could go either way depending on how your head is screwed on... it definitely takes the sexual pressure off of your civvie relationships... what can be a good thing too because then you can take the civvie side nice and slow and think about what you're getting yourself into (minus the little head thinking for you when the big head should be in charge)...

Sometimes this has freaked out potential civvie GFs because none of the usual IOIs trigger the standard horny male small brain response... and a lot of these civvie chicks can't process the idea of a guy who isn't driven by sex urges...

So I figured out as time passed and I found myself more and  more in control of my life because of using the pros, just the opposite of all that guilt and finger shaking Laura Schlessinger and equally off base politically correct moralizing crap lectured by people who don't have nothing, nada, not squat in the way of real experience and yet feel qualified to explain how relationships work.... so, good for me... I was able for once to hang out with cute girls, hot women, all of that, and not get swayed off my clear thinking about what was in MY BEST INTEREST .... and a lot of times sexual temptation would have pulled me into some mucked up situation that wasn't in my best interest... and I'm thanking my lucky stars I have some pros to help me keep the playing field level...

On the other side of the coin, you're going to find yourself becoming about 500% more selective as to who you get mixed up with on a civvie level so it will appear that you're less into the civvie scene when actually you have the added selectivity that more options afford you...

I was surprised by the side effect of my hobbying in that a number of women became more comfortble with me, some of them I would come out and explain my hobby and why, and they would relax because they knew I wasn't going to dump a lot of needy lower chakra BS on them as a way to get laid...

Where I stand now, 3 out of 5 marriages are based on stupid crap anyway and a ton of pain and wasted time could have been saved all concened if they let pros do what pros do best and skipped all those ridiculous dating scene rituals. My .02

PS.... unfortunately a lot of attractive women I have been around have a way of turning extemely materialistic and naggy about being bought this, given that.... so there's a big huff about how materialistic hookers are... I say gimme' a break... they're just telling it like the really feel it cause they have no motive to disguise their motives.

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Why do you assume you'll become addicted?
Why is there an implicit assumption in your question that providers are some other species, capable of sexual prowess unattainable in the civilian world?  

I've only been in the hobby for 40 years and guess what -- providers are human beings just like civies.  Some are good in bed and others are not.  Some are sweethearts and some are bitches.  

Your question is a bit like assuming that if you eat at a 4 star restaurant, you'll never enjoy a burger again.  My answer -- try something different; broaden your horizons.  If your sexual appetite is such that you need a woman in your civilian life that, in your perception, acts like a w**re in bed, then hooray!  You've learned something about yourself.  Now, apply it, and make sure that your mate shares your views of how to act in the bedroom.  

I think guilt is a part of life.   I think everyone has some of it to some degree for different things.  If I didn't try this at all then when I'm 75 and sitting back in my chair thinking of all those hot girls I could have done that I decided not to do when I was younger, I don't think I'd like that too much.  That is another type of guilt, the guilt of what could have been.  Befriending girls and then using them for sex and then breaking up with them leads to another type of guilt.  Guys do this type of thing all the time without thinking.  One thing is for sure you will have more control over your life and you won't be influenced by civie women that much.  That freedom is a great feeling.  I think some women might even find you more attractive when you don't need to bother with them.  However, maybe you should listen to the guys above, my mind may not be that objective at this time, LOL.

From one happy dabbler....

...I "dabble" in the hobby about once a month (sometimes less, sometimes more).  If I were made of money, then I would probably be addicted to it.  But since my money and my time are limited, it's not been that hard for me.  I have to say, that the hobby has definitely helped my marriage as a whole and my marrital sexlife in particular.  Some of the things I get from the hobby, I don't get at home. And vice versa, so it's made for better balance.

and be very honest with yourself:

"Am I a one woman man?"

If truly yes, then forget this hobby and go with the gal.

If not sure, do yourself (and her) a favor and dabble all you like until you know for sure.

One thing for certain, don't mislead her or yourself.

nowwhere but down.


All kidding aside, you could use some sex with your faulty line of reason.

xo Lisa Butler