I'm a provider and so many times clients have said to me "wow you must have a boyfriend" "Guys must stop you on the street" "You look like a model, how could you not have a boyfriend?"

I always take these kind of comments as a compliment, however the answer has never changed- No, I don't, things just don't work out that way.

In my personal life I almost never get asked out, but then again I'm a little shy and I don't really put myself out there.  I can count on one hand the number of times I've been asked out in the last year.  

I'm pretty traditional in my personal life- I don't sleep with men I'm dating right away.  I wait till I'm comfortable and know that they like me for me......unfortunately most of the time I don't hear back from them after the second date once they realize I'm not gonna f*ck them right away.

Which reassures me I'm in the right business.....

Don't get me wrong, I don't want a boyfriend- Being that I do this I don't think it would be fair.  And besides, I'm too young to be tied down to one person.  I'm a beautiful, educated young woman and I have great friends to have fun with.

I just thought I would share that with people.  Most people assume the opposite and I figured I'd shed some light on the reality of it all.

A lot of what attracts people to one another is sexual chemistry and the desire to feel special or important to someone else.

Hopefully you get more than a little of both doing what you do.  As for fair, a relationship is never real easy, but it's possible if you are both honest and open minded.  In the meantime... you look hot; got a boyfriend???

but if your 22 years old, at hot looking, many younger guys may be too afraid to ask you out out of fear of a "No" answer - I know when I was young, I usually did not ask a girl out for a date unless I felt the answer would be yes, and that's something men outgrow as we age.  Too bad I didn't have more confidence, since I've since learned that a lot of girls though I had a very hot physique (I was an world class athlete at a very high level of college competition)-I was just too young and naive to realize it.  if there is someone you want to date, go out of your way to be friendly to them..you'll be suprised.

Thanks for the insight on a provider's state of mind. Keep being picky (withen reason), with your looks and intelligence (I can tell from the prose) you'll find the right guy. Don't think that providing and a sincere relationship are mutually exclusive. I'm fairly new to the hobby, but I think the right provider as an SO would be hot. I would not have thought so a few months ago.

CG

what's one woman's ceiling is another woman's floor.  Some providers have boyfriends, some have husbands, some have both, some have none.

To each her own.

And I can tell you that I got asked out infinately more before the blond and the bolt-ons". In fact, in public, very few men even have the balls to say a word to me. That's fine, but it's definately interesting. You men need to realize that NO ONE TALKS TO THE HOT CHICKS, so you actually DO have a shot, if you just have a little faith in yourself!

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We all want to be just a bit more comfortable & drawn to the person we're with.
A boyfriend increases the risk level (slightly).

Is someone hiding in the closet, hall or parking lot?..does he know what you do?...what would he do to you (me, to be more accurate) if this is the time he finds out?

A boyfriend could signal unprotected sex...making DATY a bad idea...I trust most providers to take care of themselves, but I trust no guy to do the same.

A boyfriend could be a drug dealer (a logical partner for some providers) bringing unwanted LE scrutiny.

Personally, I like to imagine that I am auditioning for a providers boyfriend position, which makes my sessions more life-like.
Of course, if I really wanted a girlfriend, & all the associated hassles, I wouldn't be paying for the right to leave when I want.

depends on your locale but west coast guys are better looking and fitter and are in more supply so when I am on the west coast I get asked out more than on the east coast.

xo Lisa