Do you say, "let me fucking fuck your brains out u skanky ass big eye biootch", or "let me put my hands around your neck and start choking your stupid ass"? Are these the type of dirty talk your referring to? The reason why I mention this is because, well, I would like to know myself, and what I can get away with in the future. I always want to tell a provider, "let me fuck you up the butt and shut the fuck up while I do it u triffling ass mofo". You think that is too much? You was the one that brought it up, I'm just asking for clarification and more details to make this into an informative discussion for other hobbyist and providers. Looking forward to your response, and thanks in advance for the reply of examples of dirty talk from your perspective.
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Do you say, "let me fucking fuck your brains out u skanky ass big eye biootch", or "let me put my hands around your neck and start choking your stupid ass"? Are these the type of dirty talk your referring to? The reason why I mention this is because, well, I would like to know myself, and what I can get away with in the future. I always want to tell a provider, "let me fuck you up the butt and shut the fuck up while I do it u triffling ass mofo". You think that is too much? You was the one that brought it up, I'm just asking for clarification and more details to make this into an informative discussion for other hobbyist and providers. Looking forward to your response, and thanks in advance for the reply of examples of dirty talk from your perspective.
It absolutely blew me away. I had never had that with any gal before. And she was spectacular.
But it took me quite a few sessions before I asked the lady if she was ok with it.
I would never talk dirty without asking a new provider if she was happy to go along with it. And if she was not, there would be no dirty talk from me.
As long as you dont call the lady names, or get to aggressive, it can be a nice addition to the session.
Hearing a lady say things such as "I want you to fuck me with that big cock", is a real turn on. Even if its not so big...LOL.
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i love it when they say 'fuck me like the whore i am'..i think the word succinctly applies to that one..
Each to his own and I do applaud you for asking and possibly giving some hint as to the direction you want to go in so the lady has an option of politely refusing.
If the terms used are cruel, rude, demeaning or humiliating, I would not be a participant in that at all and would ask the guy not use those types of terms. Yes I am being paid, but there are personal boundaries that are important to some. And thank you for understanding that because you lay down some money, it does not mean everything is on the table.
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I don't care to be explicit in this forum. I like to say things like s..k my c..k you f.....g s..t, or take it b....h. Again, every provider I've asked hasn't had an outward objection to it as I ensure that they understand it's a fantasy thing especially since I politely ask if it's ok prior to getting started. And then during our downtime I talk to them normally and I might add treat them tenderly. I like a few of my favorite providers emotionally (not crossing the line like, just enjoy their personalities hanging out and talking like) and I guess I'm just trying to get a feel from the ladies if they can turn it on and off, I'd even enjoy it if they could talk like that as well.
I will assure you that if any provider were to say they were uncomfortable with the talk, I simply wouldn't do it. I guess it's obvious, but I prefer a PSE encounter to a GFE during the action and then return to the GFE afterwards. Respect is too important in any relationship no matter if it's for 2 hours at a time or on a regular basis.
but you don't want to be explicit on a fuck board? What the fuck is wrong with you? You bipolar?
I didn't politely ask you and everyone else in her if I could talk like that. So, in keeping with respect I chose not to be explicit. I'm quite sure that doesn't make me bipolar, although it may make me sound a bit guarded I'll give you that. I know for sure I got my point accross because you spelled it out. I just did so in a polite way.
.......I have had a few gentlemen ask, and when have I said no, they were okay with it. I wish they had asked before our date, as I do not like to say no during a date. I prefer romance and sensuality.
Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly
And I would definitely respect that stance. I wonder though, you said you wish they would ask before the date so you could tell them no then and not have to say no during the date (I certainly can appreciate you not wanting to say no during the date as it puts a slight damper on the mood) but nearly all providers explicitly state on their sites not to discuss details prior to the date. And, I understand the legal ramifications of discussing the details so I respect that approach. So, then how does a hobbyist then ask a provider that prior to the date?
I'm just trying to get some bearing on this, I'm not trying to be confrontational.
