I have a ATF that recently been well getting lots of visits from other ppl.  I understand what the hobby is all about and it's a business and etc.  But I'm actually a little bothered by the fact there were so many visits, granted I probably helped since I gave her great reviews each time.  So just wondering if other any other hobbyist get this feeling and if so, what did you do about it?
Thanks.

If you want to enjoy the fantasy that this provider was put her just for your own enjoyment (and why not, that's one of mine) then just set your sites on that and don't allow anything to interfer with it.

For the opposite perspective, check out The Erotic Highway where a client expresses his desire to hear everything about his ATF's previous encounters.

To each, their own.

You say "I understand what the hobby is all about and it's a business and etc."

Well you might understand intellectually..but emotionally you don't.

Either don't read her reviews or it's time to move on.

If you want to continue to see this lady, just accept it. She's a provider, and there are other men seeking her particular qualities. If she has a lot of clients, she must be top notch.

I have a couple of favorite ladies, and when we're together, there are no other men, and no other women, just her and me for the 2-3 hours we spend together. Create your own little world, It's nice in there.

Unflushable, no matter how close you feel you may be to the young lady, you must always remember it is a business for her.  

She may feel a closeness to you also and not only enjoy but look forward to your times together.  However, if you ever make her feel uncomfortable about the way you feel towards her, you will lose her.

If you choose to see only her, then cherish each moment you are with her and think of that time as strictly your own.

I tend to feel all of us go through the same thing at some level or another in this "hobby".  

One of the things that helped me the most was to read some of the threads posted by various ladies speaking of how they are able to separate their occupation from their life at home with their SO.  

In my mind, while certainly not an SO, I am able to make believe that a special lady could have feelings for me that were different from most others she saw.

The best thing is that you recognize that you do have a problem with it and can take the steps necessary to keep it in perspective for you so you can continue to see the lady.

Good luck with it.

Don't let your emotions get in your way. You probably shared many personal feelings with her and vice versa...we are all human and we have feelings but at the same time, it's only business!
She's there to make a living and you are there as a client. If her business prospers, then you should be happy for her not being jealous.
The hour or two that you pay for is your time. After that, don't be concerned.

If you are getting emotionally involved, it is time to move on.  As a newbie I've just gone through this and though my outcome was different apparenlty from most here, it was only because of circumstances.  Maybe because some of here are looking for companionship as much as sex, we are more vulnerable than we think but it us who must recognize it and deal with it.  When my ATF and I were getting together, I went to see her a couple of times during her regular work hours and could feel a difference than when we regualrly saw each othr so I dealt with it be not seeing her during business hours.

If not then you are over-thinking this. You are gonna think whatever you are gonna think but there is really nothing you can do about it.  Enjoy the time spent and keep perspective on what she does for a living and where you fit into it.  You are a customer. Perhaps, if you are lucky, even a bit of a friend. None of that changes what her job is. If you can't handle it then you are not going to enjoy the appointment.

scare most providers to death. When a client gets emotionaly attached, clingy. Expresses dismay at how many clients we see. These guys turn into stalkers.

I know that sounds harsh but look at it from my side of the fence. If I have a client that is now becoming jealous of my seeing other clients...that is only going to fester and build unless someone hits him over the head to knock some sense into him.

Just because we are GFE..we are NOT your girlfriend once the session ends. Get a grip original poster. (can't remember his name)

I have my own little fantasy world. I can fall in love with the same lady over and over and over. I love her, she loves me, and everything smells like cookies. Then I go away---Feeling much better.

after I see a lady - usually the first - but always after the second, they stop seeing other men and only see me.

'cause I'm such a tremendous lover!"

It's hard to be humble

Is it because of an increase in reviews, or is she turning you down and claiming that she is all booked up?

Because, if it's an increase in reviews, it's a business thing and the only possible control you may have is to buy the hours from her.  If you have the vig, and you are willing to spend it, pay her for the time.  It won't work, but it may make you feel better.

If it's because she telling you that she's all booked up and can't see you, then open your eyes my friend and recognize that she's trying to get out from under the blanket you're smothering her with.

Either way, you have to let it go bro before you take it to a place that nobody should go.  You can't claim these ladies, or be jealous of their time.  They aren't property or playthings, they are women who are able to do what they want when they want.  The bottom line, and in answer to your question, you can't do anything about it but move on.  

The third option of how you may know how many she is seeing is a little too creepy to explore, but if it is what is going on, you need to get help.

Good luck

It's the truth. I've had a couple of bi-coastal stalkers and although it doesn't scare me it definitely annoys the hell out of me.

The moment I sense a client is headed in this direction he's cut off. I have zero tolerance for jealousy and possessiveness which have absolutely no place in the hobby.

Ironically, if I truly like a client and want to see him again I will let him know my policy ahead of time so there are no misunderstandings or hurt feelings. -e

It will be called PAA....

Provider Addicts Anonymus....

Ok, who's bringing the coffee and donuts? ; )

XO Ellyse

I'm not sure if I can spell either but if you don't want her to see others then ask her what it would take for her to be exclusive to you for 1 year; then pay it or move on.

xxmeowbabyxx is right. Read it twice if you don't understand it the first time.

This is one creepy thread.

Stay away from the boards, do not read any of her reviews, see lots of other providers yourself, immerse yourself in work and hobbies, exercise, read lots of books,

When none of this helps, send her flowers and gifts, emails and text messages, set up a long appointment and tell her you want to "talk."

She'll respond she does not want to see you anymore....

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or, go marry her.

She had gotten too close. It wasn't romantic, just too friendly. She started taking me for granted. We still see each other occasionaly but the separation helped put the "relationship" back onto a business footing so to speak.

I DO have an ATF that I DO have feelings for...  We have shared a lot of our personal lives (no names) and I found myself wanting to do helpful things that a BF should. I forced myself to take a break of several months off.  I've explored some other options, found one other fav.  
I just saw her again yesterday for the first time back...  I know I've gotta keep my head together.

thx for all the replies, didn't mean to scare ppl or whatever, just a thought that I had, it wasn't the fact that she sees other ppl that bothered me, just the sheer amount of it and i guess i should have made it clear, i was more concern about safety side

We need to manage our expectations here.

Sexond you do not really know how many ppl she is seeing.

I am sure people think I see more gents then I do because I post a lot.

Third, If you can afford it, ask her if she is willing to go on the sugar daddy plan.

Forth, remember she is a call girl after all and your probably married and it would probably not work out even if you were single.

Fifth, remember it is a fantasy, an illusion, NOT REAL>

fishnets hugs and kisses
sexymaddy

Great idea!

I'll join your group.  I could really use the help.  Can we meet three or four times a week for the foreseeable future

I like my donuts glazed

and I knew you were the one to post this, you would NEVER see me again.

This is a business. The relationship you have with this lady may be a true friendship, but above all it is a BUSINESS relationship.

Jealousy is not a good trait. Jealousy over a woman's sex life- when you are not her boyfriend or SO- is a terrible trait.

If he is like this now, can you imagine what he would be like after a year of exclusiveness? I shudder at the thought.