The guys have some info on the lady through TER as well as pics on web sites.  The lady doesn't have info on the guy 'til the door opens.  The moment of truth.   The anticipation could be exciting, could be nerve wracking.  

So on my last date, I sent a pic the evening prior to the date.  Thought it was only fair.  

When we met the next day, she commented that it was really nice to have the pic and she appreciated it.  

Question for ladies:  would you appreciate this gesture?  Do guys do it much?  If you like having the pic, why?

Question for guys:  ever send a pic?  What was the response of the ladies?  Do you see any downside?

So while a picture might be nice for some women, it is certainly not a requirement in my mind because we are paying them for their services.  If it was a freebie, then I would understand why a picture might be nice.

Sorry about being so frank, but that is my opinion.  Take it for what you paid for it!

Never done it, but don't see any problem with it.

There's a lady here in Chicago who requires it. I think she's taken some flack for it in the past from time to time. Never really understood why, but it probably pisses some guys off. Something always seems to piss us off.

This whole business is "YMMV".

So ... if you make her more at ease before the date, it might be a better date.

If the lady MAKES me send a pic, you're right, that feels a lot different than me voluntarily sending one.

-- Modified on 9/10/2004 5:26:55 PM

I prefer not to receive photos in advance.  I genuinely like the surprise element of the provider/hobbyist situation.  

I'm much more likely to be disappointed by a photo than by a real live person because when the person is actually there then there is the excitement of knowing that very soon you are going to be exploring each other sexually.

I don't want to sound too negative or make anyone feel bad who has sent me a picture in the past but I'm kind of with Carrie.  For some reason a picture usually just kind of annoys me.  Like if it hasn't been sized down and it takes a large chunk of space on my hotmail account.  It makes me wonder if the guy is arrogant and is sending me a picture because he thinks that once I see it I will just be dying to see him.  It almost feels insulting though I know that isn't the intention.  What you look like is just not what I'm interested in.  

I don't mind getting a picture if it illustrates a disability of some sort.  It's probably easier to send a picture than to explain.

But please guys, penis pictures are the worst.  No! No! No!

Personally I like Vienna Sausages but they give me gas before a session. I charge extra for that.


If I see some major K action in slot in my mailbox I won't even hit it with a stick. I don't like antibiotics, so if it looks like a potential virus I won't even wince when it hits the trash can. I am not attached, and I don't like attachments, they don't belong in my mailbox. I don't care if it is stamped par avion. Hasta.

-- Modified on 9/11/2004 11:28:57 AM

Never sent one of those.  Nor do I have one to send!  

But based on female responses, guys send them a LOT.  My guess is that the ladies don't send pics of the anatomical equivalent

Interesting responses from the ladies, but based on other conversations of this nature the majority of ladies liked receiving pictures. There are also some very practical reasons for sending a picture, in a number of cases it can avoid wasting a lot of money depending on where you live.

If a man chooses to send a picture, I will not open the file. Quite frankly, if I saw pictures of 99% of my clients, I would most likely cancel the date. I'm not physically attracted to most of my clients. I feel that most of my clients are spectacularly  nice and generous, but chemistry is mostly intellectual and sexual - not based upon physical attributes. For what it's worth, I've found that most men think of themselves WAY  more attractive than they actually are.

You look much younger in person than your pic.  

You're right.  I've had a couple of dates in which the provider was much hoter than her pic based on intellect and attitude.

Sometimes providers need to cancel an appointment.  But if a lady needs to cancel an appointment with a guy who had just sent her a photo, he might jump to the conclusion that she backed out because of his looks.  That would make him sad.

A former provider in the Chicago area... now retired... made it part of her screening process.  I felt EXTREMELY uncomfortable doing it, but I sent one based on prior reviews and recomendations from trusted hobbiests who had already seen her. It's the only time I've done, and most likely will be the last time I do it.

The only time I've ever sent a picture (the provider's contact page requested one and I used my passport photo), the provider promptly decided to move from Altanta to Los Angeles!

I have had pictures sent to me before and date. If it was someone I had been chatting to for awhile and got to like them and their personality, it was nice to have a face to attach to the name until we met. But for those appointments where we did not have that conenction, i'd rather not have a pic and be surprised. And I agree, pictures of your member, regardless of how wonderful it may be, dows not send a very good message to me of the type of person you are. I take the same opinion on board myself as well. All the pictures on my site are enough to wet the appetite, but not be lewd. I think showing all your goods ahead of time takes out the fun and the mystery of the experience. Seriosuly, what is better than the real thing anyway?? lol

xoxo

Katt

Me personally-- I need pictures of a guy that I go places out of town with, or even that I spend the night with, for my own protection. But other than that there is no need in my opinion. Its strictly business and good looks arent part of the issue with me, but they are a perk. Thats what makes us who we are in this business-- we arent the typical woman who would care about that sort of thing; were professional fun-huns, brutally honest as this is, its our job to make you think we like you (even though at times we do) whether we do or not.

I see no need for them, though I do appreciate them they arent necessary. If that were the case then guys should tell us their penis sizes before the initial meeting as well....
But maybe thats just me....

Dani

... in the interest of privacy I scanned the picture of an author of a novel and sent that.  When I arrived there was no mention of the fact that I didn't match my pic.  Doubt that they even studied the pic.  Just part of their screening process, I guess.

to have gas during a session? is that in big demand? jesus, i'm in the wrong business!

8" with nice girth. Picture given only in PM

The few times fellas have sent me decent pictures it was accompanied by the statement, "It only seems fair, I know what you look like.". They weren't trying to let me know they were attractive, or warn me off if they were unattractive, or illustrate any special physical feature. I didn't mind receiving them, but I'm glad it doesn't seem to be an everyday occurence. I would get annoyed if my mailbox was full of pictures, especially if they ended up blocking out other email because of file size issues.
I always appreciate honesty from the gentlemen if they feel they are unusually large (in any sense) or have some special physical feature that might be unusual. If a picture is the best way to get that across, I would absolutely be okay with that. I have never turned anyone away because of a special physical feature, and I never will, but it IS nice to know ahead of time, getting surprises like that is uncomfortable.
I will add to all the voices who don't like a picture of a random penis. Please, never send a picture of JUST your penis. If you must include your penis in your picture, have the rest of you in it, too.

-- Modified on 9/13/2004 12:48:00 PM

I sent a link to a pic once (rather than an actual file) as part of my "introductory" e-mail. I did it for the same reason previously mentioned: I knew what she looked like, so I thought it only fair.

Did she like it? Yes, she liked it so much that she no-showed.

So, the moral of the story is: don't send a pic/link if you look like Dr. Evil.