Are you just as compliant in fulfilling your partner's sexual requests and fantasies as you are with your clients' (Greek, CIMNQNS, COF, etc.)?  Or what you will do for business can be tolerated while you feel you shouldn't have to do that with the one you love if you don't want to?  Feel free to respond with an alias.

Doesn't matter if it's a client or a boyfriend.  

It's totally separate, plain and simple. I love the person I'm with, I like those I spend time with

I've dated a lot of providers and many of them would do things with clients that they really didn't like, but felt like it was expected, like Greek. As an understanding BF, and since it wasn't that big a deal to me, I never asked hooker GF's to do anything they didn't want to. I just never wanted them to think of their time with me as "work"

I also remember a Thai girl I dated about a year ago, as part of an agency she did threesomes on a pretty regular basis but wasn't bi in the least, one of her friends, (who kind of liked me) asked her one day if she wanted to do a threesome with her, without a seconds hesitation my GF replied "Never with Boyfriend" oh well, that was something I really  could have gone for. lol

that I won't do with a client.  And there are things that I tolerate with clients that my SO knows I don't love, so he doesn't mind that I don't do them with him.

If you were my GF I would try tipping you for anything  I was craving you didn't put on my menu .

Well there is actually some truth to that, the only correction I would make to your post is that would not say "even" if she is a provider, but "especially" if she is a provider. One of the first rules I have found in dating a hooker is to never remind her that she's a hooker in a negative way. Asking her to do something "special" for you as her BF in exchange for money is about as bad a faux pas as a man could make when dating a provider.

The minute you treat them like a hooker at home, you should start counting the final days of your relationship

someone JUST LIKE THAT !!! She only does it when providing !!!! The S.O. guts Bupkis, Nuttin, NADA !!!! Go figure !!!! BTW she is a F'ckin animal in bed too !!! Maybe the S.O. should provide Clear Liquid more !!! ......

Last thing you want to do is to treat a girlfriend like a provider "especially" if she is a provider.  

No comment.

If so, does this mean she's a BBW?

When I've loved someone, I've wanted to make him happy...

I was ok in bed, but I was damn sure not going to let him disrespect me with any nonsense like that.  Keep in mind, this was while I was retired and this guy had NO CLUE Id ever been a provider.

Lots of nagging.

Client get full makeup, full hair, and full wardrobe. They get an excellent BJ, I let them poke around for a little while, we have some laughs, then I send them out with a hug and a kiss and go on about my day. If they're nice, we can do it again. If not, IDGAF because at least he got a nut and I got a chunk of change and we both still got to leave happy. Every time, no more thought than that. It's not an assembly line, but it is a job, and I would like to keep it.

is that the Turdwells of the world could never come to grips with having a "real" relationship with a provider, the socalled "nice" guys almost never can. They may be nice on the surface, but deep down they are so insecure that they could never understand how a woman "could do that" for  living and then go home to a loving BF or husband.

Why is it the so called assholes like me ADJ, Nicky, CPA et al can get this concept, but the manginas like Turdwell never will?

And if he tried to pay me we wouldn't be together.  And yes, he knows I am a provider.

And btw, for the Tardwells out there , this is not being a Mangina. This is a real relationship, vs the fake ones you dream of.

This is about as fucked up as it gets....no wait, I take that back,

who you are

Who are doing it behind their husbands' back.
Course not, because that would be the woman's "fault."
I'd bet without knowing the exact stats that this is the predominant subgroup, not the few BSC pimp-provider relationships.
These are also predominantly in the ps world as well.  

You need to add Tard-lerSteele to this list of manginas who don't get it either, based on her snide "no comment" re married providers.
BTW, I know several women who are married (often to former clients) and they seem to be just fine, thanks.  Funny how judgmental Tard/Turdwells who claim to be so open just can't wrap their minds around the idea.  It's all part of their cookie-cutter mentality.

In fact, had she read the first reaction to her post, no one "asked" for her "opinion."  Then she claims to speak for many others who share it.  roflmao.
Just when you think Tardler can't get worse

but it's your brains that we question, just like ole Turdy who has come onto this board trying to reshape it into what he wants it to be, you have done the very same thing with no more success than Turdy has had. At least he has the excuse of youth on his side, what's your excuse?

her post totally rocks and I love the way she looks at the issue and expresses herself.  Maybe you and I could even agree about that part?  Stranger things have happened.  But I guess we'll just have to wonder since you didn't actually comment on her post and decided to play a silly game instead.  But please remember, based on your batting average with me, you are still well below The Mendoza Line, Minnie.

And he knows the lovin' is real and sincere, and neither one of you have to fake anything.  Dig it.

Forgot that one..not sure where that one lies but its in there. Thanks for the reminder.  

Perhaps I misunderstood your original post Natasha .  
    I read your post as your BF knows you provide and asks  questions about your Johns and what you do with them behind closed doors .  

My significant others have no say in my hooking, I will never be "pimped" by one of them.

I'm glad I don't live in your world.  I like being in a loving, supportive relationship, and I deserve to be in one regardless of my career choice.  

Absolutely nothing. The post was about 'married providers' and their SO's. Most hobbyists here have SO's, I'd say a good 95% of the clientele, is that not a true statement? Now unless they are part of the 'pimpin' population here selling their wife or gf's pussy for cash, which is what we are really discussing here, then this is an irrelevant argument.  

but remember, she came here hoping to be "swept off her feet" and wanted it so badly that when it didn't happen she created her own "Prince Charming" and started singing her own virtues under the guise of being a man who adored her.

