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rembrnad0284 12 Reviews 1472 reads
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1 / 49

I heard that too Robbin, and was stunned... in an eerie way due not only to the obvious tragedy, but to the haunting similarity to my life.  So, to answer your questions:

1. yes
2. yes, I do check several times a day
3. yes
 
Posted By: RobbinYoung
As details of Robin William's death come out...the report says his wife went to bed at 10:30pm, in a separate bedroon, and left the next day, without communicating with her husband.      
   
 I find it odd, that a husband and wife had absolutely no interaction.  I'm not blaming his wife for Robin's death...but since I'm a single woman, I'd like the input of married people on this site, that are either providers or hobbyists.    
   
 1. Is this common in your marriage...do you and your spouse sleep in separate bedrooms?    
 2. Do you not communicate with one another, and check to see if your spouse is alright...especially if you know he or she, suffers from depression?  
 3. Do you think married couples, who sleep in separate bedrooms, eventually enjoy the company of prostitutes?
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ExtraSmallMe 864 reads
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2 / 49

You babbling about it all the time for 2 days now, we are happy for you that you know him but JUST END THE SUBJECT !!!!!!!!!!

Leviooosa 1 Reviews 769 reads
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3 / 49

Up! +1 Plus stop posting same things all over the boards, can't read those copy/paste things anymore.

-- Modified on 8/13/2014 11:12:08 AM

BRIT87 758 reads
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4 / 49

Sick and tired of you knowing everyone,  sleeping with everyone, and living in your "memories". Please just stop it!

You have posted the same freaking message about him in different boards, when is not even allowed.

Can you please have a little respect?! FFS, woman!

ExtraSmallMe 632 reads
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5 / 49
GaGambler 625 reads
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7 / 49

Three STFU posts posted back to back to back at this hour of the morning. What are the odds of three fucking losers stalking one woman's posts at this time of fucking day?

I am on several different boards, and I see where she has made one almost identical comment on the LV board in response to some one else bringing up the subject, and then she brought the subject to GD, just like hundreds of people have done with other topics. Just how many boards have you followed her to if she is truly "spamming the boards"

and please play the fucking "White Knight" card with me, I fucking dare you to say something THAT fucking stupid in regards to me. I've called out Robin dozens of times for making threADs, but I just don't see it here.

rembrnad0284 12 Reviews 664 reads
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8 / 49

+1

Posted By: GaGambler
Three STFU posts posted back to back to back at this hour of the morning. What are the odds of three fucking losers stalking one woman's posts at this time of fucking day?

ExtraSmallMe 658 reads
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9 / 49
BRIT87 617 reads
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10 / 49

I don't know about the others, but his body is not even cold yet. This woman has the guts to say "they have shared beautiful moments" back in the 80's and now having the need to comment on their marriage...

Just give us a break.

GaGambler 683 reads
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11 / 49
rembrnad0284 12 Reviews 651 reads
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12 / 49

... although the bar was set pretty fucking low.

GaGambler 591 reads
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13 / 49

That post is still standing. If it offended you that much, why didn't you comment on it THERE instead of here, where she makes NO mention of herself at any point in her OP?

I doubt very seriously that the Williams family is going to be cruising fuck boards to see if any hookers are going to be saying nice things about the late RW. I bet you his death is being discussed on thousands of different websites, blogs and forums, and it wouldn't surprise me if thousands of different people make mention of meeting or sharing a moment with him. That's what people do when another person dies. Now if she had implied he was a client, or had even hinted at some type of relationship, THAT would be a very different situation, but unless all three of you are fucking drunk off your ass, i can't see where you could possibly be getting that idea.

GaGambler 580 reads
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14 / 49

I haven't been over there to check, besides the last time I went onto that board to wish our little turdster luck in finding new friends, I got moderated for my efforts. I think I will stay off that board for a while.

I wonder if his new "lady guy" offers CG, or if he has to ask for it? lmao

robedolo 80 Reviews 667 reads
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15 / 49
hgfgs 24 Reviews 611 reads
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16 / 49

The blonde and I live a couple of blocks apart, even though we are married. Both of us, at times, like our own space. In an average week we spend three to four nights together.

I know a fair amount of people who sleep in separate beds or bedrooms. Age has something to do with it, along with heavy snoring  

We talk,text or email all the time. Never go to bed without a good night I love you message of some sort.

I don't see how this would have any impact on a person seeing a prostitute.

