Was just talking to a friend. I've been dating dudes, just for FWB, and realized... I make an occasional weekly, maybe bi-weekly text to (unmarried, non-hobbyist,) my two fav NSA dudes.

In such relationships, both parties have to get their needs fulfilled.  If not, you need to change the rules of the game.

Do these guys know you're an escort? If so, that's why you're being treated like one only without pay. Sounds to me like both only want sex, but that's what you also said you only wanted. So, I guess I don't see the problem. If you act like a whore (no offense intended) you will be treated like one. You said you ONLY text them for sex once a week, so that's all they want

What are NSA and FWB

Look/sound familar? Lol.

I wouldn't say that is a FWB situation.  A booty call is the best I would say.

It was the agreement, I guess I'm realizing now that I may not be ready to do it like this because, yes, I act like a 'whore' and am treated like one. I just think at least a hello every now and then and not being totally ignored would be nice. Being ignored is kinda' annoying. I'm not stalking them by any means, so I don't see what the problem is.

Yep. My past FWB escapades have all had a damn benefit other than an orgasm. I was truly "friends" with the guys and they never treated me the way she is describing. I had breakfast cooked or we went out, dinners always paid for by them, gifts on occasion, etc. They usually called ME to see how I was doing, when I really did not want to be bothered lol.

I'll just wait for those ones then, lol

You can call/ text me anytime!

Want my number?
Seriously though. Like Nicky said.
If you aren't getting what you want move on.
If these are just booty calls..
Make em pay!

The female always looks like she is grinning and baring it and not necessarily enjoying it?

You are not acting like a whore and getting treated like one.  If you were, at least you'd be getting paid.  What you're doing is acting like a slut and getting treated like one.  A technicality, perhaps.  But true nonetheless.
Of course, I would love to be one of those guys.  But I'd be the nice version who wouldn't ignore you the rest of the time.

One of my favorites. However that scenario is not uncommon and sad. Plenty of women out there allowing that sort of thing. Why I will never know.

Oh, and for the record, I would NEVER put up with shenanigans like she did!


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I don't like the word. IDK why I like whore more, but...

:O

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I was ignored like I'm nothing.

It pays to  be  nice with every woman you meet  , she might introduce  
  you to one of her friends . After that you need to read between the sheets .

What I don't get is why some guys just don't get it. How much does it take to be a respectful human being??  

Interesting post by quadseason. Do you think that describes your situation? If they texted back would you be less inclined to see them?

but it is hard to find the right balance between a "clingy little dungbeetle" and someone who won't give her the time of day until his dick is hard.

I think she should start interviewing for repacements immediately.

haha. Colace commercial haha. Thought that was part of the joke lol.

She needs to replace them.

There are lots of guys that will appreciate a great fuck buddy who doesn't put any pressure on them that are capable of being an actual "buddy" and not just a hard dick. She just hasn't found them yet.

One great thing about the hobby is that when you get plenty of sex you can be a better "friend" to the women you date or see in social settings. It's a lot easier to be a "nice guy" when you are getting laid regularly than when all you can think about is getting your dick wet because you haven't been laid for over a month. lmao

Case in point, I spent the last four days hanging out with a provider who had a visit from Aunt Flo. We had a great time, even without sex, and she now knows that I don't only like her for the mind blowing sex, never once did I try to remind her that she has "two other holes", I just enjoyed my time with her, and may have ended up with something more than just a business relationship.

you can train them to GTFO and know you're not desperate, (even though I am sometimes, haha,) but you can't make a man or a woman change. Impossible! Why waste the time?

but it does kill the ego! lol

So if Nick is my dad, and Storm is my uncle..
Does that make you my cousin?
I already need a shrink.
You got me all fucked up there.
The last date I went on I don't think I ever fucked her pussy.
I fucked her feet, and her mouth. But no. I forgot to fuck her.
Well I didn't forget. I was a little spent from the prostate thing.
I'll make up for that next time I see her. :

I was the horny nice guy in school who never got laid.  Gals only wanted to date "bad" guys.

So, you are attracted to the guys who will treat you like shit, then you complain about it.

And yes, this opens old wounds for me.

Thank God for the hobby so now I don't have to deal with it.

I did date "Ms High School" while in high school, I depended on my academic standing, being is school activities, and other things to get the great looking gal.  But that was no prep for the late 60s when things changed dramatically about what was "cool" "hip' and fashionable.  The hobby does solve a bunch of those issues... but they also make me wonder as to the political leanings of the ladies who participate in the hobby, as most are entrepreneurial, fiercely independant and open minded.... hummm.... maybe libertarian?  T'would be interesting to learn.

Just bear in mind that "someone who won't give her the time of day until his dick is hard" is preferable to a "clingy little dungbeetle."  Hell, even a guy with "stank ass" has Dungy beat.

Here is what the latter addition looks like...

