So I regularly browse other provider profiles, and one thing I've been noticing is that a lot of them have "wish lists" posted on their websites.  Now, I love presents just as much as the next girl.  And if a client is feeling particularly generous, I'd much rather receive something that I actually want than something a random saleslady at Bloomingdale's picked out for him.  

I have brought gifts for ladies before. And it's always nice to know what she likes or wants.

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It's by no means enough for me to pass on every provider that has one, but when a woman is charging a LOT more than my lawyer, to put up a wish list on how to give her even MORE seems a bit tacky to me.

I had to chuckle at her moxie for that one.  Aim high baby!

While I don't always "gift" a lady, especially on the first date. I find the gift list handy after I repeat. I prefer give a gift card from, say,Victoria Secret and let the lady choose what she would like.

and have considered buying a gift for a regular or my ATF, but usually I just opt out for a tip.

Posted By: THEAvaStClaire

So I regularly browse other provider profiles, and one thing I've been noticing is that a lot of them have "wish lists" posted on their websites.  Now, I love presents just as much as the next girl.  And if a client is feeling particularly generous, I'd much rather receive something that I actually want than something a random saleslady at Bloomingdale's picked out for him.  
   
 But hobbyists, do you find wish lists to be a bit of a turn off? Have any of you ever purchased a provider anything off of hers?  
   
 And providers, if you have a wish list, how often do you receive anything from it? And is it full of practical things or is it mostly extravagant items that are just wishful thinking?  
   
 Inquiring minds want to know

It's almost funny that a provider who charges $300+ an hour has a need to list every high-end "look at me" item on her wish list. It's like saying, "I wouldn't buy this shit with my money, but you're a sucker and I really, really want it ... Daddy." I can almost guess the list most of the time. Now where is the fun it that?

Sometimes they just want to have an idea of what you like because a lot of these men travel on business and like to pick Me up gifts in other cities. Also, I have clients who gift if we haven't seen one another in some time. And yes, I think it does add to the GF fantasy; I think it's cute. No complaints here.

I put them in the same category as extended warranties: it ain't for me, but if it makes you feel better to buy one, go for it.

I've seen a number of ladies who have a "wish list" on their website and I've seen a larger number without.  It's not really something I worry about.  

Some wish lists that I have seen tell a great deal about the provider.  A "session related" list (sex toys/bondage gear/lingerie etc) tells me something about you.  A non session related list (wines, perfumes, etc.) also tells me something about you.  Whether that is a good thing or a bad thing depends upon what your market is.  If you are really very girlie, very glam - that's one market.  If you are seriously sex positive/adventurous - that's another market.  Obviously, there are other markets as well.

I wished, (pretty much my only wish) to have as many women as I could possibly fuck available to me anytime I wanted.  

Instead of a list, why not just have a link to a page that says gimmie! gimmie! gimmie!

....I let my satisfaction be known by booking another session asap.

On occasion I've used them to purchase a small gift for an escort. I get a more surprised "oh my you read my website" than the reaction to the gift. If I do it on a first date, it's always a nice icebreaker.

All you have to remember only one thing.

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I have viewed some wish lists as well.  Some of them are absurd others are very practical.  I have purchased practical gifts from a wish list too and let me tell ya, from my experience, the idea of giving a random gift livens up the session exponentially!  

I have always thought it curious that a gent would buy  lady a gift on his first visit. Until he walks in the the door he has no idea if the session will be great, good, ok or damn let me out of here!

Why not? Because that isn't even close to the same thing.  

I can't speak for everyone but my wish list (really its just a 4 sentence paragraph) was created because I was often asked what kind of things I enjoy. Don't judge the Provider for having one, more than likely multiple Clients asked what was (we) preferred and rather then send 1000 emails about it, Providers have streamlined the process and put the information directly on their site.

of a couple, i enjoy buying gifts for the ladies we see, especially if i learn more about them over time, it makes ME happy that i can give them something they will like, or that they might not buy for themselves, i like the personal touch.  (hubby said i enjoy shopping more for them than i do him) LOL

I really was on the fence when I started this thread, but having read some of your responses, I think I'm inclined to find wish lists more helpful than tacky.  

Or any other lady that I pay her requested rate to spend time with.  

I'm sure they will still be sending 1000 emails even after reading your wish list.

He's going to look silly returning a gift

And no, I never have purchased anything for a provider off of her wish list but if I ever did, I wouldn't have to ask I suppose. A lot of these women get admirers who want to purchase things for them and do. Hey, it's that gent right to want to. I personally don't see things that way but I'm not going to dog another man for wanting to nor a provider for having such a list on her site. Now if one ever asked me why I didn't purchase something from her list with a negative tone (lol), well then, it would surely be met with a smile and a dash. Lol.

I never had an entire page dedicated to a wish list, but my first website did make a mention of a few of my fave wines, stores, etc. MANY guys brought me wine, which I adored. I think having an entire page set out for only that purpose with links to exact stores can be a bit off putting to some, but other men are happy to know what NOT to get at least. Personally, gift cards are the BEST gift IMO. I would never accept things like sex toys or lingerie, because I am not exactly going to be able to wear/use those things with anyone else. That's more of a gift for the client than myself, which I will happily wear or use with ONLY him, but it won't be going home with me.

....meatloaf and mashed pototoes made by yours truley. She loved it.

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We can't have a bell curve of classy guys without someone on the far left

It was shortly after my wife and I separated and I started out in this game.

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and I don't lose any sleep over it when women do post a wish list. I will ad one caveat that the more extravagant her wish list is, the tackier I find it. I honestly don't find a list of let's say, what chocolates, wines, books etc that she prefers a bit tacky. OTOH listing  items made by Gucci, Versace or BMW, yes I find that a bit tacky. lol

I realized it was darned helpful.

to refuse to treat a provider like a real girlfriend? If I had the time to cater to a providers wish list, I probably wouldn't be seeing them to begin with.

There are a few providers whom I see regularly, and I do value the relationships I have with them, and I like to show it in some other way besides Mr. Envelope.  So I do give them gifts--but almost never stuff from the Wishlist.  That seems tawdry, and kind of a "check the box" sort of thing.

....stuff that I already have, other things that match my taste but don't have yet and are "reasonably priced", and things want but can't bring myself to get it/wishful thinking items like an almost 6k pair of Christian Louboutin  ('Daffodile Strass' in blue is $5,995 to be exact lol).  
I don't find them tacky mainly because if the guy(s) wants to buy it for her then hey it's their money and more power to em'.

even if I brought a case of wine, I bet you we'd drink it all before I left. lol