Our deal is a little unusual. FYI, are places are in high rises in the Viagra Triangle in Chicago.
Posted By: RobbinYoung
As details of Robin William's death come out...the report says his wife went to bed at 10:30pm, in a separate bedroon, and left the next day, without communicating with her husband.      
   
 I find it odd, that a husband and wife had absolutely no interaction.  I'm not blaming his wife for Robin's death...but since I'm a single woman, I'd like the input of married people on this site, that are either providers or hobbyists.    
   
 1. Is this common in your marriage...do you and your spouse sleep in separate bedrooms?    
 2. Do you not communicate with one another, and check to see if your spouse is alright...especially if you know he or she, suffers from depression?  
 3. Do you think married couples, who sleep in separate bedrooms, eventually enjoy the company of prostitutes?

1705218 10 Reviews 597 reads
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17 / 49

For many years my wife and I shared a king-sized bed, but in the last 20 or so years it was in separate beds. It was because both of us snored and would wake the other. I had also became an insomniac and would often awaken at 3:am and go to work. We both missed awaking together and snuggling with even some sex. It worked for us altogether for 52 years, so we made the right decision.

russbbj 89 Reviews 590 reads
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18 / 49

As for my marriage when I was married

1. No, for all the problems we had, we always still had the intimacy of sleeping in the same bed. I will say this though, I snore like a bear, so there were times that my ex would have to go to the spare bedroom to sleep the rest of the night and the same sort of situation could have happened with them, and perhaps she had somewhere to be early which led her to not want to wake him. I think there are a bunch of scenerios that could have happened which could contribute to her not sleeping with him and just heading out for her day.

2. We communicated, although evidently not effectively but there were days when we were fighting that we didn't say much to each other even when we were in the same room.

3. I didn't start my hobby until after my divorce, but I can imagine quite a few folks do

It's sad that someone can get to a place of that level of depression that they'd take their own life. But I can say that it may have been a calculated decision. For myself as an example, the day my Doctor tells me I have cancer will be the day I put a .45 caliber bullet in my head. So I could imagine someone feeling the same way and if he got the same kind of news and had made the same sort of decision for himself. We will just simply never know.

inicky46 61 Reviews 571 reads
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19 / 49

Even though I loved Williams and found him immensely talented, I am sick to death of all the coverage of his suicide. Last night, after two solid nights of it, CNN had the bad taste to interview Lance Armstrong, one of the world's greatest liars and manipulators about his deep and meaningful relationship with Williams.  Gag me (not GaG me) with a fucking spoon.  If I want to know how to cover up steroid use I'll ask Lance.
If Robin is looking down I'll bet he wants to puke.
Sorry if I've lurched a bit off topic.

MarkusKetterman 150 Reviews 568 reads
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20 / 49

and no - quite the opposite for us -  if anything we were all up in each other's business too much....    I had a much greater need for mental space than she could tolerate - but even when we were having friction, and even when I wished she could just be quiet for an hour,  we always shared the same bed,  and were very solicitous of one another's well being.....

that being said I have knowledge of couples most especially those of middle - and late middle - age for whom this pattern of developing separate lives in the same household is not at all uncommon especially where children are or have been involved.    

Robin Williams is noted for a quote that speaks loudly I think, to the extent that being alone is not the worst thing, but rather being with people who make you feel alone in their company.....

I am ***not*** saying this to blame the wife about anything.   I would only note that Mr Williams was apparently of the sort to shine brightly for crowds and almost immediately feel isolated and lonely after performances.   His manic / comic persona may have been a way of trying to reach out and find meaningful personal connection....    it is a tragic loss....

hbyist+truth=;( 639 reads
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21 / 49
89Springer 548 reads
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22 / 49

For the first couple of decades of my marriage, we slept together. For the last couple, we slept apart. Rooms apart or even floors apart. It wasn't my choice. When we slept together, we had a lot of sex. When we started sleeping apart, the amount of sex dwindled. No surprise there.  

I stay up late, and she usually went to bed early, so I didn't see her in the mornings during the week. We both suffered from depression, but not so bad that either of us required "inspection".  

I doubt there's any correlation between sleeping arrangements with married couples and use of prostitutes. There's a lot of guys here who talk about having normal sex lives with their spouses but who use prostitutes. I'm sure there's a correlation between an end to sex in a marriage and the use of prostitutes

WickedBrut 27 Reviews 548 reads
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23 / 49

And (q1) sometimes we slept in separate bedrooms, but usually the same. For many years there was an economic reason, we could only afford a one bedroom.