It's no wonder she is so fucked up.

I would guess a cocktail of anti-depressants and anti-psychotics. I will leave up to you married guys who's wives are hooked on this kind of shit to fill in the exact names as I try to stay away from BSC hookers and I don't have much experience in drugs, well not prescription drugs at least

Anyone else want to hazard a guess? Whatever the answer is, I guarantee you it's more than one.

all the time if I didn't have a noggin. Nice try though. Join the ship with you know who.

of the guy's who actually have a woman who sells her pussy for cash. You cannot tell me it doesn't cause ruffles at some point in time. You are lying your ass off if you say he's on board like a happy ol' chap knowing his girl's pussy is someone else's at any given time. That's fucking bullshit. You can't be serious. I will disagree as many others do about this topic til I'm blue in the face. To each his own. If you're good with it, then no need to think I'm judgmental. I'm just a woman with an opinion, nothing more. And yes, it's MY opinion. Get over it.  

You suggesting someone "step outside of yourself" and do some "Self reflection" is breathtaking. So nice to see someone giving free advice and suggesting others do what they themselves have proven incapable of doing.  That is called hypocrisy, by the way..

I just get a brief charge out of batting you around.  Kind of like a cat with a mouse.  And, of course, you wouldn't know that when you're on one of your many hiatuses, I post just as much.  Believe me, my little Ginko, it's not all about you.  In fact, it's not really about you at all.

whose SO is a provider.  Jealousy is petty and small-minded and ...  but I wouldn't want anyone else touching the woman I love.  Unless I was in the group, too, by prior discussion and agreement.  Sure wouldn't want her taking cash for it.  

to speak with an open mind and your OWN thoughts which of course is the SAME message as mine, but they won't rip you a new one. Good lordie, I mean really. I'm not THAT controversial. Jesus H Christ on a cracker.

You aren't controversial, you're just the only one who can't see how offensive and ignorant you come across.  

It's a comparison. If a woman is married and it's the most disgusting thing one can do (besides having children in an emotionally and financially stable environment) to continue hooking, then what say you about the men who do the same thing? You expect us to believe that you think "Stepping out" with the support of your partner is really worse than hiding it because you know they wouldn't be ok? You really think we believe you find a woman supporting her family absolutely abhorrent but are peachy keen with the men here taking money from their families? A masochist, maybe, but certainly not someone with a healthy view of herself and what's going on around her.

chemical drug in me bod. Sorry to disappoint. But since you talk about them all the time, you must be the pro at using them. Good luck with that. I hear they're hard to kick. Oh well, you have Nick for that. LOL. Damn. Buy a clue Gambler. Buy two while you're at it, hell I'll even lend you the cash this time.  

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I would guess a cocktail of anti-depressants and anti-psychotics. I will leave up to you married guys who's wives are hooked on this kind of shit to fill in the exact names as I try to stay away from BSC hookers and I don't have much experience in drugs, well not prescription drugs at least

Anyone else want to hazard a guess? Whatever the answer is, I guarantee you it's more than one.

don't personally believe in labels, only in what I personally believe. Period. You can call me whatever you like as well, and ask me if I give two shits about your point of view. There are eight and a half different scenarios we can argue til the cows come home but the bottomline is the bottomline minus the 'label'. Continue to argue, but I won't be here to argue with you. End of discussion I'm afraid.

your problem, not mine. I've had this discussion before. It's an opinion. The only reason you feel it's 'ignorant' or 'offensive' is because of the tone you BELIEVE it is coming off as and because you don't like my answer. Nothing more. And stop bringing up clients, again this is completely irrelevant about clients. I can only assume you apparently are having your own battles with the 'client' issue since you keep bringing it up. You're the 'claimed' feminist, not I. I will say it again...they are TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT topics on TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT planets. If you can't decipher between the two, again not my problem. Try to stay on topic if you're going to argue.

I am more likely to fulfill my husbands fantasies, even if they are outside of my comfort zone, because I love him.  I only do what I feel comfortable with clients.  Granted, my husband also knows exactly what I like/dont like, and would never ask for something out side my comfort zone unless he really really wanted it and it didnt happen very often.  Then again, I am more kinky then him, so its easy to keep him happy

2lab stated his preference in a self-deprecating, non-judgmental way.  Whereas your post on the issue reeked of judgmentalness and sarcasm.  And you will never understand the difference.  So you will continue to get flamed.  And not understand why.  No wonder we call you TardlorStoole.

A cocktail of Xanex and Zoloft or Lexapro.  But here's the problem: they don't seem to be working.

Doesn't nuke/rap threads like our TS does.  

Ask her first before you go making all these comparisons...she may not like it lol. We all have our own way..mine just rub you the wrong way but shhhhh...our Lil secret...maybe they're meant too. Duh. If I have to spell it out well what fun is that.  

In all actuality, I've never boinked a SO as much as I do now. (And gladly). Feeling that true, hot chemistry, caring about and being affectionate to someone I am close to while feeling that friendship is fun... And no I'm not marrying ever, so lucky for me and any dude I'd date, we get to feel the romantic stage and then part ways when one to the other gets lazy to no return on the physical side lol.