I am seeing a provider I have not seen before. In our emails, she mentioned that if I bring some wine, she will spend some time before and after chatting.  When we were setting up our date, she asked if I was bringing the wine. What do you guys make of this? Would you jump at this opportunity? Or is she just trying to get some free wine?  If it were a provider I had already seen and had rapport with, I would probably bring wine.  I asked her what kind of wine she likes, she just said any kind and surprise me. So I don't know what kind to bring anyway. For what it is worth, I am single so spending more time is not an issue for me. At first, I thought it would be a good idea to bring the wine and talk more. But it does seem like an unusual request, given that she had not seen me before. Any comments?

quit whining and grab some Merlot..

Rather than see you as an ATM, she's looking forward to taking the time to sit down, discuss and get to know you better. You said she's willing to do this Before and After your session on her own Personal Time. Hint hint, wink wink. If she was only interested in wine, trust me I think she can afford her own. Duh!

It's really NBD. Free wine? I hope you're just being sarcastic. Ask her what she likes andjust t go to a store and get  A nice bottle,   cost should be 10 to 20 bucks.  

I appreciate the straightforwardness of your replies. Overthinking again.

It sounds like you are in for a nice, non rushed session. Don't overthink it, just roll with it.

Sorry, your city is going through hard times.  Forget my smart ass reply.  

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Have often done it without being requested especially if P-411 says wine/
Seems to help get a relaxed start and has helped break the ice. Does not have to be an expensive bottle.
If time in front of on the end is added for bringing wine it is the cheapest part of the encounter. Relax/ enjoy

... I find it odd that the provider not only brought up the subject, she also reminded you about it. Never had a provider initiate a discussion like that. Usually I ask what if anything I can bring and what she likes, and some love it when I bring a beverage to share but it can vary from wine to beer to spirits to coffee/latte to boutique water.  

I always ask do they prefer wine or champagne and what kind. I see it as a gift, it gives us something to enjoy as we get to know one another.. break the ice, and it helps me relax because I am usually nervous. I am no wine aficionado and never buy anything expensive. For the most part I usually pick up a bottle of Barefoot at the local drug store for 10 bucks.  

I would definitely take a bottle of wine. And don't forget, you.will also need a corkscrew!

Even providers get nervous before a date, I know I do! Anticipation and trying to be sweet and sexy to whomever walks through the door, eeeck! Sure, he was screened and the communication via email went well but OMG... Will he like me, how I smell, my BBBJ technique, my choice of lingerie? Making a first impression is stressful!

And may not be bottled and are in a box. Would much rather have an organic malbec than a corked bottle of moscato.

Definitely overthinking it.  I think most likely she is just trying to gain some repeat business, so she put the offer out there for a little otc time.  Although I always make sure I don't overstay my welcome, I find that many ladies will not kick you out the door the second your time expires.  In fact, many of them will be the one that will engage in additional conversation that extends past the paid time.  She definitely is not just trying to get some free wine.  Think about it if the roles were reversed and someone offered to buy you a drink.  Would you sit around and talk to someone you didn't want to talk to just because they bought you drink?  I would probably actually offer to buy them a drink if it meant that I wouldn't feel obligated to sit around and talk to them.

Very true. I do like to hear the cork "pop" tho, but I'm not a fan of "cork taint"

I've found most providers who want white. I go for a chilled, Pinot Grigio because it does not stain the teeth and is low alcohol. Reds vary, but a Malbec  or Australian Shiraz works well. Both are under $20 and usually have screw tops (no cork screw)

Unless the lady I am meeting with with does not drink, I ALWAYS bring a bottle of wine.  I bring white because it is far less likely to stain my clothes if spilled.  I prefer a dry chardonnay, and my "go to" bottle is a Pouilly-Fuissé by either Louis Jadot or Barton & Guestier -- both are good and a nice value.  Since I prefer slightly longer meetings, this just seems natural.  It also soothes the nerves of both of us, is a nice way the get refreshed and relaxed between rounds, and is also comfortable to hold when talking.

Re: Just don't take her MD 20/20. EOM

He won't have a date after a glass of that. She'll be sleep

Of course you should bring her a bottle of wine. Have her choose one from this page.

I've had several ladies request that I bring wine, not unusual in the least.
Once I brought it after she made the request at the last minute, but then we didn't have a corkscrew in the room.
She then went on a mission to the hotel bar as I showered, giving hotel staff quite an eyeful, as she was wearing an amazing tight short dress with her double DDs bouncing all over and nearly spilling out.  She was a very fun girl, and a great time ensued.

Champagne would be my first choice...

Thanks, I am always amazed at provider's ability to "enjoy" or at least seem to enjoy these "blind" dates. The stress of having to be "up" (energy/attitude) would be too much for me. As it is I have my own "up" issues, and the stress of seeing new providers can be very ED'ing. Yes, if we have done our research, we know what we are getting into and who we are meeting, but I applaud you providers for being able to jump in blind when you open that door for a first time client. Most of my dates are early morning or afternoon, too early for wine for me

We drank a bottle and she asked if "we" should open another ... we had a friggin blast that night and we ran over on time to the point that her driver called several times and ended up knocking on the door to get her to go (yes, I tipped her)