Ok Ok. So flame me for asking! But where else but here?

Q. How does one get a stripper to provide? Any tell tale signs? Any cues?

Curiously yours,

Have you ever talked to a woman?  Sorry, but that's what you do.  You buy her a drink and talk to her and if things are going well, ask her what she's doing when she gets off work.  Her response will tell you if she's available.  Sometimes it takes time and several visits.  Lots of money helps too.  The amount of money it may require prior to seeing her outside the club usually far exceeds the going rate.



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There's a parable in this somewhere but it escapes me so I will render this and maybe you'll walk (run is my advice) away from strippers forever... Strippers are just one "In God We Trust" away from giving you pussy if that is what you desire. In reality, pimping you for dollars or twenties or whatever is in your wallet is like pressing the ESC key on your computer. You are enabling them in living the life of the lie and the truth is they will fuck you for a lot less than what you'll have to pay for here.  And real tragedy is that you'll waste 1000s at the various clubs when all you have to do is go from one to the other and in no uncertain terms, ask them for pussy. Sure, you'll burn through a few, but I am not suggesting that you be crude and I cannot account for how much "game" you have, but I do know that it's not their   pretty faces, skinny bodies or fake tits you seek so why waste time and resources on "looking" or copping a feel now and them when some of the best looking women on the planet will fuck your brains out and leave no doubt.

So here are some things you'll have to sift through if you really want an answer to your query. First, you'll have to eliminate those that don't like or care for men in the first place, because your batting average will suffer below the Mendoza line for years if you can't separate the wheat from the chaff. Next, you'd be smart to stay away from the drug abusers and other social psychopaths because your health and your life aren't worth a damn to a junkie. Thirdly, leave the most popular women in the club be, most of the men that frequent these clubs are paying her just to be in their presence and you can't compete with "free and stupid..." If you want pretty instant success, find the newbie and don't ask her any of the 20 or so stupid questions she hears night after night, but look into her eyes when she talks to you and don't be too loose with your money... Above all, don't say some stupid shit like "why is a beautiful girl like you, doing this?" Rather ignore her mostly but do find her schedule and come to see her two or three times... make light but good conversation that suggests you wouldn't mind seeing her outside of the club, but say that in a manner of words though not directly... So you see if you follow this formula and find yourself down a couple of hundred, you'll see how time consuming this can be and do some research and leave the chicken head strippers alone and get a real woman.

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one of the things that goes for me, is I have interesting chatter.  for the most part, all ladies (and gents for that matter) like good stories...  once I went to a TER M&G and the most interesting person there was a guy... I followed him around all night... GREAT stories!  

For the most part, ladies in strip clubs... are not that different from anyone else... and as I have posted - treat people with respect, listen to their view and simply be nice... Even if the gal turns you down, those simple rules will buffer the turn down...

What does it take to get a provider to provide?  Same sh*t, man, bucks, and at least as much or more of them with a stripper.  You may need to develop the same sort of connection that you would in any pick-up bar, coupled with generous tipping, to get you maybe to the point where a later rendezvous might occur.  If they ask you for a ride somewhere after the club, hit the ATM conspicuously on the way to wherever to get the message across...worked for me a couple of times!  Much more often, though, you'll go home with blue balls, drunk and a $ + poorer,and that wears upon you eventually.  Much better to just book with a quality provider...it's $$$ better spent, and far less hassle.  Just two pennies from a former strip club crawler...    

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Well, you don't get a stripper to provide, she either does or she doesn't. She isn't going to make an exception for you. My experience has been that if you spend lots of money, don't appear to be a wacko and treat her with respect, a lady will let you know if she is available for a date. It may not happen on your first visit to a club but sometimes it does. Even if she provides she may not always be "working".
In general it's much easier to hire a well reviewed  escort than it is to try and get laid in a strip club. Regardless of what is being said in recent threads most dancers just dance. In spite of the stereotypes being thrown around recently there is also absolutely no guarantee that a stripper will be any better in the sack, for money, than a good escort will be. Remember, many women in the sex industry have done or still do  both.

Most dancers do just dance but there are many that provide. My experience is with dancers who work the day shift the bars don't have as many customers from noon to 7pm. These dancers are more open because they don't make the same money as dancers at night. You will have to prime the pump that is go in buy dances until she feels comfortable. I have had dancers offer to go with me and sometimes I have to make the first move. The cost maybe more in the beginning but in the end an encounter with a dancer that you know from the club will be more like a real date. No hourly time clock. that said still the most efficient way to pay for sex is to hire an escort.

