I just always wondered because most of my clients come to me before they will go to a full service provider...

Stacy Moet aka The Head Doctor

-- Modified on 12/28/2007 12:35:03 PM

Thirty years or so ago, most providers were strictly a la carte.

You could get a hand job for $40, a blow job for $60 and FS was $80-100.

One pop and you were out, you got twenty minutes if you were luckly.  Double the prices if you wanted a second cup.

Things are better these days.

but then again minimun wage was $3.50, lol...

-- Modified on 12/29/2007 4:12:37 AM

I have a few clients that we do everything except penetration. Oral, rubbing, touching etc. I don't ask why unless they offer the info then I will talk about it. There are a couple of reasons they may do this. One, they are in a relationship and in their mind, as long as there is no intercourse, it's not really cheating.  Two, that's just their thing. There really are some men that prefer oral. A session can be just as wonderfuly sensual without intercourse, maybe even more so.

Speaking for myself I enjoy penetration but there is nothing like a good BBBJ. I don't usually ejaculate during sex because of the condom-it's just too desensitizing for me. I enjoy the experience but it is just a matter of time before the lady starts to tire and I will actually start to go soft.
Off comes the condom and the BBBJ begins!
....along with more DATY of course...I have also found over the years that my P4P partner is more likely to have an O...or five, during DATY than during penetration...seems like a no-brainer to me!

Personally I have yet to orgasm from a BJ, so to me it is just a prelude to better things. It feels nice and has a great visual aspect about it, but I need penetration for orgasm. The condom just makes me last a bit longer than I would otherwise.

b-

I have had some clients that only want bj's and I am willing to provide- I also don't ask questions as that is a mood killer.  As far as the O's, I can have multiple during intercourse but DATY, oh so sensitive afterwards.  Anyone willing to try to make it not sensitive, hehe!!!

If they are lickin' it, they better be stickin' it.
LOL   Oral just prepares you for it, it's like cake w/o the icing.
But that's just me,
HUnter

The BJ is just one of the things, along with the DFK, that makes me feel like the lady is really glad to see me. The deep penetration and thrusting is what will really get me off.

I will most def agree when it comes to the visual stimulation, because I get EXTRA turned on when i "see" someone doing daty or even when i'm giving a bbbj and they are enjoying it.. It just makes my job so much better, lol...

-- Modified on 12/29/2007 4:14:05 AM

One of my regular providers was talking about guys who only want bj (no names mentioned of course) and the reasons she had encountered:

1.  guys scared of performance anxiety or ED  felt less intimidated by bj

2.  some guys unable to cum in penetration with condom on preferred bj

3.  some guys just quirky!

4.  Good bbbjcim not available at home for many guys

went to a provider intending to stop at the BBBJCIMNQNS, which, judging from the review that you have Stacy, you are exceptionally good at.  I usually prefer to move on to sex in a number of positions if I can last, but I have been satisfied with ending with oral if it has been great.  I had two pops in an hour one time with just BBJCIM, because I could not get over how wonderful it was to look into her eyes as she swallowed me.  I sense that I would have the same experience with Stacy.  However, I did go back later to the same provider for the full service.  Can never get enough.

-- Modified on 12/28/2007 7:42:16 PM

Yeah when it comes to not getting any bbbjcim at home, i do have to say thats top of the list, most of my clients do complain about not gettin it at home, in my personal life though, i always tell my girlfriends and guy friends alike "give your man/woman what he/she needs and most of what he/she wants sexualy because if not, you'll be the one left in the cold while he/she gets his/hers somewhere else"... Hope to see you soon rayj...

Stacy Moet

-- Modified on 12/29/2007 4:16:48 AM

NOTHING beats a good hand job.

As noted by others, the "condomezation" of the sexual encounter and its resulting desensitization (of the penis) also plays an important role in the reasons.

But it is more than just the nerve's sensory feedback that we look for. There is a psychological aspect involved. And for men it is highly visual. Hence porn exists and is used by men far more than by women. The visual feedback from a BJ and the psychological visual factor put it a cut above the HJ. Intercourse takes things to the next step in the psychological factors. For some these psychological factors are intimacy, for others it could be domination, or simply because it’s the end of the line. It’s as far as you can take things (except of anal)

Still the visual aspects of the BJ make it (the BJ) very arousing.

Even so, a good hand job (which can be an integral part of a BJ) is the best release. IT'S INTERESTING HOW SO MANY MANY PROVIDERS ACTUALLY DO NOT KNOW HOW TO GIVE A GOOD HAND JOB.

