Whats the Nicest Gift you ever gave a Provider, or received if a Provider..???
Do you think Gifts are Expected? Appreciated? Stupid?

I myself appreciate any Gift

It's the thought that counts..



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I gave mine a gold,heart-shaped pendant for her birthday,she gave me a designer watch for mine.I think everyone likes and appreciates gifts,however I really need to know and care about a lady thouroughly before I'll start buying gifts for them.As of right now,my ATF is the only one I've bought gifts for and plan to buy gifts for.However,if another situation,like the one I'm in already occurs,I'm sure that I'll do the same for that lady too,but I'm not holding my breath for that to happen again.I've got a really sweet situation going with my ATF and to expect what I have already to happen again is highly unlikely.

Actually a swing set for her kids.... true story.
My 2 cents, give her cash, she'll appreciate it all the same.

A 16 inch Pearl necklace.  No, not that one, that was later.

A nice gown or an outfit for example.  But it is tricky.  You have to know her tastes and trust your own, so definately not for the first date.

Shoe are the trickiest.

Take them on a shopping spree.  That is always appreciated.

I've given all sorts of gifts for my ATF. The one that got her to say "Love you honey" was the four times her regular hourly rate that I gave her. They love money as gift more than anything else.

A gift certificate, issued by Uncle Sam, that is accepted anywhere dollars are accepted. Not romantic but functional.

I myself appreciate any gift and if the gift is money I appreciate it even more. Do you think these providers would rather have a $20 box of  chocolates or a tip of $20. I never understood why clients give their providers gifts instead of tips. The transaction between a client and a provider is a mainly a business transaction. You pay the provider a large sum of money and yet you have the need leave a gift. In the business world does not the supplier(provider) try to keep customers(clients) by offering discounts, specials, coupons, incentives, and gifts to retain the customer loyalty and repeat business and not the other way around. For example you do not give you car dealer a gift for purchasing a car from them. Or is this business service oriented so you should tip instead. Do you give your waiter, barber, manicurist, doctor, or postman a gift or a tip every time you see them?!?!? Usually a tip, right. I think some men on TER, just are to ignorant and naive to realize that this industry revolves completly around money and they think some how giving trivial gifts will make them think the provider will treat them better, I guess. And gifts in cash are received more favorably than gifts in any other form. Tell me would you rather have a $100 of wine someone picked out for you or would you rather have $100 to spend on what you choose. A gift is appreciated, but a tip is appreciated more. Anything expensive that the provider likes is a good gift.

-- Modified on 5/22/2006 12:54:00 AM

We are in a play of sorts, with audience participation.  To that end, giving gifts like clothing, jewelry, etc. perpetuates the illusion, if you will, and heightens the pleasure for both.

the donation is more than enough thanks.

However, when the gentleman takes the time to place the donation in a card he's chosen himself or brings a single perfect rose that takes our time together a bit beyond business. For me, the encounter becomes more intimate and personal. While this is always a no strings arrangement it's nice to know that you think our time together is special and unique. Especially with your busy schedules. Those of you who know me know that's not marketing bull. It's not just about the almighty dollar for me and never has been .

The hair stylist, the car dealer, the waitress in your favorite bistro cannot make your toes curl, your whole body explode with ecstsy and transport you to another dimension.

That "gift" is a measure of respect.

Smiles and Kisses,
Anneke

...You spend your entire post bashing the idea of giving gifts other than money (tips), then you state at the end, "Anything expensive that the provider likes is a good gift."  WTF!!  Can't you make up your own mind?!?  It might help you to go to the "newbie board" and find the thread started by Moethebully about a week ago on this very subject (I believe it's still on the first page).

When my hair dresser washes my hair, massaging my scalp under warm water, my toes curl.  I tip him very well, have always been happy to pay his constantly increasing rates, have sent countless ladies his way, drive four hours each way to see him and have only cheated on him once in eight years.  



Kate

Well put, Anneke & Kate EOM

-- Modified on 5/22/2006 1:47:53 PM

...but I'd have never seen him if your subject line hadn't alerted me that there was a pic of your dog.  Y'all make a cute pair, er I mean couple...oh whatever.  LOL

The nicest gifts, give or received, are those picked out specifically for the person. I always try to learn enough about a lady to pick out something tailored for her.  That is the one place a tip falls short.  It could be jewelry that matches her favorite dress, or something she collects, or a book she can read with her kids.  The most appriciated gift I ever gave was inviting a lady over and cooking her favorite meal for her.

...and the t-shirts got a lukewarm response, so right now I'm thinking about going to back to a bottle of wine and/or a box of chocolates.

...Godiva chocolates.  Do any of you ladies object?
Hey Kelly, why haven't I seen you?  We're in the same area and I love attractive, well-endowed women.  Let me know if you provide in-call in the South or East Bay.

I answered the question in my opinion!!!
"Do you think Gifts are Expected? Appreciated? Stupid?" So what is your problem. I can and do make up own mind. I stated my own opinion. Thanks "WTF" and "FO" to you too jjackflash!!!

Not all girls love chocolate!  Personally, I can't stand most chocolates and since most people who know me know this fact, I find a gift of chocolate from them rather thoughtless.

From someone who doesn't know this about me, well, I graciously accept the chocolates and pass them on to a friend who will certainly enjoy them more.  That, or I trash them (yes, it's true, I dislike chocolate that much, most of the time).

The most appreciated gift is one that is attuned to the receiver's personality and likes. I adore thoughtful gifts and cards.  I've even kept a handmade money holder that one client enclosed in his very thoughtful greeting card.  It is too precious to throw away!

...The problem w/ your first post was that you stated TOO many opinions and it seemed that you contradicted yourself at the end.  It was also a difficult read due to your numerous spelling and grammatical errors.  However, you did a much better job this time.  One thing you missed though, was that I never told you to "FO" (..."'FO' to you too...").  Details are important, you know.

I love chocolate..And Godiva Yummy..
I am in the East Bay and South Bay every week. Just call me any monday to find out where I am going..
P.S Are you going to bring Godiva???  

-- Modified on 5/23/2006 3:41:18 PM

...am I limited to how many opinions I can have on this board? You also have numerous spelling and grammatical errors in your posts, so stop being a hypocrite! Are you the TER language police? Don't you have something better to do then critique other peoples posts. Please get a life and try NOT to take every post so seriously and personally. It will help you get laid for free if you were not such an anal loser!

-- Modified on 5/24/2006 1:19:19 AM

...you know not what you speak!   LOL