A few months ago I had an apt with a new client that had been referred to me by a friend of his. He was explaining who it was and I really didn't know exactly who he was talking about but I felt pretty comfortable just with the way we were talking and his stats.  
   
 Ok il stop defending it. I didn't really screen him and took him for his word. So I guess everything after this is really my fault and completely avoidable.  
   
 Well he asked if I liked massages and I politely said yes (sure massages are cool but I don't really care either way, its your choice what you want to do with your time)  
   
 So he gets to my location and we talk for a second. I'm assuming he will put donation on table but instead he starts touching me and trying to take my shirt off. I told him I will need the donation before I do anything and he keeps trying to smooth talk me. I hold my ground obviously and he gets progressively more aggressive and sort of forces my shirt off (I guess in a playful way but I was so scared that my resistance would result in making the situation worse. )  
   
   
 during that time he is feeling my shoulders and attempting to go lower and I am not responding in any way to his actions. I continue to say this is not going to work like this and he keeps responding to the effect of " you said you wanted a massage, I am doing you a favor, relax and enjoy the massage and we can talk about the rest later ".  He also kept fucking repeating " why would I pay YOU to give YOU a massage"... What the fuck I have never requested a massage in my life...  
   
 At this point, I texted my friend that lives a building over to COME KNOCK ON MY DOOR RIGHT FUCKING NOW, and told him either he can give me the money or this is done.  
   
 Turns out, he never had the money to begin with, he started making his pitch about how he left it in car and will get it after and by that time I (thank god) got a knock on my door.  
   
 And after that he was texting me saying "you want x$ fine il be right back up" begging me to meet with him but obviously I just put him on my block list.  
   
 I can think of 10 ways I should have done things differently at every point of the experience but it was all just happening so fast and I had never really dealt with something like that. I will admit flagrant stupidity on my part and just reinforced how ridiculous it is to not screen clients even if they seem legit.  
   
 So part 2  
 I was talking with someone a couple weeks ago that also mentioned he likes giving massages and I told him thats cool. Well the meeting didn't work out and yesterday he texts me saying "hey I was wondering if you wanted to take me up on that massage".. I didn't respond and he sends another " just asking cause you mentiomed you loved massages " and it immediately brought back memories.  
   
 Both of them acting like I'm whoring around fpr massages asking guys I don't know to put their hands all over my naked body for free on my time.  
   
 Since I had already screened him I responded asking the length of time he wanted... His response? " oh sorry I just thought you were interested in getting a massage for free cause I am the best"  
   
 Um no thanks. But what the fuck?  
   
 Is this common in any way? When a new cliemt brings up wanting to give me massage, should I assume the 2 examples above may be happening again or did I run into a few isolated incidents?  
   
 

-- Modified on 1/26/2016 12:02:04 PM

A few months ago I had an apt with a new client that had been referred to me by a friend of his. He was explaining who it was and I really didn't know exactly who he was talking about but I felt pretty comfortable just with the way we were talking and his stats.  
   
 Ok il stop defending it. I didn't really screen him and took him for his word. So I guess everything after this is really my fault and completely avoidable.  
   
 Well he asked if I liked massages and I politely said yes (sure massages are cool but I don't really care either way, its your choice what you want to do with your time)  
   
 So he gets to my location and we talk for a second. I'm assuming he will put donation on table but instead he starts touching me and trying to take my shirt off. I told him I will need the donation before I do anything and he keeps trying to smooth talk me. I hold my ground obviously and he gets progressively more aggressive and sort of forces my shirt off (I guess in a playful way but I was so scared that my resistance would result in making the situation worse. )  
   
   
 during that time he is feeling my shoulders and attempting to go lower and I am not responding in any way to his actions. I continue to say this is not going to work like this and he keeps responding to the effect of " you said you wanted a massage, I am doing you a favor, relax and enjoy the massage and we can talk about the rest later ".  He also kept fucking repeating " why would I pay YOU to give YOU a massage"... What the fuck I have never requested a massage in my life...  
   
 At this point, I texted my friend that lives a building over to COME KNOCK ON MY DOOR RIGHT FUCKING NOW, and told him either he can give me the money or this is done.  
   