Strippers hear the same crap every night:

"I want to take you home with me."
"How much would it cost to get you to go home with me?"
"You're too good for this place. If you were 'my' girl, I'd treat you right and you'd never have to come here again."
"Let's go back to my place."
"I don't want anything. I just want to take you to dinner."

And my all-time favorite:
"I want to marry you."

All the while, none of these guys wanted to buy dances.

Now, I never provided while dancing, but if I were going to, it would not be with someone who fed me the same crap as everyone else. It would also not be with someone who didn't want to spend anything more than a couple dollars on me, while I was up on stage. If you can't drop twenty bucks on a dance, then why would I think you'd be willing to pay whatever it was I was asking for extras? Definitely go in there more than once, definitely get a dance or four, and above all- be original!

to the strip club scene.  Went for the first time on Wednesday evening and had a blast.  Funny you should post this cause I was waiting till Monday to post on the same thing, lol.

Had a wonderful blonde named Jazelle entertain me most of the evening.  My questions are more about stripper etiquette.  I noticed that touching isn’t allowed by men but that rule doesn’t seem to apply to women (or at least this woman).  I knew they had more love for women generally but I wasn’t expecting to have nipples pushed in my mouth, having her kiss me and trying to rub me thru my panties (I wore a skirt).  So- have any of you gents taken a girl to a club before and is that normal stripper-on-girl behavior?  I can only imagine what would have happened if I’d gone into the private rooms.

I did have an epiphany half way thru the evening.  While I greatly enjoyed her trying to press her face in my crotch and her rubbing my breasts- I found myself wondering is it me or the money she likes?  Then the thought- wow, this must be what hobbyists go thru.  I don’t really have any thoughts but I will say it gave me tons of prospective.

A little addicting too- I went back on Friday.  Jazelle wasn’t working (bummer) but a there was an Asian woman- Jenny- who had a fantastic body and was as aggressive as Jazelle.

To answer your question- yes some of them do work- but I agree with another post that it would probably be much less expensive and more enjoyable to just seek a reviewed provider.

XO
Melanie

Visited club regularly - couple of times a week.
Bought lots of lap dances - lots!
After establishing relationships asked a couple of my favorites to meet outside - met with 4 regularly outside of work and developed a provider relationship with 2 of them.

Downside - cost a fortune.  Once I discovered TER I weaned myself off Strip clubs - much more economical and ultimately much more fun and satisfying

All I did was ask. One of my ATF!

I haven't been to a strip club since discovering the hobby and TER.

I think you first need to get to know the lady, buy a few dances, a little conversation, etc.  When she seems comfortable with you, politly tell her you are interested in something more than a lap dance.  She will know what you are asking.  She will either turn you down, or let you know she may allow some extra service.

Just be polite if she turns you down and move on.  If she does allow more, keep it low key and iron out the details.  

More often than not you will be turned down.  Most strippers are not escorts, plus they can get in trouble with the club.  But some are open to some work on the side.  Beware of the girls who will use this as a way to get you to spend more on her.  

If you like a challenge finding a stripper for more could be for you.  But if you want an enjoyable sure thing, stay with escorts.

I have money
A small dick
It goes off quickly

I've stopped trying to get laid...it saves me a ton of money!

see the primer above...

first off, just being nice is a help.  2nd within a very few minutes you will know how it is gonna turn out.  third - only some strippers provide - but - THEY have to be comfortable with you.

one of the best looking gals I have paid to have sex with was a stripper.... she was very good - but obsessed with getting paid... a 10 in looks and a 9 in performance (10 if the no anal does not detract).  

for the most part, I am open about escorting when I talk with strippers....  they are curious about this world -- - VERY curious....  and I use this world to approach theirs.  they will then let you know if they would or could be interested in providing.  I never ask directly - that would  be soliciting.  and they similarly never respond directly -

Curiously, there is one lady who has started providing... and her dance buddy is bummed (because it appears that she is skipping work at the club).  I know what is going on but her dance buddy does not.  

most often the real negotiations occur outside of the club.... via phone!  take your cell phone into the club... and get the numbers if they will give them to ya.... that helps.

but for the most part, I have to agree - strippers do not usually provide.  they make reasonable money in a different way... always the tease.

All you have to do is talk to them a bit so that they know u r not LE.  Make sure u don't spend too much or they will think they can milk u in the club.  Then, u simply ask what it would take to see them outside of the club.

it is totally cheaper to find a nice provider and spend a couple of hours.

Its always about the money,...youve got it, shell give it