fortunately, most of them are not only OK with me seeing other gals, but encourage it as they want me to be happy and consider them a friend rather than a competitor with the other gals for my affections.

I can understand how a person can have baggage associated with normal dating habits, but such baggage is an impediment to enjoying this hobby.

Once in a while I've had a provider or two stop seeing me because they got jealous.  It's kind of sad in a way, but that's life.

I hope you can get beyond this so as not to mess up your enjoyment.

Hey!
  This is my first post on the boards. I have something odd to talk about. I was in to seeing ladies for the purpose of fun but then I met 2 fabulous women that are now my ATFs that I only see. Sadly my luck they had to leave for a while for personal reasons living me to venture off and meet new women. Since I have been seeing only these 2 ladies for a long while. I now somewhat have a sense of a guilt seeing new providers. Its sort of some weird form of affair. Any hobbyist can relate to this dilemma?

I would think that the reality of finding some new pussy is the real issue.  Especially finding some that you find as attractive, fun, or whatever other idea of P4P you were experiencing with the other gals.

He knows where of he speaks.  
I see only a few and they are friends and encourage each other and me. It's sort of one happy sexual family. At my age, I'm satisfied with a small group of lovely ladies. We sometimes have threesomes. Now  that is intense!

Pregnancy sometimes explains the leaving of the business for "personal reasons."

The whole point of this P4P hobby is to have relationships without drama or expectations. Pay your money, get your world rocked and take your ass home. You can have these dilemmas, guilt and all in civilian life. Get over these ATFs and find others without the baggage. Do it now!

you've got commendable loyalty traits as well as compassion by considering your ATFs as more than sexual playthings.

For several years, I spent most of my time and money playing with one particular lady. A recent change  in living arrangements have made it difficult to host so I've played around outside of that "relationship".  

I discovered, that having an ATF and continuing to see other ladies is the best of both worlds. It stops me from seeing someone that doesn't excite me to the point of drooling. (excluding erotic bucket list stuff) because if I'm not "dieing" to see a lady, I don't need to, I can see my ATF  which has always been a fantastic experience. Seeing other ladies keeps it from getting stale with my ATF and keeps those pesky feelings from cropping up.  

I understand where you're coming from because I've done the atf monogamy thing before. You have to ask yourself several questions. First, were your atfs 100% monogamous with you? The answer to that is obvious, so my next question is, did your atfs feel guilt over you when they were with other gentlemen? The answer to that is pretty obvious too. Here's another question. Do you think, when you and your atfs weren't together, they thought of you as much as you thought of them? These are tough question with easy answers.  

It's a business transaction. If you see another business that offers a product you like for a similar price would you not want to check out their service a quality of product?  And if your original company wanted your business back it's on them to offer more services or a lower cost to keep your business.

No strings attached. As others have said your ATFs see others, so nothing should keep you from seeing others. A plot of guys like the ATF scenario cause they're to lazy to look for new escorts   Are you in that group?

I think a better way of thinking about it is that you are a regular customer of a restaurant    As long as the service and food is good, you kept coming back.  You might even have kept coming back just because it's comfortable - the waitress knew your name and knew what you were going to have.  

That what you mean!

Let me try and help you understand it from my perspective.  She became our ATF because of the natural chemistry.  I saw one lady for several months on a regular and repeated basis.  We hit if off from the moment we met.   It was fun, it was exciting and we both feed off each other's energy.  She even once asked me how I was still single.  We really enjoyed each other's company.  

Thank you all! for getting back to me!
 I am more of in the boat of what 'WildJimmy!' says. Since the two ladies i was seeing in rotation were fantastic I have become much more reluctant in looking for new women. Though once in a while, when a new lady shows up with stellar reviews and I will jump on the opportunity to see her. And pray & hope that her service will be as good as the two ladies I have been seeing. If it is or better I feel somewhat naughty. So If its a great date it worth it! if its horrid, meh or just ok I just feel like killing my ass since i could have spent it on my ATFs and had a fantastic time.  

Chemicals are organic.  In time they break down and when they do, the attraction ebbs.

True love is a commitment based upon each person's values and life circumstances.  You build that kind of love.  It doesn't just happen as does the attraction you are discussing.

So, like everyone says, just go with it and enjoy it, don't let it bring you down.

It's just simple regret.  Like going to your favorite restaurant and deviating from your usual order of steak by ordering chicken instead.  After you try the chicken, you might regret that you didn't get the steak.  Guilt has nothing to do with this.  Only if you felt like you were doing your ATFs harm and feeling bad about THAT was your primary concern would guilt factor in ("Gee, I agreed to see her every week, and now I am not, I hope she can pay her mortgage this month").  But if it's merely, "Damn, I wish I had seen Suzy instead of Nina, we click so well and always have such a great time together" then that isn't guilt.

Dear Melissa:
I was just wondering when did you know that you needed to have the ability to compartmentalize? I know this would be a big thing with some women who have a preference to certain hobbyist.  Also I know it is critical for the preservation and survival of a provider if she is to be emotionally and mentally stable during her time as a provider.  This is a critical skill for coping especially when one becomes fond of a client.

one of my 2 ATFs just broke the news to me that we are not in an exclusive relationship - I was devastated!  She and the other one are pals with each other and me.

I also do exactly feel that way! I do know they see other gentlemen. But sometimes i do worry that if i do not see them for the usual hours i see them monthly they will not make it or have to hustle harder to make ends means. Since i am one of their regulars that sees them each for at least 2 times a month for several hours

No its far from that sir. I do promise you that almost everyone in the world will be pissed of if they received bad service or purchase for what they paid for. Be food, buying a car, plane flights to a date with a provider especially if they would have gotten a much better experience elsewhere for the same price.

Excellent advice mrfisher.  

I've never been even remotely angry about bad service from a provider. Maybe I've been luck that I didn't have any terrible experiences but even if I stupidly ended up with a total rip off, I would be angry about it. I'd chuckle to myself, say to myself something like that sucked and look for someone else to see. So many excellent experience and my life isn't terrible why get bent out of shape about a few hundred dollars? If the money was that critical I wouldn't be spending it on pussy.

Otherwise you are being exclusive while she is having sex with others.  This is contrary to the normal mating ritual but it is the truth of his hobby.  If you can not handle it...  and nothing wrong if you can't...  but you should not be in this game we love so much.

every time they fucked somebody that wasn't you?

your regular barber has a customer. Do you wait or go with another who's ready to take you so you can get done and on your way? I understand what you're saying, but I truly doubt they care or the level of service you receive going forward will suffer. In fact, I frequently share "war stories" with my ATFs. It's always interesting to get the ladies' view on whatever it happens to be.