I do agree with that... if I start getting  a million emails, texts, or phone calls... well... 'ignore'. Maybe to them I am texting too much. For one, the agreement was "this is just sex". I don't think HE's an ass, at least he was honest. It wasn't even FWB, just a hook up... but we kept getting back together, because he's soooo damned HOT and good. But it's still annoying.

This is hilarious.

Wish they all were like that... are you guys nice mostly bc you don't want to get bad references? lol

Paying a little attention to me is part of the sex language... in a FWB relationship.

especially as a fuck buddy. "Nice guy" usually translates into "door mat" or at the very best "no mystery" and many/most women don't find that sexy.

I learned this in another lifetime some 25 years ago when I "dated" a lot of strippers. With strippers you are either the "fucker or the fuckee", The only way I have found to keep the upper hand with a stripper was to play to her insecurities, things like left handed compliments "you look great, except for that thing with your nose" was always a good one, and you always have to be aloof, the slightest chink in your armor and you are back to the power struggle. What a lousy way to live IMO.

That's why I prefer hookers, they tend to be much more honest as they are in a lot more honest business, and they also make much better fuck buddies, I have found I can actually be nice, and still get laid OTC. What a fucking concept. lol

One other thing Courtney, some of us have figured out the game that women want to "fix us" and use it to our advantage, knowing full well that once they do "fix us" they will be completely bored with us and move on. We aren't all clueless you know. lmao

Instead of whacking off into a cup, or whatever you did.

Indeed! You have to know that GTFO is really magic, and makes men do very interesting things. Not a mean GTFO, but a "thanks, but no thanks and have a nice life" GTFO. It will send them into a headspin because they are used to using women. Trust me- works like a charm on their fragile little egos. They will be following you around like puppies. Maybe next time they will remember that we are all humans and worthy of respect and decency regardless of the reason we find ourselves with each other.

Yes, she does need to replace them.

I don't recommend it. I literally almost puked!

I have a new found respect for girls who allow CIM and Swallow.
That is not pineapple juice coming out of there! LMAO

gal date guys who are abusive to them because they find such guys attractive. (Not because they are Brad Pitt, necessarily.)

They then complain when said guys treat them like shit.

The gal in the video makes the point that if a guy can't get a gal, he's a loser.  So be it, by definition we are.

But it's the kvetching about there being no nice guys that is really bugging me.

I'm complaining that everything was going well, now all of a sudden I'm being ignored. I will never truly date anyone unless they are nice, respectful, don't overstep boundaries, and attentive. Not into dating right now, tho.

LOL. I'm not a man, so I wouldn't know... thanks for the inside scoop, hhaa.

You say it takes them weeks to respond to your texts, & when they do, it's only to hook up. Are you positive they are not married, or otherwise involved? Even gents who are only looking for sex will respond to a text....even if they can't that night. The one's who don't respond, at least within a couple of hours, are usually married/involved......hence why it takes so long to respond. Twice when I was 18, I had guys I was involved with....neither ever wanted to spend the night...the hours they would come over were late, but they would leave around 2am or so(aka.bar time....excuse for the SO). Phone calls would go unanswered(this was pre-text era) sometimes for up to 2-3 days. I eventually found out that both lived with the mother of their children, & were still "with them"... I had met their friends & family...no one said a thing about them being in a relationship with another person, lol.  

I've thought of that, but I'm always at their house

I have my well founded doubts.

...still wish it would have worked out, but I wasn't ready to make a committment bc I was going to continue doing this. Every day he called me beautiful, pretty, sexy, sweet, nurturing, etc etc., wanted to smooch all the time, very affectionate, and the gentlest soul in the world. I couldn't hurt him by doing this behind his back, so I told him I wasn't ready and broke it off before we became 'exclusive'.

To me, a whore or slut is someone who is fucking every and anyone left and right, ALL the time.  

But really, if you don't want to catch feelings, why do you desire any "woo-ing"? They're FWB and should be treated like a piece of meat, someone whose sole purpose is mutual sex and to have awesome fun with when you are together, but then when you leave, that's it. Maybe a nice text from them saying "it was nice seeing you again last night, as always", but beyond that, you're looking for trouble in my experience, if you're hoping to keep the relationship strictly FWB. Do you want more? Flirting in between meetings might lead you to having feelings, but when the basis of a relationship is sex, most likely it won't go anywhere and you'll just get hurt.

There've been numerous discussions here in which the terms have been differentiated.
A whore fucks for money.
A slut fucks for free.
That was the distinction I was making to Courtney.

and that's cool. But to me...

More like "Hey, I'm attracted enough to you to think about how good that last fuck was between meetings."

Horny woman in her peak who acts on it?

Actually, I have no idea how many I have. I have a system.

I would call "a horny woman in her peak who acts on it" someone I'd like to meet.

*cry*