(q2) I really can't imagine living in the same accommodations with another human being, platonic, romantic, family by whatever definition, or just rooming together, and leaving without saying good-bye. I guess for some that's just a nicety that may or may not be dispensed with, but for me it is just rooted in common decency. Like thanking the person who serves me a meal. Something that people just do without even making a decision or even giving it a thought. To do otherwise would be a deliberate gesture of extreme rudeness. Either something extreme was happening between them or the norms are so different from mine that I can't relate to it.

As far as q3, I don't think sleeping in separate rooms connotes anything about a couple's sex life or level of intimacy. Sleeping in the same bed with a woman who snored might drive me to seek out a prostitute, but that's different.

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MarkusKetterman 150 Reviews 487 reads
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24 / 49

I've never had to do without "personal" sex but have been a monger for decades....    in most of my life I am a highly responsible person but sexually very adventurous and completely incapable of monogamy

I think you are spot on that if sex comes to an end in a marriage or relationship seeking it elsewhere, whether an affair,  "clubbing",  or visiting providers is much more likely....  

this includes interludes where the wife may be physically or mentally ill or where there might be a  transitory problem in the marriage,  also where the wife becomes unavailable for other reasons -  for example,  eldercare issues, new babies,  children with illnesses....   when the wife becomes unavailable for an extended time the male is much more likely to seek sex elsewhere...  

I am also of the opinion that really good sex can help to heal a lot of relationship problems where both parties are willing to give it a try....   sex is communication and keeping that line of communication open helps to keep communication in general working better....

Robert_BadenPowell 545 reads
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25 / 49

... over this event.  I expect that's because he was a very popular entertainer for many years, and touched a lot of people.  We see similar news coverage when other famous entertainers die... even without the added sensationalism and suddenness of a suicide.  

But fear not, very soon the press will turn to topics of greater importance... such as the latest "nip slip" or the latest report on Kim Kardashian's  weight.

WickedBrut 27 Reviews 618 reads
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27 / 49

And I don't usually have visceral responses to the demise of talented people unless I know them personally.

GaGambler 497 reads
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28 / 49

Speaking strictly for myself. NO, when I was married we always slept together, and I honestly cannot imagine a committed relationship where we did not sleep together. Again, that's just me

Number two doesn't apply to me, and I really can't do anything but make a wild speculation on what i WOULD do.

As for your last question, I am most likely projecting, but yes I can see how the lack of intimacy that I expect a couple would experience by separate sleeping arrangement would push at least one of the parties into the arms of either another lover, prostitutes, or both. Again, speaking strictly for myself. I am not a "cheater" if I were in this kind of relationship, I would get myself out of the relationship, and THEN I would fuck everything that moves. lol

Dr Who revived 609 reads
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29 / 49

I'm hoping that ACA covers gender identity therapy  ;)

Posted By: GaGambler
I haven't been over there to check, besides the last time I went onto that board to wish our little turdster luck in finding new friends, I got moderated for my efforts. I think I will stay off that board for a while.  

I wonder if his new "lady guy" offers CG, or if he has to ask for it? lmao

2labman 26 Reviews 474 reads
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30 / 49

in mine, I've been in a separate bedroom for over 20 years, without visiting privileges.  While we communicate often and I am her primary caregiver, it's no longer an intimate or even very personal relationship.  Do you wonder why I appreciate you ladies so much?

I don't think that my situation is that unusual.

WickedBrut 27 Reviews 429 reads
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33 / 49

My SO and I didn't always eat off the same plate, or drink beer out of the same bottle, and although this type of sharing is fun if not spiritually intimate, we usually had separate burgers and beer. For the past quarter of a century the woman I was with even had her own bathroom. And sometimes we slept in separate beds.

Now, I know how you think, and wow...! How do I KNOW that when I fell asleep some other lover didn't creep into my home and join my SO in her bed? Do I work in a carnival and know beyond any possible doubt what goes on while I'm slumbering in dreamland? Personally, I think that's a sick attitude, and I hope you get over it.

So no, sleeping in separate beds doesn't hurt a person's sex life one bit, IMO&E.

Blowing Chunks 604 reads
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34 / 49
JohnyComeAlready 583 reads
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35 / 49

You could always post a porn-hub survey.

89Springer 649 reads
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36 / 49

You'd be better off if you'd robbed a bank. ;)

Robert_BadenPowell 561 reads
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37 / 49

Unfortunately, there will be one more such passing soon.  You know these things always seem to happen in 3s.  :(

WickedBrut 27 Reviews 14 reads
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38 / 49

Why not skip all the 'dumbass' and 'idiot' blabbering and cut to the chase. You like sleeping with your SO. Fine. Nothing wrong with that. Where's the argument?