-- Modified on 12/28/2007 11:19:15 PM

I suppose there are guys who, like you said, either prefer oral as a fetish or preference, or think it's not as "bad" or "wrong" in terms of "betraying" an SO. However, I find many a time, my oral only sessions, while I have some clients who distinctly prefer it, more often than not it just turns out that way by chance, as we're going with the flow, and, for example, it feels good and we end up doing BJTC instead of switching from a bit or oral to intercourse. Or if we're doing 69, we both end up finishing, and we don't get around to a second round, either because it's a short appointment, or because we have other things planned- the gent wants to talk about something, or go out to eat, and/or is a one-pop guy. Often, it's regulars with whom I have had intercourse, and we both know it's on the menu, but there are those appointments when oral just feels so good that we both get distracted and forget to incorporate FS, lol. But I'm sure there are different reasons guys visit oral-specialists, vs. reasons guys might choose to visit me, knowing FS is on the menu, and then we just don't get to it in a specific session. I have to agree with meowbaby, I find that mutual oral can be just as satisfying without the intercourse- don't get me wrong, I love sex, but if a guy pleasures me orally I don't usually feel disappointed if he doesn't follow that with penetration, although it's always fun, it's not any less satisfying for me at least, to do a session that turns out to be an oral/manual only session. There are so many aspects- the touching, the kissing, the friction, the connection, the orgasms, that don't require FS to be a "full" sensual experience, IMO. But on the other hand, that's the nice thing about this hobby, for both myself and my clients- variety. I get to participate in many different kinds of sex, and meet many different kinds of people, whereas for the gents, they can pursue what they're in the mood for, or just go with the flow, and usually both leave happy!

XoXo
Marea

I agree, mouth and hands are a great combimation, and a mutual hand release, alternating or stroking together, is a huge turn on for me. I know some people are weird about touching themselves in front of others, but over time IMO the erotic factor increases and any residual discomfort disappears. I find that stroking a guy and/or watching a guy stroke himself is hot as hell, and I certainly don't mind stroking myself during foreplay or certain sexual positions when it feels right.

Your point is an interesting one- that many providers don't know how to give a good hj. I've discussed this with many gents, and many say that they enjoy hj as part of the natural sexual progression when with a provider, but only if the provider has inherently good technique, and/or is willing to learn what pleases them specifically. And I think while some guys have the mindset of, no one can do it as good as I can, on the other hand, a sex act can feel good as a simple self-release, but when you throw a partner into the mix, there is definitely a different dimension, no matter what the act- mutual masturbation, hj, toys, etc. I like to think I give a good hj, but at the same time its like any other preference- there is individual variation, and whether hj, bj, combination, sexual positions, dirty talk, nipple stimulation, a specific type of attire- anything- if there is something specific that will enhance the sensation or give a particular gent a better sensual experience, by all means tell me how to make it best for you! Just my thoughts..

XoXo
Marea

There is really no substitude for an outstanding BBBJ. Recently I have been very fortunate to have been with a few ladies who truley excelled in this area and the BBBJCIM was mind blowing for me..It was a combination of really great oral skills, verbiage, & eye penetration. Wonderful feeling.

I am very fortunate that I can feel thru the condom which is why I love sex in MISH with DFK. The condom definitley prolongs the hard on for me.

Jennifer Taylor is a BBJ to HJ expert, and is hot, hot, hot.

Reminds me a lot of Marea.

Maybe some of these younger women have learned skills that could benefit everyone.

Absolutely NOTHING wrong with your technique. You were fantastic.

BTW, were you using your hands down there? I couldn't see because your legs blocked my view

-- Modified on 12/29/2007 10:03:17 PM

I find it a big turn on when the woman I'm with allows me to see her strocking herself. And, I like it when she takes my finger and uses it to pleasure herself. It's a very good way to learn how wants to be touched at that point in time. Many guys think the same thing should work on all women, or if it worked on one woman at one time, it should work again the next time. BTW, where have you been? I very much miss your posts. BTW, not meaning it to be a personal question. Just wanted you to know that you are missed.

I generally don't come upon guys who just want bbbj, no frills, nothing else, but there was this one instance...

I showed up, we chatted for a minute or two about the power going out in the city and the rest of the hour was spent on my knees in bbbj. When I left, my legs were sore as hell from being in one position the whole time, but it was an interesting appt. (for many reasons) but I was baffled that he didn't want to fuck me. At least a little DATY for the lady. Damnit. hehe. Nah, he was a sweetie and I'd do it again, but I was curious as to why bbbj only...

...I find BJ's to be the least erotic part of the experience short of the "Lex, your time is up. Get out." that comes at the very end.

Some guys get BJs before they see another provider because they tend to go there real stiff and this helps them prolong the hour so to speak. That would be great if all men did so, but as you may know some guys do it themselves on the way over and it almost never quite works out the way they would like...

Good luck. Do you write a blog? You should.

That's probably due to price point. IF you rent the mercedes SLR for a day you'll take a corner at 95. If I rent a honda civic, I'm going to go from point A to point B.

I personally am a bit baffled by that, but some guys are conscience about disease, and have SO's. I used to avoid it for fear of contracting HIV, or an STD. Although, when I read a stat that only 1 in 5000000 people when having protected sex through normal male-female contact get it, I stopped caring .

DATY is one of those things, I don't mind doing, but if the girl is SUPER mechanical, I don't want to bother with it.

On a side note: You'd be surprised how rare a good BBBJ is I've had 3 in my life. (and many have tried... )

-m