I'm sick and tired of getting ghosted by providers. I've had three appointments since Xmas eve, and all three ghosted me with no communication whatsoever. I rescheduled with one, and she ghosted me a second time.
What the hell? I'm being nice and not saying anything out of line in my texts. Do you guys do or say something such that providers will actually be where they said they'd be when they said they'd be there?
Does TER have a mechanism for reporting this? Two of the providers I found here on TER, and I still got ghosted.
It sucks, That is why I do not pay a cancellation fee. They can just not show up, but if we do that !! They want us to pay, fuck that !
I wanna say that maybe it's that time of year or the pandemic has others rethinking who to see at the last minutes,But honestly I just dunno.You seem to be on a unlucky streak there.
Were they touring ladies or locals? Maybe, without you realizing it but maybe there's something in your communication, like a hint of haggling or maybe coming off as too needy or hard to please..I can't say
I wish I could say that I have this magical aura where I don't get ghosted but I'd be full of myself.
I don't think TER has a mechanism to call a girl out except to blast her ass on the local board where she's based, but do you really want to do that? You'd be known as "That Guy" in your own playground....but it's up to you.
Feel for you, but hang in there, 2020 is almost over.
Fuck, I feel like Ann Landers.....lol
not doubting your authenticity or your earnest efforts here but....
Are you NUB? Just wondering because I see nothing reflecting previous experiences here and maybe just maybe if you were screened it didn't pan out for you resulting in a lack of response from the pro f idea. Depending on the circumstances , like maybe you were untruthful she/they did not choose to follow up. I myself will follow up,if the requested info,is inadequate to be comfortable but if intentionally misleading, you will hear nothing further from me. Example being Xmas eve someone insisted on sending their info via text which I do not normally do and it checked out very quickly then only to follow up with repeated insistent texts that I meet right away. I dusted him for rudeness or drunkenness, Xmas day I get a text from another number different name and a tally ranked with him tentatively seeting a later appointment if it checked out. Dumbest set up new social media under new name and phone but there were pics the same as the previous idiot. Was I kind enough to contact him and break the news that I knew he lied to me....seriously, what do you think.
Another thing noted in your posts is the references to using texts for arrangements. The reason I had the previously noted problem was I broke my own rule about texting screening and setting appointments. To me texting is like hiding behind a screen and does not lend itself to honesty unless,it is with someone I already have experience with. My little bit of reference tells me that most reputable PROVIDERS don't work solely by text except, with a KNoWN and most reputable knowledgeable HOBBYIST dont either for the same reason.
Zo,az,uxual You say your texts good and forthright, 3 Providers, with one being arranged 2 twice.....methinks either something is amiss, you need to change your Modus Operandi or the Provider group you are engaging. Plus take into consideration maybe that the Holidays could have been in play too....
Honestly you really have no place to go (anymore than it would if the roles were reversed) with this unless you name names and i am suspecting that it would not effect them at all.
A salubrious New Year to all
Suzee the slut
Sorry for all the gobbledygook here, I hate auto correct.....guess I need to update my keyboard
With a high flake factor. Especially if shopping in a lower pricing tier.
But too many variables to place blame on that fact....
Could be your references, or lack of....
Since you're posting under an alias, I have no idea what your level of experience, or tastes are.
It sounds like you’re looking for bargains and end up losing out in the long run. Up your quality standard and you’ll find no-shows to become almost nonexistent.
I don't know what price point he is at, but it sounds like its pretty low to repeated get ghosted by multiple ladies. He should move upmarket a little and see if he's more successful at that level.
Trust me you would be surprised if being completely honest. All you can do is throughly do your homework on these ladies, read plenty of reviews, pm some recent reviewers here on TER & for the love of whats best make sure the ladies you pick have consistent steady reviews otherwise that should be red flag numero uno!
Even if a newbie there are plenty of decent providers that will take you on with other means of screening. Again just do your HOMEWORK before giving any sort of info. Hard lesson I learned with a former well known PS long time provider here in LA earlier this year.
...called a bad streak. Chalk it up and hopefully, the tides turn around soon.
Sometimes they won't book or ghost when that happens.