Blowing Chunks 594 reads
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WickedBrut 27 Reviews 501 reads
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40 / 49

For me, personally, the passing of Horace Silver awhile back was the first of three. Maybe not as universally appreciated as Williams or Bacall, but one of the few "celebrities" who I knew.

Blowing Chunks 575 reads
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anonymousfun 6 Reviews 565 reads
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42 / 49

There literally thousands of couples that doesn't speak to each other or sleep in the same room. More affluent yore, higher it is.

People stay together for many reasons when they fall out.

CountryBoyAtHeart 3 Reviews 549 reads
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43 / 49

My grandparents never slept in same room and my other grandparents didn't even sleep in same house. I know some friends parents who slept in different rooms while happily married to each other.

sophiaLA See my TER Reviews 482 reads
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44 / 49

est hair in Hollywood. Classy dame.

Posted By: WickedBrut
And I don't usually have visceral responses to the demise of talented people unless I know them personally.

2labman 26 Reviews 549 reads
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45 / 49

That's what the responsibility of a child and guilt potential induced by a parochial school upbringing will do to you.

But my regular says that I'm making up for it now.

Glad I didn't wait any longer.  My dick was moving into the use it or lose it mode.  Saved it just in time.

WickedBrut 27 Reviews 613 reads
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89Springer 508 reads
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47 / 49

Reminds me of a joke.  

A husband is sitting at the kitchen table, sobbing a bit, but quietly. His wife notices, and asks what's wrong.

"You remember that first time we made love in the front seat of my car?"

"Yes," she says.  

"And your dad found out, and said if I didn't marry you, he'd turn me in to the cops and I'd get 20 years?"

She's touched that he remembers so clearly. "Well of course," she says. "But what's the matter?"

"I'd be getting out today."

SoftlySarah See my TER Reviews 488 reads
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48 / 49

who hung out with others- some are household names now. I remember her telling me that the humor always has a sad and painful story behind it- that all comedians have sadness that is a backdrop for their humor. That's the first thing I thought of when I heard about Williams's death. And while he was alive you could really see it in his eyes- a deep sadness.  

Posted By: MarkusKetterman
and no - quite the opposite for us -  if anything we were all up in each other's business too much....    I had a much greater need for mental space than she could tolerate - but even when we were having friction, and even when I wished she could just be quiet for an hour,  we always shared the same bed,  and were very solicitous of one another's well being.....  
   
 that being said I have knowledge of couples most especially those of middle - and late middle - age for whom this pattern of developing separate lives in the same household is not at all uncommon especially where children are or have been involved.    
   
 Robin Williams is noted for a quote that speaks loudly I think, to the extent that being alone is not the worst thing, but rather being with people who make you feel alone in their company.....  
   
 I am ***not*** saying this to blame the wife about anything.   I would only note that Mr Williams was apparently of the sort to shine brightly for crowds and almost immediately feel isolated and lonely after performances.   His manic / comic persona may have been a way of trying to reach out and find meaningful personal connection....    it is a tragic loss....

Fridays117 27 Reviews 504 reads
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49 / 49

Q1: As a guy who works nights off and on for the last 20 years I can definitely say that I HAVE slept in a different bedroom on occasion in order to not disturb my wife's rest when I come home late.
Q2: While I believe that both of us suffer some clinical depression, we kind of deal with it ourselves.  I understand some of what she is going through and she understands quite a bit of my issues, but while we care for each other we simply don't have the power (due to circumstances I will not divulge here) to deal with the main problems.  We always talk though and check in.
Q3:Every marriage is different.  In mine, I feel it was inevitable due to my past practices before marriage.  I simply fell back into seeing providers after sex with my wife slowed down and I got over my guilty conscience.  I was good and faithful for a few years, but I wanted more.  I want my vake and eat it too if you know what I mean.

Posted By: RobbinYoung
As details of Robin William's death come out...the report says his wife went to bed at 10:30pm, in a separate bedroon, and left the next day, without communicating with her husband.      
   
 I find it odd, that a husband and wife had absolutely no interaction.  I'm not blaming his wife for Robin's death...but since I'm a single woman, I'd like the input of married people on this site, that are either providers or hobbyists.    
   
 1. Is this common in your marriage...do you and your spouse sleep in separate bedrooms?    
 2. Do you not communicate with one another, and check to see if your spouse is alright...especially if you know he or she, suffers from depression?  
 3. Do you think married couples, who sleep in separate bedrooms, eventually enjoy the company of prostitutes?

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