I thought about this based a previous post.  From what I infer in the previous post, she was a good provider with good reviews.  But what if she wasn't, or if she gave a really bad session?

Even bad providers might have stalkers.  I don't feel that being ripped off or having a bad experience justifies putting someone's safety at risk.  Some guys might disagree with the rip-off part but I suspect they wont post those comments here.

But what if safety isn't the issue?  What if she just wants to create a falsely positive image to sucker in more clients?  How can one tell?

How can one warn others about a bad provider, or a really bad time, and not jeopardize her safety?  A posting on a local board would still require her name and contact info to be of any use.

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If she is not on top of her game that day.  YMMV always applies.  Now, if she is truly bad (B&S or upsell), a negative review and warning on the boards is in order.  But, if you had a less than stellar session with an otherwise good provider, I would think twice before going public, and  incurring the wrath that would ensue from her White Knights.  I would not hesitate to warn others BC, though...

If a provider has a lot of positive reviews and you give a true account of your experience she will do fine. I have seen a few providers that had great reviews, we simply did not click.

If that is the case, move on. If there is an issue of up selling, old pics then be honest about that as well.

Like it or not, this is a business relationship and if the provider does poorly or is dishonest ... she will get less and less referrals and less and less business.

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Unrelated Gratuitous "Kiss Her Ass" Photoage

The only time I would post a review after being asked not to do so would be in the case of a "ripoff" type provider.

When asked not to review someone you never know the reason (unless you ask, which I wouldn't). So a bad provider (bad reviews or no reviews yet) needs to be posted about to let others know what to expect.

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Exactly how does posting the name and contact info of a bad provider place her safety in any less jeopardy than posting the name and contact info of a good provider? And if she has any stalkers I'm sure they already know how to find her through whatever advertisements she has up on web so that shouldn't be a concern.

I had a session where the lady was not quite "fresh". Other than that everything was very accomodating.

Going up against several pages of "rave reviews" will most likely get the Posse out. So I commit myself to only replying to ISOs instead of public.

In the case of a bad session, if it was due to her, and not me, then I would review her. I think I would want other hobbyists to be aware, and not go through what I went through.

Common sense must still apply, you can't say that Sherry at 124 E 12th St Apt #B (all made up) didn't live up to your expectations.  A review, good or bad, can't (shouldn't)provide enough information to jepordize anyone...

This is the same issue I have with people not wanting to recommend a lady to a newb or an alias.  My saying in open forum that I had a GREAT time with Sherry does NOTHING to put her at risk.

Write the review, but use judgement on what to include.

the review gets written. Now that means that all possibly mitigating information is provided as well.  In other word I would do my very best to write as unbiased and fair review a possible.

  I trust members of the hobby community to evaluate all the info and decide how much weight to give to any single review. I generally don't risk TOFFT and only see providers who are well reviewed or handled by respected agencies. So I would expect a bad experience to be uncommon.

  The stated purpose of this site is so that hobbyists can share information. It is not to create a site to curry favor with your favorite provider. I call em like I see em, and take whatever heat (or not) comes my way.  

-J

When a provider is aware you write reviews then you have a better chance of things going well but if she senses you are new and she gets away with a mediocre performance she will not try any harder the next time; unless you mention writing a review at some point not in a negative way but she most likely will ask that you not write.

...but I'm a pussy.  I say review them if you want.  Or be a pussy like me.  The choice is yours.

My comment about safety is in reference to a post below which addressed legitimate reasons why a provider would not want to be reviewed.  One response from a provider is that she might be trying to avoid stalkers.

Apparently, the more reviews a provider has, the more easily she can be tracked.  I don't know how that works, but however it does, I don't see how a comment on a forum would be any safer.

I find it interesting that no one has considered that even a bad provider might be trying to avoid a stalker.  Below, everyone said that you should automatically respect a providers wishes not to be reviewed.  I guess the assumption was that she is a good provider with nothing to hide.

Of course, a bad provider could be using safety as an excuse to avoid bad reviews.  Should we assume the worst of intentions on her part and review her anyway?

I've given pretty honest ratings, but I've never had a provider ask me not to review her.  

If someone asks me not to review her, I'd ask why.  If I had just had a great session and she has great reviews, it would just be curiosity.  I wouldn't post a review.  If it was a bad session from a normally good provider, she'd have to give me a good reason for me not to review.

As for bad providers, I avoid providers with inconsistent reviews or if I see more YMMVs in the reviews than I would like.  I'm usually on the downslope of the YMMV curve.

Never had a girl that I had a lousy time with ask not to be reviewed. I'm not sure what I would do. I suppose if she had other recent reviews I would post an honest review. If she had no recent reviews I would probably respect her wishes. If a lady is truly worried about safety she can always choose to have her reviews removed and be de-listed on TER.
This is a tough call that I, fortunately, have not had to deal with yet.

When I first got into this life I attempted to write reviews and they were rejected because of not enough details. I had written them so as not to Kiss and Tell so to speak because the two providers in question didn't care for them, but didn't discourage me from writing them. Then, I meet a well know provider in Chicago who doesn't like them and appeals for me not to and I have not written one since.

Reviews are meant for guys to post their honest opinions and experiences so that this information, good and bad, can be shared with other hobbyists so they can make informed decisions. The consumer has a right to make an informed decision, if she doesn't like that then she should contact TER and get herself formally delisted.

I don't understand how safety can have anything to do with it either. How is having a review going to enable stalkers? A provider can choose not to have her email, web site, and/or phone # in her profile, so that can't be the issue.  It's not like her reviews are going to list her incall address or home phone #!

If the provider is asking you not to post good reviews, then you should respect it.

If the level of service was not as I expected, then I write the review to let other hobbyists know the situation.

In 5+ years of doing this, I did have one lady who didn't want to be reviewed here on TER but she was fine with a review on another site.  She claimed TER reviews are too detailed.  Dah.