I am a 45 year old man in a wheelchair. A paraplegic for many years now.  I am happy and independent.  My question arises from a recent trip to Las Vegas with some friends.  They got propositioned by an escort, while I did not.  Note that I'm the best looking of the bunch...thats not really saying a lot though.  I would like to know if providers generally prefer NOT to see a disabled man ( assuming the he requires no special care..ie in good shape and condition).  Also should I inform the provider of my condition before making an appointment.  Never seen a provider before...but maybe I would like to.

I am the moderator of the Las Vegas board, and I know you can find a great lady who will send you home with a big grin on your face and joy in your soul. Las Vegas has many great ladies with hearts of gold. They will also make those guys who got propositioned by the bar ladies jealous as hell.

And YES, the gals will see you if you are a para or a quad. They just want you to be clean and not a dick!  hehe

Come on by the LV board and make yourself at home. We won't bite, but I know a couple of ladies who might nibble.....

TMT--REALLY Sleepless in Seattle

PS  Yes, always inform a lady of any special needs.

TMT even started this thread a few months ago about the topic.

As you can see some of the aforementioned Vegas hotties did respond.

Don't ask me about the mechanics because I don't know how he does it.

But he sees providers all the time.  They love the guy.  Bar propositioning is not the best way for you.  Try contacting some reputable ladies ahead of time and explain your situation.  I'm sure someone will see you.  Ladies are often very accomodating.  If it's because of war or something heroic that may score some points too.

I have been seeing a gentleman in a wheelchair regularly for the past two months. The first time he contacted me he let me know about his condition. I will be honest and admit that I had alot of misgivings before meeting him the first time. I had no idea what to expect, and was very unsure of myself because of that. As it turned out, things went beautifully. He was very forthright about what he could and could not do, and was very quick to put me at ease. Once I was comfortable, things proceeded as naturally as they would with any other man I see. Not only that, but I discovered to my delight that in some ways, the experience was far more enjoyable. Without getting graphic, I found that nearly anything that two healthy adults can do could be done with a bit of creativity, which made the experience all the more enjoyable.

Hmmm. This is a tough one. While I do not discriminate against people with handicaps it's hard to know what the expectation might be from someone who has to live with a disability every day. I believe that often people shy away from situations they don't understand or have no experience with. I'll fess up here and say that I've backed out of a date with someone who described themselves as a little person. At first, it didn't bother me but his need to keep bringing it up and making excuses for it made me extremely uncomfortable. I bailed on the date not because of his being little but mostly because of his demeanor and insecure demonstration. I realize that those qualities were present probably as a result of rejection in the past but it was really something I knew I didn't want to deal with. If he had been a fun guy and came across as such I'm sure I would have seen him and thought nothing of it.

As for the girls in Vegas who overlooked you, could it possibly be that they were younger, stripper type providers? If so, you might want to consider that these girls are often considered the cream of the crop and can usually have any man they choose in or out of the hobby. They probably meant no harm and more than likely they did think of you but weren't mature enough to know how to talk to you. I'm sorry they passed you over. I'm bothered by it for you! Keep reading - maybe you'll like what you read next.

I was drawn to a man in a chair recently. I met him at a CAKE party in NYC. He was gorgeous and sexy and charismatic and I wanted him badly! We "danced" and flirted and I was perched on his lap for hours. At the end of the night he told me he had a great time but that he would be going home alone. Why? He already had a girlfriend waiting for him at home. : ) I have to say I was honestly disappointed!


Stay strong and sexy~
xo
laney

I can't find it now, but there was a review not that long ago where the guy wrote that he was in a wheel chair and the provider carried him upstairs to the bedroom.

I may not have a ramp at my front door, but my halls are wide and I used to be in a wheelchair myself, so I pay extra attention to those with five legs. Wink!

However, I may be moving soon and there will be some stairs, so I guess that would be your main concern, right?  Also, are you able to get into bed by yourself or do you need help? Some women cannot lift.

Hugs,
Ciara

The gals I have met through TER and the industry in general will have you thinking of installing racing slicks and a roll-cage by the non prejudicial treatment they'll afford you.

 GOT NITRO-METHANE ?

...and it didn't work to well, but my situation was far diff from yours.  i was in a wheelchair due to busted legs, and the pain/meds combined to make sure nothing "arose".  i love her for trying tho

having said that, there was really no reason things wouldn't work out if i wasn't foggy on drugs.  i can't speak for provides in general whether they prefer not to see disabled gents, but i would guess it would make a diff in their outlook on your appt.

and yes!  definitely inform your provider about your condition, don't take her by surprise.

I am in a wheelchair and have seen three providers. In my initial contact, I informed them of my condition. I also told them not to worry, that I didn't take myself too seriously, and that we'd probably get a few good laughs along the way as we tried to get our freak on. As nervous as I was, I knew that setting their minds at ease would be very important to allow us both to relax and have fun. We did, boy oh boy did we!

I'm have a reapeat date for Wednesday, and can't wait. While my first three sessions were just about getting used to "things", this time I hope to experiment and see what positions I can manage, other than CG or RCG. I've taken some notes from pornos, and have seen a few things I think I can do.

My advice, find a MILF. Make aplan of what, how and where you want to do things. Make an appointment for at least two hours. Four is better, so you can take your time to get to know her a bit, get comfortable with the whole idea of seeing a provider, and have plenty of time to work out any logistics, leaving time for round two, or more. Don't be dissappointed if things don't go as smoothly as you'd like. Think of the first time as an experiment, a learning process. Just relax and  enjoy. Afterwatds you can think of ways to make the next time better.

Seeing a provider was the best thing I think I could have ever done for my self confidence, not to mention the freakin' sex is great.

And to all of you providers out there, I am available, in the Tampa area, for training sessions with you as well. A little knowledge and practice on your part can make a huge difference in the eyes of a man in a chair. My services are free! Siobahn, are you listening????

happyloner, feel free to IM me if you have any questions.

specialize in seeing clients who are "differently abled."

There is even an organization in Australia dedicated to connecting disabled clients with sex workers: http://www.touchingbase.org

I would LOVE to put together a similar site for the US; if anyone is interested, please email me.

You might check a lady's FAQ on her site, which could mention whether or not clients with disabilities are welcome.

I have seen gentlemen who are quadraplegic, paraplegic, stroke victims, everything from minor body issues to major issues that require intense assistance on my part.

The most important thing is to be upfront with the lady, and let her know that you will explain to her exactly what you personally need in order to feel comfortable and have fun. I think if most ladies know that you will be their guide, they will follow willingly and have fun with the session!

Enjoy yourself!!!

xxxooo
Beverly ;-*

a statement that has stayed with me ever since.

He said:  "The world is divided into the disabled and the temporarily abled."

In other words, this subject concerns us all.

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