My man is bi-polar! I'm confussed how someone can be so sweet one day and mean and hurtful the next. What would make a person want to hurt you for no reason esp when things are going great?

I don't have a clue, but I recommend that you find another guy. Move on and leave him out of your life.

Please post something like this on 'The Erotic Highway' board. I don't know what it's original purpose was, but it's become a sort of counseling forum. The Mod over there, 'The Love Goddess' is a skilled therapist who has lived life to it's fullest and gained vast amounts of insight along the way. Alot of the regulars around there are pretty insightful as well.   We've dealt with this bi-polar stuff more than once, the comments are deep and encouraging. If you're serious, give it a shot, alot of us have been there too.

but it takes a lot of love and determination on your part.

I take it that this person has not be diagnosed, seeing a mental health professional to obtain the correct diagnosis is very important and then treatment is in order.

Many people who have bipolar disorder are very talented and lovable and are wonderful to be with, so I would not just give up without giving it some effort.

A very good book on the subject of living with a bipolar sufferer is:

"Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder", by Julie A. Fast and John D. Preston.  New Harbinger Publications, c. 2004.

Good luck with the relationship.

You never ever met a sweeter man.  His wife was a saint and loved him dearly.  How they got through the disease proved to me that with the right partner all things are possible, but I've another friend, who I saw on the way to the funeral who has another mental illness... and their marriage is not going as well.... what to say what to do.  

You cannot get through this alone, and your partner HAS to help and has to want to help.  Professional help is imperative.  can it be done?  yes, I've seen it done... I've also seen it fail.... the choice is yours and his.  Good luck.

It really hurts to see someone you're close to suffer in this way.    You're right, living (most of the time, happily) with a bi-polar person can indeed be done.  I was married to one for 25 yrs. until, sadly, the disease overtook her about 2 yrs. ago.   Would I do it again?  Given what I've learned about myself as well as others, I certainly would.  Were it not for that experience, I would be much less of the person I am today. Love, coupled with life experience, is the most powerful teacher of all.

What you describe does not sound like bipolar disorder at all, but it certainly doesn't sound "normal."  Get some counseling yourself to assist you in sorting this out and how to best respond.