 Turns out, he never had the money to begin with, he started making his pitch about how he left it in car and will get it after and by that time I (thank god) got a knock on my door.  
   
 And after that he was texting me saying "you want x$ fine il be right back up" begging me to meet with him but obviously I just put him on my block list.  
   
 I can think of 10 ways I should have done things differently at every point of the experience but it was all just happening so fast and I had never really dealt with something like that. I will admit flagrant stupidity on my part and just reinforced how ridiculous it is to not screen clients even if they seem legit.  
   
 So part 2  
 I was talking with someone a couple weeks ago that also mentioned he likes giving massages and I told him thats cool. Well the meeting didn't work out and yesterday he texts me saying "hey I was wondering if you wanted to take me up on that massage".. I didn't respond and he sends another " just asking cause you mentiomed you loved massages " and it immediately brought back memories.  
   
 Both of them acting like I'm whoring around fpr massages asking guys I don't know to put their hands all over my naked body for free on my time.  
   
 Since I had already screened him I responded asking the length of time he wanted... His response? " oh sorry I just thought you were interested in getting a massage for free cause I am the best"  
   
 Um no thanks. But what the fuck?  
   
 Is this common in any way? When a new cliemt brings up wanting to give me massage, should I assume the 2 examples above may be happening again or did I run into a few isolated incidents?  
   
 

-- Modified on 1/26/2016 12:02:04 PM

A few months ago I had an apt with a new client that had been referred to me by a friend of his. He was explaining who it was and I really didn't know exactly who he was talking about but I felt pretty comfortable just with the way we were talking and his stats.  
   
 Ok il stop defending it. I didn't really screen him and took him for his word. So I guess everything after this is really my fault and completely avoidable.  
   
 Well he asked if I liked massages and I politely said yes (sure massages are cool but I don't really care either way, its your choice what you want to do with your time)  
   
 So he gets to my location and we talk for a second. I'm assuming he will put donation on table but instead he starts touching me and trying to take my shirt off. I told him I will need the donation before I do anything and he keeps trying to smooth talk me. I hold my ground obviously and he gets progressively more aggressive and sort of forces my shirt off (I guess in a playful way but I was so scared that my resistance would result in making the situation worse. )  
   
   
 during that time he is feeling my shoulders and attempting to go lower and I am not responding in any way to his actions. I continue to say this is not going to work like this and he keeps responding to the effect of " you said you wanted a massage, I am doing you a favor, relax and enjoy the massage and we can talk about the rest later ".  He also kept fucking repeating " why would I pay YOU to give YOU a massage"... What the fuck I have never requested a massage in my life...  
   
 At this point, I texted my friend that lives a building over to COME KNOCK ON MY DOOR RIGHT FUCKING NOW, and told him either he can give me the money or this is done.  
   
 Turns out, he never had the money to begin with, he started making his pitch about how he left it in car and will get it after and by that time I (thank god) got a knock on my door.  
   
 And after that he was texting me saying "you want x$ fine il be right back up" begging me to meet with him but obviously I just put him on my block list.  
   
 I can think of 10 ways I should have done things differently at every point of the experience but it was all just happening so fast and I had never really dealt with something like that. I will admit flagrant stupidity on my part and just reinforced how ridiculous it is to not screen clients even if they seem legit.  
   
 So part 2  
 I was talking with someone a couple weeks ago that also mentioned he likes giving massages and I told him thats cool. Well the meeting didn't work out and yesterday he texts me saying "hey I was wondering if you wanted to take me up on that massage".. I didn't respond and he sends another " just asking cause you mentiomed you loved massages " and it immediately brought back memories.  
   
 Both of them acting like I'm whoring around fpr massages asking guys I don't know to put their hands all over my naked body for free on my time.  
   
 Since I had already screened him I responded asking the length of time he wanted... His response? " oh sorry I just thought you were interested in getting a massage for free cause I am the best"  
   
 Um no thanks. But what the fuck?  
   
 Is this common in any way? When a new cliemt brings up wanting to give me massage, should I assume the 2 examples above may be happening again or did I run into a few isolated incidents?  
   
 

-- Modified on 1/26/2016 12:02:04 PM