Again, as I've stated if a lady said (or even hesitated) that she was uncomfortable with it I simply wouldn't do it.
.in fact ladies with your feel are more likely to meet up with clients than hobbyists...
Back-in-Black said it so well...the true hard core hobbyists won't like that approach and that's fine and there are plenty of hot ladies to cater to these men. Nothing good can come from two different types meeting.
There is something out there for every taste and not all men who seek companionship want hardcore, there are some who want the romance and sensuality type of providing. And there are great providers who cater to those guys.
I understand where you are coming from, I myself love to talk dirty and enjoy it mutually as long as boundaries are set. For instance, I am a Hispanic female and do not like to hear any racial slurs being made. Most clients want a experience that is not provided at home.
I can assure you the dirty talk I'm referring to is not at all racial. It's a PSE kind of dirty talk.
It doesn't bother me in the least bit. I do like it if a guy asks though. It's never nice to just hear the word B!@*h just thrown about when you don't know it's coming. I've had guys definitely share some very very interesting dirty talk that was borderline scary. Luckily they snapped out of that "persona" after the session and while they seemed pretty serious at the time, I could tell they didn't mean it.
There's dirty "sexy" and there's mean abusive crap...
Hot. I love to get nasty, talking & more. Its sweet of you to ask like that.
I also remind after i say it that i dont mean it! but like to think and say it. I get that part you are talkn about here, You may get off on talking about certain totally putragous acts and may get pretty dam turned on talking about it. BUT.................You just dont exactly wanna actually do it. I TOTALLY understand this and do the same things myself!
As a submissive I totally enjoy dirty talk, verbal humiliation, etc. as long as some discretion is used regarding the surroundings. If I'm traveling and staying in a hotel I do not want to draw the attention of someone in a neighboring room. With that disclaimer, it's all good and totally enhances the mood and the scene.
...Right before he said "don't say that" just like, totally disgusted.
LOL
Dirty talk is fun when sexual intensity is matched.
I have some clients who have never seen me anything but degrees of very GFE and I have some clients who have continually gotten incredibly hardcore performances and language out of me.
The difference is that I, like you, tend to follow the leader - I match my partner's sexual intensity.
If a client comes in like a nervous norman he's not likely to hear my mouth say things that another who comes in loaded and ready with the raunch factor would.
Dirty talk is much more fun when its organic though. If a client is passive or relatively vanilla throughout and then at the end or in an effort to have a second or third orgasm prompts "talk dirty to me" its weird trying to go 0 to 60 in seconds.
Sometimes, I think the best providers are probably those who are very intuitive and able to play any angle without asking or noticeably following a lead though.
But to answer the original question: Play time is play time. Anything goes. Anything that is said in bed is just for play and no I don't take it personally or seriously and I would hope that a client feels the same.
Very hot sex requires a degree of mental play IMO - dirty, raunchy, or "humiliating" taboo words can lend themselves to the effect. If you're crossing a line into say, ethnic or age play that is something that should be discussed or explored prior in conversation though.
As for "dirty talk," I suppose each of us has his or her own definition. SCOTUS Justice Potter Stewart's comment on pornography comes to mind. He couldn't define it, but he knew it when he saw it. [As an aside, I can't help but wonder how much of it he saw, and specifically what. He was on the court in the '60s and '70s —a period that spanned the black-and-white guys-with-garters-and-black-socks and women-in-girdles era and porn's "Golden Age."]
I'm a mostly sensuality-and-romance guy, mostly [yes, repeated for emphasis], but I love to hear well-delivered [convincing, sincere] sexy talk from women while in the midst of things, recognizing that not every woman has the gift. It either has to come from the heart or from some reservoir of talent of the kind a good [n.b., good] actor or actress has when reading a line.
I also acknowledge that while I have a pretty good ear for fabrication and falsehood, I recognize that there are those who are able to fake sincerity.
My own efforts in this department are usually not very convincing to me, by the way, other than the occasionally whispered suggestion of what I'd like to do.
Different strokes and all that. Whatever floats your boat —and here's to that proverbial rising tide that lifts all.
