Yes, I do. After all, it’s you who is posting. And, it wouldn’t surprise me if your behavior is different with a paid client. The term keyboard warrior was termed for a reason. People often behave differently when behind a keyboard. But I believe that’s still part of who they are. And, while your behavior is different with paid clients, it can easily flip if something triggers you.

There was one provider who used to post a lot here and she tended to be combative and she took a lot of flack for it.  

 
I ended up seeing her and she was sweet and certainly one of the best experiences I've had in this business. Nothing like the way she usually came across on the boards here.

I would say yes, it is a good indication of their maturity and over all personality.

 
In fact, I've contacted a few just based on their board posting.

I had brunch with a provider who is on here frequently.  In person, she is gorgeous, sweet and very personable.  I think she's just very direct and that does not always translate well on message boards.

One of the many things I do in my research is look for her posts, either on a chat board or her SM, that gives me a glimpse into personality, which is huge for me. If I see a provider consistently trafficking in drama, getting in fights with board members, other providers, often acting unprofessionally, etc etc etc then yes, I will use those data points to make a determination whether to see her or not.
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But as you are stating, I would also expect a provider to stand up for herself if she was unfairly attacked, bullied, etc. It's not too different than viewing individual reviews of providers. If a girl has consistently good reviews, I dont get too worked up over a bad review, here or there, as they are just human and might have had an off day or the possibility that the gent had too high expectations going in and/or may not have done the proper research.
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Long winded way of saying each girl is different, each case is different, but if I find someone routinely bad mouthing men or constantly getting into petty squabbles day in and day out, I will most likely rule that person out because I cant stand drama in general. But I REALLY despise it in this lifestyle as I use this demimonde to get away from life's daily stresses and thus have no desire to bathe in them.

This board is a window of who you really are.  
When this board had more ladies participating, I met a few who did engage on the boards and sure enough.how they were on the boards, kinda carried over in their escort world.

Yes. Experience has taught me that it can be a very good indicator. There were a few times I ignored a few red flags in the form of Social Media or TER posts and it did not go well.  
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That being said, there is a difference between defending yourself and being aggressive. Queen Bia gets a lot of flack on this board from people, but she tends to handle it with a lot of grace. I think it speaks volumes about her personality. If she wasn't a few thousand miles away from me I probably would have seen her. Another example is Miss Scarlet. She gets into tiffs and arguments with posters on this board. However, she never starts shit and is never too over the top. She does a good job of putting people in their place and speaking her mind while not being too aggressive or rude. I would see her too if she wasn't geographically incompatible.

When looking for a provider I look at a lot of things, including her behavior/attitude on the TER Boards and also on Twitter/X and other social media. You'd be amazed what one can learn about others by going through social media. When looking for an escort I'm looking for an escape from my daily busy life. I have no desire to see an escort who is argumentative or has an edgy persona on social media because there's a chance that persona could show up during a session.

He was responsible for some of the most active threads in recent times, replying to every comment getting more and more crazy with each reply. I hope the girl was ok.

Most of us have them.
Our main handle and our alias here;
Our personality when we are in session;
Another with a SO, family, or friends;
another at work...

 
Some of us just have better filters to keep them separate than others.

Who wants to deal with drama? I mean I left the club because I was tired of the drama. Way too much that is my client not your client type stuff. While some guys may enjoy girl drama and even start it most do not. If they wanted drama they would go home and tell their significant other they were seeing escorts.

After all, we have hundreds of examples of people acting differently on the internet than they do in real life. From ceos to athletes using burner accounts to rant and do other stuff.

However providers do post under their own accounts so they have less leeway to completely cradh out.  

 
With that said, how a provider acts is an indication of how she could potentially act, so what RH said resonates with me even though I personally wouldn't be discouraged from seeing an "edgy" provider.

If you're risk averse and think a provider "could" act like what you don't like, you probably won't see her and plenty of fish and all that.

I suspect the same goes for clients, although many of us do have the benefit of anonymity and we dont have to worry as much about irl implications of being put on bl for stuff we said on forums.

Sometimes its obvious if a person is being a dick.  However, I've spent 45 years communicating with emails, texts, and on forums.  Subtlety, sarcasm, and nuance gets lost in translation.

Unless I get locked into a huge online pissing match (which I never do any more  Then I refrain from reading too much into a flippant comment.

But, speaking of something obvious. I remember once I was communicating via email with husband and wife supplier.  The wife addressed me using a portion of my last name as if it were my first name.  Think James instead of Jameson, as example.  At the end of the exchange I said, BTW, my first name is Tom, not James.  Well, the husband lost. his. shit.  Telling me how rude I was, blah blah blah.  I replied that I meant no disrespect, but yeah, that was the end of that relationship.  Even if they would have worked for me, I was obviously done with them.

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If a poster is active here, it’s like watching him/her participating in a round table discussion on a variety of topics! You see how they react to things! Are they practical, fun, clever, funny? Am I attracted to their personality? I don’t really make session decisions from this, but I have noted a couple of providers I wouldn’t see if they were in my area. I’ve never thought, “ she sounds fun and sexy, I’m going to see her”! Over a certain amount of interactions, I think even here you can see a person’s IRL personality.

…ghost people who contact them who are rude or uncouth like guys who lead with “ hey sexy, how mucn to get in dat fat azz! lol”

Something worth separating out here, and maybe nobody's said it quite this way yet... the clients in this thread who use board presence as a screening tool aren't ruling out directness. In fact, I think they like directness. It's reactivity they are looking out for. And reactivity and directness are not the same thing.  

 
A provider who's confident and a little dry on a board, and doesn't need to perform warmth for an audience that hasn't paid is actually useful information. It should be indicative that the warmth you get in session probably isn't purchased. Which is what most of the men here actually want to know; at least that's what I can ascertain based on the conversation.  

 
The framing i'd push back on is "different versions for different people." Pretty much everyone code switches depending on context. That's not inauthenticity that's actually social survival. But there's a gap between modulating (re: code switching) and warmth being a line item, and I think that gap is what some people in this thread are sensing without quite naming it.

Anywho... just an observation from someone who tends to lurk now.

Heck yeah

What ya see is what ya get.
As real as can be and I say it like it is 24/7  
Too many fake humans on earth putting on a facade.  
Life is too short to be anything but real. And kind. We need more of that .