I've seen several large men...

And I really don't mind...They are almost always the very sweetest, most gentlemanly guys around.  My only thing is hygiene.  I am very turned off by body odor, and bad breath.  As long as you are clean...and some big guys may take a shower at my place, but not be as clean as they think....I'm not sure why that is, but I would suggest the provider washing you down....  That way, she will ensure you are squeaky clean, and it will be a nice ice breaker so you won't feel nervous...Good luck in your search, and on your surgery.

Sexy Sofia of Atlanta

Common? Well, it's getting there as more and more obese people take the final plunge into an attempt at a permanent solution. The secret is finding a quality surgeon, and more than that, one who has an outstanding follow-through program of support. It takes lots of disciple to make the surgery work. It's just a tool, it is not a quick fix, but it does work when used properly.

By the way, Nixon has to watch Deep Throat three times before he could get it down Pat.


Jimbo

Thanks for the reply. I've read it a few times, just to make sure I don't go off on some tirade. I'll try not to, but do have a tendancy to get longwinded. You do have very vaild, arguable points, I'll give you that. In fact, I'll strike my comment about discrimination for now. If they don't or won't then so be it. In the end it's their loss, not mine. For every dozen or more that won't there's one or two that will. So cool. I'm happy.

But I must ask this: you say to have realistic expectations, money only does so much, and how can they get into DFK if the client doesn't look good?

Well, I feel I do have realistic expectations and concerns also, that is why I am doing my homework in this matter and not just setting up a time hoping for the best and setting myself (and her) up for a let-down.

Secondly, yeah, sure money only does so much. As they say, money can't buy happiness. But I say whoever said this phrase originally didn't know where to shop. If you know what you're looking for, seek it out and find it, sample it some and if you find it truly to your liking ... is that not a success? Or at the least, a Hot Time? Remember, as a big guy, I don't take an escort, or girlfriend or getting some for granted. I am more thankful than a vast majority, I'm sure.

Third, how can they get into it? If they DFK with most of their clients, and it is requested nicely, not "demand"ed as you stated above, then if the answer is NO, fine. Again, their loss because one thing I can do well at 400 lbs. is kiss. However, and correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't they in some form or another creating a fantasy environment? Hence the whole GFE. Went the extra mile? Forgot it was service? It's an illusion, it's a gimmick, it's an act. Some are better at it than others is all.

Being open and honest upfront, as I intend to be, would get me much farther than not letting them know "a little bit about me before we meet." As Sofia states in her post, she has found us big guys to be sweet and gentlemanly. Why? Because we are. I've been to strip clubs, and am so appreciative of a woman who comes over, introduces herself and spends some time with me. Regardless of her looks. I know I'm not the greatest catch in the ocean, and we all know how many fish there are in the sea. She came over to me is the bottom line. If she's been dancing for any length of time at all, she'll know the big guys are sweeter, more fun to be with and treat them better. It's the good looking, thin, can get it anytime guys (I'd venture to bet not much unlike yourself) that make us other good guys look bad.

Lastly, you state: "obviously the better you look the better service you'll get and ask yourself this question. WOULD I GET EXCITED WITH A NAKED WOMAN WHO WEIGHTS OVER 400 LBS? And you will find the answer to your doubts." Your name wouldn't happen to be Hal, would it? Obviously you say? Are escorts and people so shallow to give better service to me later after surgery, than they are now before surgery? See above for creating an illusion.

As for asking myself about a 400 pound woman and getting excited. If I were an escort, and that was my job, my career, my chosen path of how I put bread on the table and paid the rent, then you bet the farm I get excited. WHY? Because, it's my duty as a quality provider to set the best mood and create the best experience for her as I can. And not only for her, but wouldn't I get better reviews, have a regular friend and possibly some referrals? Sounds like good, basic business practices to me. Not to mention knowing I made someone else feel special. How often do we get to do that on any given day? And if we do get that chance, then how often do we really follow through with it? Using your gifts, whatever they may be is a secret of happiness.

Again, thanks for your input, I do appreciate it very much. And I will be posting my question to the local Florida discussion board. I found it later after I posted and knew I should have posted it there instead. Hind sight is 20/20.

Take care and thanks for the well wishes. I am so looking forward to surgery and a new me that I've never experienced.

Happy Hobbying,
Jimbomania

Thanks. Thinking back, I should have just left the comparison to Chris Farley (also without the drugs.) After I posted last night, I caught some of Austin Powers in Goldmember with none other than Fat Bastard. I don't look like that, slimey and greasy. Not me, I'm dry and clean.

If you do pursue the surgery, I urge you to find the best surgeon and support team available. You'd be amazed by the lack of proper support out there. It is a drastic change, and is for a lifetime. As the saying goes, if you want to do something different in your life, then you have to do something different in your life.

Honesty upfront, as Billy Joel sang, it's such a lonely word, hardly ever heard and mostly what I need from you. I was thinking that being honest and upfront is the ONLY way to go. Showing up to have them open the door (or me) and them get the shock, and I get what I call, "The Sean Penn Look" would not be pleasant, and to me, misleading and totally dishonest.

Thanks again.
Jimbomania
PS. The Sean Penn Look is what I describe as when someone is looking at a menu and doesn't like the food. If you've seen any of his movies, you've seen The Look.

Jaclyn,
Thanks very much for the compliments. I appreciate them, and I assure you, I am what I appear to be: caring, sensitive, honest, etc. Even better in person

I also wish to let you know I am doing this for me, looks is a bonus, it is my health, employment difficulties (in landing the job and keeping one) and the possibilities of diabetes, cancer, high bloood pressure and all the other wonderful co-morbidities that accompany obesity. I will be 31 this September, I wanna stay around for that many more, at least. Lots to do, many gifts to share, I just don't have the physicality to back up my mind, you know?

So, yes, this is for my health. It's in the hidden benefits such as your looks, your attitude, confidence level, employability and little thoughts of things, like buying clothes in ANY store, or fitting into any car, booth, ride, etc. that the real positives of the surgery come shining through. To do what normal people do on a daily basis, and take for granted.

Nice website by the way, very well put together.

Thanks again, and take care of yourself.
Jimbo