Good post Tude. I do not review every girl I see for a variety of reasons....

Some girls are UTR, and ask not to be reviewed (I almost always honor that request), some I've seen  in the past are just so horrible (usually service wise- I don't see ugly girls)  that I won't waste the 45 mins it takes to write a review.   Others I've not reviewed for other reasons.  I've seen a lot more girls than I dare care to admit LOL , and only review when I feel like it. God knows I do NOT need the VIP days (I have thousands).

No one is "entitled" to a review, just like no guy is "entitled" to a White List.   As far as "pressure",  LMFAO  (you've gotta be kidding)  I'm an alpha male, and never get pressured or flustered. I'm virtually unflappable.

Nice to see you posting again TUDE !

just like it is up to you if you want to see a gal, repeat with her, and reviewer her. Same is said if a girl wants to see you, see you again, and whitelist you. For whatever reasons anyone has, it a choice that each has and has a right to.

I simply say when leaving, "If you would like to review me, you may. I am more than happy to meet you again". Let's face it, some girls don't want to be reviewed and some don't want to see you again. It is no different for the guys. I mention it once and never speak of it again. Plenty of men said they would review me and didn't, for whatever reason. I am happier that they are a repeat.

Pressuring some to write a review is only going to bite you in the a$$. It can be placed in the review or he can take off for it! I have no problem with whom you are referring to (OP's reference). In general, pressuring a guy to write a review, other men will wonder what else a gal pressures them to do.

That posting by reviewer, was written by a guy who is butthurt that she refuses to see him. Yes, I read the thread you are speaking of. They are both wrong. She shouldn't pressure him and he shouldn't bash her because he keeps bringing up money problems to her and thus doesn't want to see him anymore. I understand both parties.



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Whether to write a review or not is the guy's decision...

But let's establish that upfront or after the session, and not let it be a passive/aggressive miscommunication thing.

We all have choices that we make. It is MY choice who I see and it is HER choice if she wants to see me. It is MY choice if I review and MY choice what score I give. I have never been pressured to give a review or a score and  would NEVER allow it.

Also if I spend to much on the hobby that is MY choice and MY responsibility and not hers.

...and it was actually from the provider who taught me the ropes of the hobby.  BP girl, and she was stunned that I hadn't yet walked into an LE trap or been robbed.

Anyway, she tells me about TER and how she had recently received some incredibly unfair reviews that depicted her as "high maintenance" and as possessing "the most ridiculous set of rules ever".  I promised her I would look at the site and see if I was comfortable setting up an account and writing a review for her.

We then ironically proceeded to have a session that digressed into more rules than the IRS field manual.  Didn't seem right to put her on blast in my first review after she was kind enough to, you know, effectively keep me out of jail, so I never reviewed her.

What a hottie though, gorgeous college cheerleader type.  If only there was a way more intimate way to fuck without actually touching eachother, which is what it seemed like we were doing....I swear if I had knocked her up that day through condom malfunction it would have been Immaculate Conception 2!

Not every client likes to write them, and I can totally respect that. I wouldn't want every client I see writing a review, to be honest.

I like to float it by them after our meeting, by saying "If you write reviews and would like to write one for me, that would be welcomed and appreciated. If not, I understand" and just leave it at that. Why would I want to harass someone into writing a review? That would not only ensure no repeat business, but I think it would bias the review.

And I personally prefer quality over quantity. I'd much rather have a handful of well crafterd well written reviews (regardless of the numbers given) versus a new review every other day that's nothing more than a string of abbreviations and misspelled obscenities.

The only time that I get a little irked is if someone tells me they will definitely write a review and then they don't. But I don't bug them about it or anything. That's really more of a pet peeve than anything :P

So, in that sense, I would argue that there is moral imperative to review, especially if you research reviews in making your decisions on whom to see.

On the other hand, a provider does herself no good by whining if she does not get a review; and clients don't do themselves much good whining about their whining.  It's very easy to shrug off, as shruggable things go.

On occasion, there are good reasons not to write a reveiw, but 90%+ of the time, writing reviews is the right way to go.  If you just don't want to, then don't.  There's no reason to go further with the subject.

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To be honest, I rarely mention TER at all when seeing a new lady.  I've only used my handle once to arrange an appointment, I didn't review the lady and she never asked for one-it may be because she has a ton of great reviews any way...

I probably wouldn't see any provider who was that openly hung-up on reviews...at least not for a second time.

However, I had a provider recently try to have me inflate the scores, which I wouldn't. I didn't review her for fear of repercussion. I feel it is up to the guy, as we are paying for the service. But in fairness, some of the ladies don't want the review as they may want to remain under the radar. I will respect their wishes, in that case.

We all have differing ideas on what should and shouldn't be in them or what they should and shouldn't cover or be used for.

Personally, I do not post a review about a provider I have seen if I can not give her a positive review unless something bad happens that people need to be informed about. I subscribe to the theory that is you don't have anything nice to say then don't say it. Now, this will piss some professional hobbyists off I am sure but just like the provider is not entitled to reviews I am not obligated to give them. Not by the provider OR other hobbyists.

Part of my thinking is this. I will not write a review if I can not score high on the attractiveness scale. The reason for this is that I do not believe this should be a part of the scoring process in the first place as it is an entirely subjective thing. My 6 may be another mans 9. If someone sees me give a lady a 6 and then doesn't see her because of it he may be missing out on someone that he would have found very attractive if he gave her a shot. We should indicate (as we do) if she matches her pictures and that should be it.

Another basis for my thinking is that this is a hobby for some of us (not for me but some) but it is a business for the women and a much more serious matter. A guy may blow of some steam and write a negative or even false review for spite but it affects the woman in a stronger way. Many women rely on the rush of interest that comes from the recent reviews section for their area and a needlessly negative review can put a serious damper on this.

The business aspect aside, these women are real people. I just can't imagine what it would be like as a man to see some stranger for an hour or more of forced intimacy during which I must somehow not only allow some random guy to have his way with me but manage to give a GFE experience at the same time. Sorry but as a man I can NOT imagine this. I don't know how the ladies do it. To then have that lady after giving her all see a review a day or two later that essentially is a slap in the face from that same guy is a level of rudeness that I simply can not take part in.

So to summarize this is what I am saying. I will not artificially inflate my review ranking or write anything I do not believe or feel but I also will not write a review at all if I can not write a glowing one. This is not dishonest. It is just selective. I am also not saying not to write a negative one if it is truly warranted and other men need to be warned of something. But I hate when no thought at all is given to these women's feelings or livelihoods when needlessly negative or hurtfull reviews are posted.