, asian lanterns, erotic art, sensual music, make your place a sanctuary for him--again, get creative, and have fun with it. Keep the TV off, unless you have some exxxotic fare on the VCR or DVD. Hearing "Larry King Live" while your client is in flagrante delicto may not be his ultimate fantasy. If you only do outcall, take a little ambiance with you, bring a few candles, sprinkle a few rose petals. Again, it's the effort that will be meaningful to him.

7. Have a routine: Don't ask him directly what he wants or sit there and let him make the first move. He likely will not be comfortable with either. Instead, have a prepared routine to keeps things moving, and to help get him in the mood. Perhaps start with a drink, a backrub, a feather tease, fur-mitt, kissing (if you do), him undressing you, or as Laiya does, a seductive striptease. Again, WHAT you do is less important than having something to do. He will appreciate your professionalism, and this preparation will help eliminate awkward moments of "what's next?".

8. Advertise Accurately: Whether it is on Eros, TBD, TRB, TER, JAG, ASP, Exotics sites, the weeklies, or your own website, be accurate and truthful in your advertising. Remember, this is the internet, and news travels fast. Mark my words, honesty in advertising will pay you back ten times over. More than anything, your client doesn't want to be surprised negatively, he wants to know what to expect, he understands that photos can be flattering, and ages are often a little understated, he just doesn't want a huge gap. Remember, whether or not you are Linda Evangelista doesn't matter, what matters is that when you show up at his door, you are you.

9. Run a tight ship: Scheduling is a big one. No matter how hot you are, how fine you dress, how good you are in bed, how great a personality you have, if you no-show a client, or continually miss appointments, you will get harsh reviews. I've seen even the most mild-mannered client become angry over this. If you can't make the date, contact him in advance, the sooner the better. The key here is communication. If you are trying to fit him into a tight schedule, and there is a chance you won't be on time, or make the date, tell him in advance. He'd rather know where he stands, rather than have you stand him up with no explanation or reason. Sure, you risk that he may back out of the "squeezed in" session now, but if you stiff him, he may never call you again, period. I often hear the response, "Yeah, but clients no-show me ALL THE TIME!" I agree that that is terrible, and represents lost opportunities for you, but that is still no rationale to treat your clients in the same poor way.

10. Return Emails: Also a scheduling/booking issue, return all emails. If you can't return all emails within a given time (shouldn't be more than 24-36 hours), then use a different system to make appointments, like the phone, where you only pick up if you are available. It is very irritating to send an email and get no response. You may have an inbox full of email, and have to wade through each one, but again, if you don't have the time to do this, then use another system. Remember, even if you are booked solid and can't do his appointment request, if you return his email with a polite explanation, he will have had a positive experience with you, and will likely try again. The client who sends his email into a black void and never hears back, will likely scratch you off his list. The most egregious example is providers who use an email "form" on their site, stating that this form is the preferred and only way to contact them, but then they don't respond to the submitted form! Remember to use the cut-and-paste feature if you aren't a quick typer. Have a few set responses saved as a word document that you quickly copy and paste into emails.

11. Don't call use, we'll call you: Never, never, never contact a client unless he expressly asks you to. Again, seems like a no-brainer, but you'd be surprised. Don't spam him out-of-the-blue with an availaibilty email or call him to see if he wants a session, unless he has opted-in to these communications. You are creating an enormous risk for him if you do, because you don't know who uses his phone or email. Also, don't keep his information, unless he has consented. Certainly he should be wise enough to know not to provide email/phone info that is sensitive, but still, don't assume.

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Thank you for that message, I could only hope that all the providers read it and take it to heart.

You state in itme 10 to only answer the phone if you are available.  What about those gentlemen who like to schedule appointments in advance?  If you only answer when you are available you run the risk of missing these calls all together.  Your input on this would be much appreciated.
Kisses
Sasha

Dear Sasha,

This is not a hard and fast rule. I brought up this as a suggestion for those providers who have trouble returning phone calls, emails, or keeping their datebook organized.  I think most men would prefer either getting you live (or no answer), to leaving a voicemail that is never returned.    

As far as booking in advance, my advice is take bookings as close to to the actual date as possble. While I realize many men like to book far in advance (1 to 2 weeks). I really don't recommend this for anyone (other than perhaps established regulars), it's not a good practice for providers or clients.  Why?  Because things often change quickly in this business, people have personal issues, legal affairs, etc. and you really never know if the session is going to happen until he or she is at your door, or vice versa.  I think day of, or perhaps a day or two in advance bookings have the best odds for success.

As an example, I once booked a session with a very well-known, well-reviewed provider, 2 weeks in advance.  That gave me 2 weeks of sweet anticipation for the session.  Then the day before, the provider contacted me and said something came up and she couldn't make the date.  She was professional and apologetic, and I was glad she let me know, after all, I wasn't no-showed at the door.  But at the same time I was very dissapointed, mainly because I had my heart set on her for 2 weeks!

This also happens to providers, how often has a client booked way in advance, only to call day of (or even hours) before to bail?  Sure, you're glad he called, but then again it is a dissapointment/lost opportunity for you if you can't fill the spot.  Of course, if he no-shows you, that is even worse.  

My point is, there is no real good reason on either side to make bookings far in advance for 1 or 2 hour sessions.  For both parties, if you book "day of" or "day before" it will reduce your chance of no-shows, and ultimately makes for a more satisfyting experience for both sides.  For those men who say, "Yes but I really want to see so-and-so, and I'm only in town for the weekend".  I say, do your research, be flexible, and have a list of 5 or 6 providers in town that you "really want to see" this will improve your odds.

Have fun, stay safe, and leave the lights ON!!
Iceman




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I often prefer to call to make appointments >2 days in advance if I know when I'll be free because not everyone returns messages quickly and calling in advance allows more time to make the arrangements. Also, if my availability has limits, I have a better chance at securing a session time that fits my schedule. Generally, I have someone in mind that I want to see so just going down a list to find someone available on relatively short notice isn't what I am looking for. Now, all that said, I will admit that it is pretty damn disappointing when you get that call saying that it's necessary to cancel/reschedule no matter how good the reason is that's given. JMHO
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Even when I have an appointment in LA I take my trusty list with me because once I showed up at the ladies house and, nobody was there. I had driven an hour and a half and was not a happy camper. Got on the cell phone and the second lady I called was available and just 15 min away. Had a great time, and went home with a smile on my face. Be Prepared.......

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